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Mum_mum 
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Posted: 12 August 2008 at 1:52pm |
Well most of you would know that i miscarried in May. Since then all i want is to try again but after a few complicaitons with D&C my hubby wanted me to go back on the pill. Now one month on it all i want is to be OFF it! All i can think about is having a baby, i really want to try again and im driving myself mad! my hubby wants to wait 6 months to a year before trying again and i really don't think i can last that long.
I know ttc has to be mutual so thats why i went back on the pill but im getting well almost angry and upset that I can't start trying now!
Sorry for a ramble but has been bugging me for days and don't want to harp on at hubby - tho i know i should talk to him about it but dont want him to get angry at me 
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HippyMama
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Posted: 12 August 2008 at 2:35pm |
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Tell me to shove off if this is too nosey, but what are his reasons?
And I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage too - and can totally relate to that 'omgiwantababyNOW' urge!
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Posted: 12 August 2008 at 3:26pm |
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His reason is that when i found out i was prego i went a bit "crazy" (i was grumpy more to the point)
and when i was losing the baby i was crying all the time (thats called grief!) and he wasn't hellishly supportive through it so i think he maybe felt that our relationship wasnt as stable as it was.
I personally think that when you go thru something like that it can put a bit of a void in the way. Our relationship is on track again (and when i say it went off track it was only for a bout 2 weeks)
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linda
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Posted: 12 August 2008 at 3:56pm |
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Gosh Hannah, that sounds tough. One of the ways I dealt with my MC was TTC again as soon as possible. The first few weeks are tough, so are the last few and then everything changes once the baby comes along but thats what having a child is about. Maybe it made him realise that his life would be changing and is maybe not quite ready for it
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Posted: 13 August 2008 at 1:00pm |
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oh hannahbil I remember May, it wasn't a good month!
MC is such a tough thing to go through and it totally impacts on things with the DH.
Wanting to TTC straight away is fair enough! You were preg, of course you still want to be preg! I sure do!
Gosh you could write a whole book about this stuff, it's so hard and complicated.
I know we gotta compromise and TTC has to be mutual but your reactions seem so normal and healthy. Is your DH really sure he wants kids yet?
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Posted: 13 August 2008 at 2:06pm |
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sorry to hear about ur MC hun!
really really sucks ur hubby doesn't wanna ttc again! I found the only way I could possibly fill the hole in my heart left after our miscarriage was to conceive again, which we did and its the best thing I've ever done! Luckily my hubby agreed...actually I dont remember even having that conversation with him but I assume he agreed as there was never any talk of going back onto contraceptives for a bit (oh dear maybe I should've asked lol!)
I've read that people who conceive straight away after a MC (or soon after) are more likely to have PND for some reason. I can't think why though. Maybe ur partners worried about stuff like that? Maybe he wasn't supportive while u were grieving as he might be one of those guys who doesn't deal with his own grief in that way, or keeps it inside.
Was ur pregnancy a surprise or had you been trying?
(PS I'm very impressed no-ones said "just go off the pill without telling him" lol! Yes i Know its wrong but Im sure you've thought about it!)
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Posted: 13 August 2008 at 3:42pm |
haha mummytob you made me laugh about the pill - yes it had crossed my mind but i just couldn't lie to him and say it was a woopsy baby when it wasnt 
Your right - maybe when the time came it hit him that he wasn't really ready. We were at a mates house last night and they ahve a 7 week old, when he was crying my hubby was looking all worried and then said that a bubby crying makes him nervous.
I spose maybe for his sake i will wait until January - no longer!!! Or maybe i will take the two months pills i have left and then complain about the "horrible side effects" hehe. Thanks for being understanding girls xxx
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Posted: 13 August 2008 at 8:16pm |
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Good luck hun, I cant imagine what you are going through... but it will be far more enjoyable and special if you know your DH is totally into having the bubs too.
Hope he doesnt make you wait too long!
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