TTC -wow!What your mind does to ur body!

OK... So I am a newbie here and VERY new to the whole trying-for-a-baby process!
My husband and I have been thinking about babies for a while now and even tried a couple of months last year, but thank God nothing happend, as the year itself was very tough financially and emotionally.
So here we are now - 2010 will be our baby-making year and January was the first month we started properly trying!
At first - I was very relaxed about starting this interesting, but in some ways a challenging process, however after love-making on my actual ovulation day, I started thinking about being pregnant.. I started feeling lower tummy aches, my nipples became sore, I noticed how much more tired I was, etc...
Then I read all these different "trying for a baby" forums with women saying about a "phanton pregnancy disorder" that most of them had, due to wanting a baby so much and hoping they were pregnant! OMG....
I then thought about it myself, calmed down about the whole thing... and all the tummy cramping and other symptoms went away! What a joke!?
And its only been the 1st month of trying! haha I can only imagine what happens to people who try for years!

So.. did this happen to you too? If so - how did you manage the whole "Am I pregnant yet?" feeling?

And also - some of the friends who had children say that "they felt when they got pregnant straight away"... Is this possible??

Hell yes! We were trying for a baby a couple of years ago and then went off the idea (until now that is). As soon as I came off the pill and started trying I thought I was pregnant constantly! I thought my boobs were bigger, nipples different, more tired, felt nauseous, had more CM and all of those things. It's quite embarrassing now that I look back!

This is our first month back TTCing and I am way more relaxed and just happy to go with the flow. Obsessing about every twinge isn't going to help. I am enjoying life right now and I'm in no hurry, there are plenty of other things to keep me occupied.

yup, its a rollercoaster of interesting times

You may laugh, but I've spent far too long today looking to see if you can have a period and STILL be pregnant. I know, it sounds so obvious, but rational thinking vs what the heart wants are good bedfellows!

good luck with your ttc anyway. You charting?

As long as you have a regular cycle charting isn't necessary. If you BD every second day of your cycle from around day 10 and watch your cervical fluid that is all you need. However if your cycle is all over the place it is probably a good idea, I just think that sort of thing would make you focus on it too much.

LittleT wrote: All I do is record dates of my periods and then count 14 days from the 1st day of a period and thats my Ovulation day!

Not sure if thats what you mean, but your ovulation day usually occurs 14 days BEFORE your next AF, rather than 14 days AFTER your previous AF, if that makes sense? Its the same day if your cycle is 28 days long, but otherwise it may be earlier or later.

Good luck TTC

Yes but if you bd every second day of your cycle you don't have to worry about timing! I think it is important to keep it relaxed when starting out on this process. I can understand how you would want to get more indepth if your cycles are inconsistent or you have been trying for a while, but I think the natural approach is best to begin with otherwise it becomes too clinical (just my opinion).

Oh wow, I thought the ovulation occurs 14 days after a period, not before the next one... Goodness..
But yeah, we try every 2nd day, so hopefully it should be fine.

Yes, Id like to start the process in a relaxing way and if nothing happens a couple of months down the track, I will be sure to do the charting & other things.

Thanks girls for your advice! I feel so NEW at all this! haha

Definitely not crazy! Or Obsessive! I think for so long when we are younger, its sort of a given that you can get pregnant whenever you want and no one tends to think about the possibility that it can be a lot harder for many people and sometimes not possible at all. For me, its only been when my DF and I have started to think about it and when we want to start TTC that all the other thoughts come along too and you wonder if its going to happen as it should. Its very comforting to know others think/feel the same! But in many ways, I am happier to be "realistic" about things, and know that it may not happen straight away, or for some time than go into it expecting PG to happen immediately!