Elective being a cop out!!??

cuppatea....it's part of what puts me off trying for VBAC cause if i need induction i don't want the horrible new way!:)

angel- in many cases it's just what happens..it's so fast you don't have time to think about it and in my case there was no time for being knocked out but i was also lucky i already had epi. ...personally i think being knocked out would be worse because you miss the birth...?

The good thing with the new method is that if it works (I was told it has a 50% success rate) then things progress naturally and you don't get the issues of intense labour that you get with the gel which is the reason they don't like to use the gel.
I forgot at my appointment to ask what happens if you are in the 50% that it doesn't work for, not sure if that means that you go straight to c/s or if they would do the gel or whether they can do the drip without the gel. I have no idea. My plan if I went over due was to try the new method and if that didn't work to have a c/s.

lol Bobbie, if you're wierd then so was I! I had a large chance of ending with another c-section if I tried for a VBAC so decided I would prefer an elective, no way did I want to risk going through my horrible emergency one ever again!... Luckily the OB agreed lol

Everyone always has an opinion don't they? I must admit, I do think that people who have a c-section unnecessarily are copping out but I hate that people assume that that is what you are doing. It is that assumption that REALLY brasses me off. I mean as others have said, who in thier right mind who chose to have a c-section?

I'm going to be campaigning for a VBAC this time and it's already been indicated to me that I would have to go into labour naturally, can't be induced and can't have syntocin.(sp?)

I guess I'm one of those awful people that is fueling the fires that c-sections are the easy option but I try to add that my experience isn't the norm. I've learnt from this site that most hate their c-section experiences.

lisa- i know what you mean...i would much much preferred to be in control and not go through that labour and awful emergency! the whole thing was blah! :) and IMHO missing out on labour would have been great..!

I *think* i will be going for elective c but we will see I guess..

lilfatty is that for most people? (the bladder thing?) or different for everyone?

I know I was told that if I had a twin pregnancy again I would HAVE to have a C/S. However if I had a singleton pregnancy I could try for VBAC.

Aoife was the second baby and IUGR. The reason the OB suggested a C/S was because he didn't know how she would cope with 2 labours and chances were Aoife would come out by Emergency C/S anyway.

Like Lisa, I had a positive experience with my C/S. I had a healthy pregnancy and a speedy recovery.
(But that I put down more to my Mothers 'workhorse' genes than anything else. Anyone who can milk cows up to 36weeks in a twin pregnancy deserves a medal in my book.)

ETA: I also hate the term 'elective'. I had a C/S based on medical advice. Elective to me suggests that I was 'too posh to push'.

Edited by tishy

Too posh to push......hahaha i like that.........we should campaign for it to be called a medical csection instead of elective.

My first was emergency after 18 hours of labour and being induced through a drip. I too had an epi csection. I wasnt in a huge amount of pain and recovered very quickly, which i put down to being young (19).
My second I was 28 and i was going to try for VBAC as it was a different Dad and i wanted to do it naturally for him, but after 5 days over due and no sign of even a softened cervix the pain in the pelvis ws getting too much so after making a painful decision i folded and went elective.....but was 11 days over by the time they booked me in.......and then his head was so wedged in pelvis they needed forceps to get him out with a csection, and this same thing happened with my first.........so tall and short of it all, is i have a narrow pelvis and big headed children, so even if i had made it to VBAC i wouldve ended up having quite a full on ordeal and prob a Csection anyway.........but my second was a painful and long recovery and I ended up with an infection which took 3 different types of antibiotics to get rid of and wasnt pretty........

This pregnancy has been such a breeze for me so far that I am feeling very positive about having an elective this time, not gonna beat myself up about it all again, and this time after two babies delivered 11 days over due im getting one early finally!!!!!!   and im staying fit by swimming and doing preg yoga in the hope of a faster recovery.......oh and Im determined not to stay in hosp, and want to come up to maternity rooms, so will need to make myself get out of bed for that....so gonna push myself for sure!!! I hated hosp so bad that i managed to get out of hosp day 3 with my second or i was gonna punch someone......hated it so much!!!! and i hated having to press my buzzer every time i wanted my baby out of the crip or put back in........rather be at home where my DH can do all that

So thats my two csection experiences

ETA - I actually liked the fact my first i had labour and my waters started going cos i feel like i can at least join in a few more conversations about childbirth.......so i dont feel completely left out.........and at the end of the day, as long as the baby is delivered the safest way and its healthy then it shouldnt matter whether we did csection or sucked back a million drugs to get through the labour!!!

Edited by Chickielou

K.A, like the others have said, they wont induce because of the stress on the scar, syntocin can cause very strong contractions and fast labours and you want to avoid that with a VBAC, you want things to happen as natural as possible.

My elecetive is booked for 31st August, later than I wanted originally, but Friday was booked up, Thursday is no good for us and I didnt want to do it bang on 41 weeks. So now Im going to be a few days off 42 weeks, if I make it that long, Im hoping I will go into labour any day now...

My main reasons for wanting try and avoid a C Section is that it will be hard for me to look after Caden as he is still very dependant on me.