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LittleBug 
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Posted: 23 April 2008 at 9:50am |
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Ok so I haven't actually had a miscarriage myself, so I don't really have a clue what things would be running through my head if I had. So I wanted some advice.
My daughter's godmother had a miscarriage not that long ago... her baby would have been due in September. Anyway I wanted to get her a Mother's Day card, just to let her know I'm thinking of her etc... but I don't know, do you think it's a good idea? She hasn't got any other kids or anything.
But I thought I could say thanks for being a Godmother, at the same time as remembering her little angel.
Any suggestions? Or is it a terrible idea... I don't want to upset her or anything.
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Posted: 23 April 2008 at 9:54am |
I like the idea of Happy GodMother's Day card, so you could do that 
But having suffered a miscarriage I know I would get upset at being "reminded" of the fact that I'm not actually a mother...
I think the thought is lovely, Janey, but if it were me I'd be sad.
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Posted: 23 April 2008 at 9:54am |
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Ooooo tough one isnt it? I know when you are preggy you want mothers day recognition but not sure after a MC! Maybe play it safe and do the Godmother thing!
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Posted: 23 April 2008 at 11:30am |
Hmm yeah I don't want anyone to give me a mothers day card... I know my mum probably would give me one if I was still pregnant, but I hope no one does now that I'm not pregnant anymore!
It's a really nice idea, but personally I think it would upset me to get a mothers day card after my miscarriage.
I really really like the Godmothers Day card idea though!
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Posted: 23 April 2008 at 1:24pm |
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yeah i agree. maybe a thinking of you card would be more appropriate.
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LittleBug
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Posted: 24 April 2008 at 11:23am |
Thanks for the advice, I don't want to upset her, just remind her that I really care... so think I will go with the Godmother's Day card idea.
Thanks ladies
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Posted: 26 April 2008 at 2:42pm |
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As the others said, the GodMothers card is a better choice - I know that when I miscarried last year, it was kinda upsetting for me when mothers day came, being reminded that I wasn't gonna be a mother then...
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Posted: 28 April 2008 at 11:13am |
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yeha i agree..someone tried to do exactly that to me..i went off at them and didnt speak to them for months as i thought they were being horrible:( (i didnt really think about that she was trying to make me feel better)
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Posted: 30 April 2008 at 12:47pm |
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I would go with the godmothers day card but not a mothers day card.
If it was me I would get upset cos Im getting a mothers day card and Im not a mother...ya know?
A better option would be a "Thinking of you" card, just so she knows you are there for her at this difficult time, thats something that would make me smile.
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