Elective being a cop out!!??

i must say i never got told what could happen i got told about the epi risks...but nothing about the c-section ones..though i figured as much and am certainly proof even though they say my issues cant possibly be because of c section how come they all started right after!:)

but having said all that to avoid my child potentially dying like was the risk last time i think elective will be the go!

I still have issues with pins & needles & it has been 3.5 years since my 2nd c-section.

Honestly ladies, I don't think c-section is a cop out & yes normal birth isn't always butterflies & party balloons LOL. But it can be great! I'm proof of that. I did a LOT of research after my c-sections and it was AMAZING the stuff that I learnt & the risks that my OB didn't mention (or I missed because of the scariness of it all) with c-sections.
I really wish the information was more readily available & that some real NZ studies were conducted on VBAC and that the risks of c-section vs vbac were better understood. I was even quite disappointed when the first OhBaby magazine came out & there was a question regarding VBAC answered by a so call "expert" and yet it was full of answers which went like "I believe...", "I would imagine..." & "I am unsure...". He only put in his own opinion where he lacked knowledge instead of doing any kind of quick study to find some real MEDICAL facts (like what I have found in medical studies). I was really disappointed with OhBaby in the regard but I guess it can't please everyone.

Here I am preggy with an unexpected baby #4 & I guess I will be planning another homebirth

Today someone was asking when i was due and i said 21st dec but will be having this one early due to csection..........and they said "oh you never know you might not have to have one" they have absolutely no idea why i am having one to start with so i can only assume they immediately thought i was gonna just cop out.............so then i felt like i had to justify myself by saying "yes I will have to have one and no it wont come naturally, not without putting my life and babies life at risk"   

Milo1 i have a similar prob with my pelvis and docs have had to use forceps to get both my boys out even with having csections, so if i was to even try natural it would be a very traumatic experience followed by a more than likely csection anyway.

i guess for me too it's hard when mw says they prefer to try for natural birth but ' you have higher chance of rupturing your c-section scar' and other gems like that... so not just babies health to consider..mine too!

I was so naive..natural birth scared the hell out of me but i hadn't really thought about c-section being an option or that it would be so hard(in my case) to recover from)

I was at a family thing the other night and my SIL found out I was having a C and said 'why? because you can?' - I'm still annoyed about it. Yeah I'm doing it simply because I can why on earth would I bother to give it any thought?

It really annoyed me that a) she was asking (no one asks why you have a vaginal birth) and that b) she just assumed I saw it as an easy way out.

lillis....honestly, get him to give you stats and figures...as i say, they can turn out to be lower than you think! Honestly I hate when "specialists" give thier recommendations/warnings and then don't back them up.

I'm so amazed because at my OB consult the doc really pushed VBAC, she explained the risks of a VBAC but also the risks of having another c/s. She also said that there has never been a rupture at chch womens (which made me think maybe they were due one) She did however scare the crap out of my DH, i however already knew all the risks and wasn't bothered (well i was but you get what I mean).

Labour is not that bad, and on the plus side you honestly don't care what they are sticking in your back or what they want to stick up your jacksy to get the baby out. When the guy was explaining that there is a potential risk to those all sensation in your legs permanently and end up in a wheel chair I thought that sounded great, and when they offered to use the vontouse after I had been pushing for two hours I couldn't have cared less, I would have been quite happy if they had wanted to use a crow bar to get him out.

Lillis, back then you didn't know what could happen whereas now you do? Thats my thoughts anyway....

I remember when I was due with Erika, the OB was fine for me to have a VBA2Cs until right at the end.
As I understand it a woman at Middlemore had had a rupture during a c-section & was very touch and go. Suddenly my OB was not so supportive!
Even less supportive when I mentioned that I didn't want to have Bubs in a hospital.... LOL

Hey girls.

Anyone else out there in a similar situation to me?

I had an "emergency" (although no real rush) C section, mainly because of a long labour due to baby not sitting on my cervix and things going stop-start. I had syntocin and epidural and got to 9cm, then a C section as baby was getting stressed and still wasn't in the right position.

I'm all keen for a VBAC this time, but even though I laboured for a while last time its all a bit scary!

How did you find the process of having a VBAC? I kinda feel like this giving birth thing is all completely new and don't really know what to expect... Was your second labour faster? Did you labour but still end up having to have a C section?

Any experiences you want to share would be great!
Thanks.

My VBAC labour was shorter, the contraction pain while the same was also different, IYKWIM!! End result was a forceps delivery after 11 hrs, and about 12 stitches. Home the next day, basically everything was easier after the vbac compared to the cs.