Things we should have been told!

oh, i wasnt told that on day 4 they stop the slow release morphine i had been on... wasnt till i was half way round the ward on a walk that i realised why i hurt so much...(cant remember if i mentioned that already). apparently they cant give it to you more than 6 times... whats it called - um....... oh sevradol.

that was a kicker...a bit of fore warning might have been nice.

slow release stuff? i just had the pump then it got taken off me when it made me sick.. they say those drugs dont get to bub..dunno bout that..:( that pamphlet Susie sent me was great..should be given to everyone!:)

#3 Having a CS does NOT mean you will have problems bonding with your baby anymore/anyless than a VB

I actually did have trouble Bonding with Rhyley (my ceasar baby) it took till the next day to truely bond with him.

so mine would be ..

Its okay if you don't bond with your baby straight away doesn't mean your a bad mother just means you been thru major surgery .

only the lucky people get morphine pumps some like me get one lot and then it panadol and codine which can work fine
oh and coming offffff morphine is bloody icthy

To have some Tea Tree oil around as it helps if your scar starts to get a little infected.

I think peppermint tea can help with digestion and hence wind, it really does hurt when you need to fart!

I found it hard in the first few days to get up and down off the hospital loo, it must have been quite low, use the disabled toilet if you can as it has rails.

Definately recommend arnica tablets to help with the internal healing.

I was given pain killers rather than morphine and they were fine, also the catheter removal didnt hurt for me.

Get up and about as soon as you can and into the shower, you really will feel good afterwards and more prepared to tackle being a new mum.

Dont forget its still possible to do skin to skin with your baby immediately after he/she is out of you, I forgot in all the rush and didnt get this, really wish I had remembered but I think because of the meconium they had to check him out first anyway but Hayden was all cleaned up and dressed when I first held him (they lifted him up for me to see before they took him away to be cleaned and checked etc)

The anesthetics can make you vomit on the operating table, not great when you are emotionally all over the place anyway and trying to bond with your new baby but they can give you an anti nausea drug which may take a few mins but will stop you being sick.

Take your own pillow to hospital and on the drive home / other car trips in the early days put it over your tummy and then do up the seat belt. Same process for coughing as the ladies mentioned earlier.

Giving birth is just a moment in time, you'll be a mother for the rest of your life so dont get upset that you didnt get the birth you planned on, the most important thing at the end of the day is you and your baby are safe and well.

Ok I had a little more than two things to add to the list. Sorry I can't count very well can I? Lol.

MalibuBarbie wrote: kiwikid wrote: Giving birth is just a moment in time, you'll be a mother for the rest of your life so dont get upset that you didnt get the birth you planned on, the most important thing at the end of the day is you and your baby are safe and well. That is such a great thing to say. I really truly have felt inadequate and like a failure after 2 failed vb's and a comment like this really helps me to pull myself together and to look at the positives. I have always wanted a large family but swore after ds#2 that I would not have any more children because of needing to now have a c/s each time I have a baby and the feelings of inadequacy that follow after a c/s for me. But you are right how you give birth is not the most important thing. I also have two things to add to the list. Allow as much fresh air into the shower as possible when you have your first shower after c/s as you may feel woosy and the steam from the shower may worsen that woosiness and cause you to faint. (That just about happened to me) Try not to stay sitting on your backside in the same position for long periods as this may cause blisters. (I got blisters on my bum and I swear they hurt more than my c/s wound!) Sleep when you can even if it means visitors have to wait to see you and the new bubba as a c/s can really take it out of you. (Also applies for vb so I hear. I lost a lot of blood after my 2nd c/s and I felt like I was suffering from chronic fatigue for ages until my iron stores built back up again) It's funny how we each have our own interpretation on a c/s. It has been an informative read going through all these posts and if I have to have a 3rd c/s I will be in the know even mre than I was 2nd time round, thanks to all you ladies.

Ohh i got the blisters/bed sores on my bum I felt bruised down there for weeks!! Actually I had brusing and shaffing and blisters it was awful!

Ha ha fat chance of getting  a sponge bath at my local hospital. All the staff are always so "busy" lol. I couldn't stand the day after my cs due to nausea and dizzy spells  and all they did was chuck me a bowl of water and a flannel and said here you go. I really struggled lol as each time I moved I felt like I was going to throw up or faint. Ah well won't kill ya makes ya stronger I guess lol.

Making sure your hospital bell is tied to your bed so it doesn't fall off, then when your baby cries you're not waiting in tears for 20 minutes for someone to come and pick her up and give her to you :-(

Oh and just incase you do have a hot anaethetist (sp?) make sure you look half decent before you go down to theatre, lol! I looked so messy and i'm sure I didnt smell very pretty either.