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ahhhhh FX bigtime for you caliandjack!!!!

Hey Caliandjack, just realised you used to be mrsg1!! was wondering how you were getting on and thought you hadnt posted for awhile, like the new name ... Big congrats again on your BFP!! We have been trying about 13 months now.... Started IUI this week, so really hoping, as its getting harder each month

Jano - it took over 2 years for us to get pregnant with the first who is now 9 months old and I am pregnant with the 2nd - so it was definitely shorter for us the 2nd time round but I don't know if this is the norm or not.

Jano....I was 35 for DS and ttc 9 months for him and we have not been preventing since he was born and actively trying for number 2 so far 10 months...to no avail...

ETA DS will be 2 in June

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Jano- I am now pg with our second bubba and it was the result of a not trying/not preventing approach! We only did that for 2-3 months really and weren't really charting or anything and certainly weren't this month when we concieved...so I am feeling very blessed it didn't take long. FX now it's a sticky baby!!  We didn't want it to take as long as it took as to get our first but yeah we were very suprised it happened so quickly! Like Freckle says, it's one of the unknowns. I'm glad we didn't wait too long tho as I just turned 36 the day before our BFP

Jano, we conceived both our children first time around! I was 33 when we conceived our daughter, and then 36 when we conceived our son (and seriously we weren't trying, just had one "accident" that month) ... statistics about maternal age and conceiving, I think they're just "averages" -- everyone is different -- just like every pregnancy is different.

Hi there Happygal. I wish you and your man all the best and hope you have some good news soon ... I know plenty of women my age who got pregnant in the 3rd cycle so we feel extremely blessed. Keep positive and I look forward to hearing how you are doing/

I thought I would bump this thread, there may be some other 'older' mums around that might like to share their stories.

We are putting off TTC for another month or so, I'm struggling with life a bit at the moment. I ended up at my doctors yesterday and broke down, I've turned into someone I dont even like. Emotional, irritable and angry at the world and my poor husband is taking the brunt of it all. My doctor has asked me to take a few more months out before we try again (supposed to start this month) and I need to spend some time sorting myself out. We have only been married for 9 months and experienced 3 m/c in this time - I feel totally ripped off. Most couples say the 1st year of marriage is the best. Ours has been full of heart break. My head is crazy to say the least - I hate some of the negative thoughts going on in there.
So we are going to see a counceller and I will take a few more months out - I am happy to wait, almost feel a bit relieved......but on the other hand I hate watching each month pass by without trying. When you are 37 it feels like every month is so precious. Its so weird - I am so desperate to be a Mum but the thought of trying again is just so scary. I am scared of falling pregnant and miscarrying and having to go through this all over again. Or worst of all, not being able to conceive again. I've gone back and read some of the earlier posts on here, I was so relaxed and happy back in September around our wedding and when we started trying - I so badly want to be back in that head space. I'm way too consumed with this now - hard to know what to do to forget about it for awhile. I wasn't sure where to post this....figured this was as good a place as any.

Anyway, thanks for listening to my rant

Hey I havent been on for ages! Oh Mrs Hopeful so sorry to hear what you have been through, that is just really awful. I think the counsellor sounds like a good idea, would help to talk to someone professional and it might do you the world of good. Hope things get abit easier for you...

CaliandJack, so great to see how well you are doing, time has gone quick, bet you are just so happy

Well we did our first IVF cycle in May and was a BFN, so we were pretty gutted...But feeling alot more positive now and trying next IVF cycle in September, so really hoping it works!! You get a free counselling session at FA, so Im going to go along next week, think this journey takes its toll sometimes and really helps to talk to someone!!

Stay positive girls, all us older mums will get our BFP's eventually!!

Hi Happygal, I'm really sorry about your BFN but fingers crossed that you have some luck with your next cycle. I have been following you to see how you go.....if that is ok??!!
Yes, been a tough old time for us of late but I am feeling a whole lot more positive about life now. I'm not charting anymore, decided to throw away my thermometer and stop worrying about it so much. I've got a pretty good idea when I ov so that will do. This journey definitely a hard one - I'm sure we will all end up with our BFP's before too long. Good luck for your next cycle - everything is crossed for you!