Another baby??

Before you get excited, no, I'm not pregnant.

However, I'm feeling as though I would really like to start TTC for number 2 ,especially since it took us 2 years to get pregnant with Elle. However, I'm really scared about it. Before I go any further let me say that I love my bubba to pieces and wouldn't trade her for the world. However, we've had a really tough 14mths and I'm really, really scared about doing it again. I know all babies are different and chances are my next one will be a really relaxed and happy little boy or girl BUT it is still scary. I'm scared that if I have another, my insomnia might return + how would I cope if I get another unsettled bub?

Not sure what my question is here...ummm...when did you know you were ready for number 2?

Thanks for the bump...will go check it out :)

Personally I found it sooooo much easier second time around. You're not second guessing yourself, you know that if you miss bathing them one day you're not a terrible mother and their limbs won't rot off. You recognise what the crying is about, and you're just so much more relaxed. My worry with having a second was that Charlotte was such an easy baby/toddler that we would get a nightmare second and I must admit Kate is alot more work BUT I still find it easier than when we had Charlotte. I know whats wrong quicker and what to do to fix it, I know that asking for help doesn't make me a faliure and the house doesn't have to be magazine perfect 24/7 as getting rest is more important! I think first time around you spend so much time worrying and trying to prove yourself where as second time around you get to sit back and enjoy it so much more.

Plus, not only do you get the joy of having another child you get the added bonus of seeing your children interact with each other. Charlotte and Kate are just so sweet together it totally makes my heart melt

We always wanted a small gap between our babies and being 30 already, I didn't want to wait too long. We are also in a position to be able to afford it financialy and have loads of family support around. That said, Gina is also a really easy going baby so I'm hoping for the same this time.

We wanted a smaller gap between our kids too, but I have to say that now I'm pregnant I keep changing between YAY! and OH CRAP!
As with having DD, we made the decision and we were ready, but I am terrible at second guessing myself so the whole way through I had lots of moments of doubt about whether we were ready.
My point? If/when you do start TTC or get pregnant, don't worry if you feel like you're not ready, because you will be! At least that's what I keep telling myself

But given Elle's temperament I reckon she will end up soooooo spoilt if we don't have at least one more to share the attention with.

Hopefully my second pregnancy will be similar to my first in that my tummy was pretty small and my movement wasn't really restricted at all. I still lifted things and carried things (I shouldn't have!) still got up on chairs and ladders, moved furnature...ok will stop now before I get in trouble. Pregnancy was the fittest time of my life! LOL

Just remember that with your first pregnancy, you didn't have another child to look after

I've watched several friends go through having their second, and they seem sooo tired during the pregnancy.

meow wrote: Just remember that with your first pregnancy, you didn't have another child to look after I've watched several friends go through having their second, and they seem sooo tired during the pregnancy.

I know, I know. But shhhhh I was creating a nice illusion for myself. My friends have really struggled with pregnancy number 2 as well due to the tirednes. Mind you, I was up at the hospital with my sister before and after work for half my pregnancy + had to manage a restructure at work + had some other drama's during my pregnancy and I can't say I really sat down or slowed down at all.

FionaS wrote: meow wrote: Just remember that with your first pregnancy, you didn't have another child to look after I've watched several friends go through having their second, and they seem sooo tired during the pregnancy. I know, I know. But shhhhh I was creating a nice illusion for myself. My friends have really struggled with pregnancy number 2 as well due to the tirednes. Mind you, I was up at the hospital with my sister before and after work for half my pregnancy + had to manage a restructure at work + had some other drama's during my pregnancy and I can't say I really sat down or slowed down at all.

Yeah.. my DD is full on some days, I really don't know how I would deal with a baby as well.. I'm thinking my mum had the right idea with my brother and I, 5 years apart

I think both of us are leaning more towards a 3 year gap than a 2 year gap as TBH we still need to recover from the past 14mths ;)