What were/are your 2yo like with your new

I was really lucky that Ollie was really gentle with Lilia (21 month age gap) and would generally leave her alone.

Isabelle was totally besotted with Elias (she was 17 months when he arrived) .. now she 's him, but doesnt want him anywhere near her things .. or her Mum, or Dad, or Grandad

But she is always gentle with him, just puts on a sulky face if she wants whoever Elias is with at the time.

this thread gives me a bit of hope...my little guy loves bubbas and is very gentle but i suspect will be very different when bub lives here too!!:) I'll have very close to a 2yr gap..

We have a two and a half year gap here and Sam is generally pretty good but has to be reminded to be gentle a lot of the time.   He isn't rough intentionally, he's just a boisterous child and wants to play with him!    

Sam wasn't really interested in Jamie at first but now he is utterly obsessed with helping me.   He HAS to help change him, put him to bed, put his dummy in, turn the mobile on etc.    Jamie sleeps a lot during the day so not sure how he'll be when he's more mobile and the two of them are in the same room all day!

We have a 2 and a half year age gap here as well. Most of the time Sam has been pretty much indifferent to Anthony. She has really only just started showing any interest in him in the past few weeks. We have a stool beside the change table and she now comes in and 'helps' me change nappies and will pull funny faces to make him smile. We have had a couple of little accidents with him being stood on or accidentally thumped by her but overall she is pretty good with him.

The best advice I was given was to not force the baby on the older child - and to not put the baby in a position where the older child can hurt them thereby needing to be told off (accidentally or on purpose).    
For this reason we don't generally put Anthony on the floor in Sam's reach or let her feel like she is having to 'share' any of her special things with him at this stage.

Cadens younger but he was terrible to start with(14 months age gap), he would hit her and try and dump toys on her, he didnt know he was doing anything wrong, but it would stress me out heaps.

Now 4 months on, he LOVES her to bits, he comes right up to her and chats to her and hugs her, and she smiles at him, when she crys he puts her dummy in for her and even holds it there when she wont suck it properly lol, he pats her gently when she crys too He will also rock her bouncer or capsule if she is upset lol.
Oh and he brings her, her dolly as well lol

He will get better hun, dont worry, he just needs to get used to her thats all.

I was worried he was going to be mean to her for ages be her got used to her quite quicly :)

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I was SO in the same boat as quite a few others, it's quite lovely really to hear that others had the same problems!!

Things were fine (apart from a few minor things - toys hitting little heads after flying out of Micahs hands, tripping over Daniel that he just 'didnt notice', etc!!!), until Daniel started to crawl etc, then came the pushing, hitting, pushing, etc. (no biting yet thankfully!!).

He is pretty good with him now, and they will share and play quite happily for hours now, unless they get tired or whatever. But it does get better...

I actually found that punishment worked well with micah (a light smack on the leg), as he seemed to get enjoyment from pushing, smacking Daniel, and he hardly ever hit him etc after finding that it hurt him too... But that was just my experiance so i am certinally not saying that is what everyone should do!

Sorry for the essay!

My latest little girl is currently 3 weeks old, and her big sister is 23 months old. I've been pleasantly surprised at how good my eldest daughter has been - no jealousy, doesn't get upset when baby cries and wants to hold her little sister all the time. I thought she might get a bit resentful with all the time I spend with baby, e.g. feeding and settling but it hasn't bothered her at all. Overall it's been far easier than I thought it would be!

My eldest has been in part time childcare for over a year and I think that has helped as she's used to being around younger children, babies crying etc at daycare so it doesn't bother her.

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