Did anyone choose a c-section?

I had 2 VB before my c section - i would take a VB any day. i have my reasons but more to do with Bonding with Rhyley, after I had him they showed me him but I couldn't move and could cuddle him till half hour after having him - when I felt like Sh#t. Its also the recovery I couldn;t see to him all night and had to get the midwife to come every time he cried (and I reckon he must of cried that whole night)

But even though I hated my c section exerperience if I needed another one for a medical reason I would. And in the end it was the best and safest way for Rhyley to join our world and so I am grateful for that.

As mentioned DS1 was elective c-sectino due to being breech and I was offered an ERCS when preggie with DS2 (and fair tried to be forced into one with DD) when there were no complications during pregnancy, different OB's have very different opinions.

What I meant by no "actual" medical reason is that she isn't in the situation where medically a c-section would be better. Don't get me wrong I think for her it is definitely the right thing to have a c-section as I can see how scared she is about the thought of labour & I TOTALLY support her.

And I also agree that it is up to a woman to choose what she wants to do... If it wasn't for that right I probably would never have had the VBA2Cs as so many OBs don't think it is possible.

Two Blondinis wrote: toniellis wrote: Actually thinking about it more, a good friend of mine is having a c-section on the 31st and there is no "actual" medical reason this time around other than a very scary emergency c-section last time around where she was rushed in an ambulance & knocked out with a general so they could save her son, that was 12 years ago.. She is paying $4k for her specialist & the c-section combined so it's not tooo bad I guess... A lot cheaper than $13K and for her it is a good choice I think as she is so terrified of losing the baby if she goes into labour that she stresses out just from braxton hicks No "actual" medical reason?!?!? ummm have to strongly disagree with you there. I had a pretty scary lead up to my emerg C/S (nothing compared to your friend though!) and until recently vowed that I'd never put myself or another baby through that again and would have an elective. I'm now a fence sitter and reading up on VBACs As for an elective C/S through choice, each to their own I say! Just how it is ok to choose to have a water birth, or to birth standing up - it's a woman's right to choose.

It's interesting seeing different opinions on this.

As Peanut says - I am not considering have a non-medical c-section, just interested in what reasons people may have for doing so. I know it's becoming a more and more popular option in the UK, and I know that's because a lot of people think it's the 'easy way out'
But I also know someone whose had one, complete with a nightmare recovery.

I suppose like most women, I'm pretty nervous about the birth. I'm terrified of being torn (also have a friend who had 4th degree tears and OMG - do not want that) and I'm even more scared of an episiotomy.
I suppose the sooner I book in with an LMC, the sooner I can get help to deal with these issues.

I was really scared of doing poos whilst pushing the baby out, lol. It was such a big fear that I lost many hours of sleep over it. I spoke to my MW about it and she said that she'd estimate 50% of her ladies do do this whilst birthing...ew!! But it kinda made me feel a bit better that if it did happen then I'm not part of some tiny %. What I'm trying to say is definately talk through any of your fears with your LMC, they can really set you at ease.

Apparently women these days shouldn't get bad tears unless they push too early (they've learnt alot more about the timing of stage 2). DH's cousin was soo petrified of tearing 2nd time round that her MW said bubs was well ready to come out but she felt the her own mind was stopping labour beginning??

kebakat wrote: I was scared of an episiotomy but it really wasnt that bad. By the time it came around I just wanted Daniel out. I didn't feel a thing except getting the local and it healed fine.

I am TERRIFIED of that!!!I watched a video of one being done and it freaked me out totally. Interesting to hear that you dont feel it though. If I was to have a vbac that would be my worst fear and also that im not too stretchy down there, like sex hurts so pushing a baby out is bound to be bad
In saying that the weeks of recovery from a c esct was pretty bad and most nights I sat up crying because I was in so much pain.
I don't think I would have one just for the sake of it even with my birthing fears, I felt like I missed out on heaps of stuff, I never got to dress her or put the first nappy and and stuff I didn't even get to pick her up until day 3 I honestly don't know how the stars do it!

I have an absolute fear of an epi. To the point that I was in a huge panic when we were talking about it even before I was in labour. I talked it over with my OB and he said if I needed a c section then I would go under a general. No medical reason for it other than my panic attack (which in a way can be classed as a medical complication).

Once you get your LMC and you talk to them about your fear then you should feel a little more relaxed and your LMC should be able to help you through it all too.

NeoshasMummy wrote: I am TERRIFIED of that!!!I watched a video of one being done and it freaked me out totally. Interesting to hear that you dont feel it though. If I was to have a vbac that would be my worst fear and also that im not too stretchy down there, like sex hurts so pushing a baby out is bound to be bad

Snap - on all the points you said here!! Sex can hurt, as does removing tampons!
When I saw a video with an episiotomy being done, I went pale, almost transparent, had to leave the room and hug the toilet for 10 mins before lying down for half an hour. I still haven't watched the whole thing and very much doubt I will.
Even talking with my friend about her 4th degree tears - I get physically sick and feel incredibly faint - hence why we've only actually talked about it properly once!!

I've no idea what a bicornuate uterus is....I'm off to google it.

Ah....ok, a bit wiser now. Bombshell - did you always know, or was it something you found out after you became pregnant?   Has it caused you any other problems?
Tell me to sod off if I'm being nosey - I'm just interested. I love learning about new stuff.



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an emergancy section is alot different to an elective... After Josh's very longgggggggggggg birth I just yelled cut me open.... I would of been glad to have that ceasar LOL.... I ripped from one hole to another and walked like John wayne for the first few days and boy was i sh#tting myself (literally) when it came to do wees and poos.