Just want to say that miscarriages really

SUCK. Should have been 11 weeks 5 days today but found out on Friday that the baby stopped growing around 6 weeks. Spent nearly 3 hours at Middlemore on Friday evening being poked and prodded and have to go and see the Early Pregnancy clinic next week. I just want it to be over. I've had a little bit of spotting and some cramping and back ache. I was hoping it would all be over by Christmas but i doubt it will be.

My partner only started his new job in September so isn't entitled to paid leave yet and he's the only that can take me to appointments and look after the kids. So we have money to worry about too. What a sh*t time of year for this to happen.

I don't normally share personal things online but everything is getting too much at the moment so wanted to get it off my chest. Just feel like crying all the time.

to you Deb!
Sorry to hear you are going through this. It does really suck!!

They suck alright, what a crappy time for you, I'm so sorry

Oh poor you, I know how you feel, I lost my baby in October at 11 weeks, 5 days and she (we think maybe was a girl) had stopped growing around 7-8 weeks. I had full on symptoms up to the day I just started bleeding. It was traumatic and devastating and such a shock. It was our first baby and all had been going perfectly.

I came on the forum today to write that I just got my period again this morning, our 2nd cycle of trying. I'm feeling so sad as we would have had our 20 week scan this week and were looking forward to telling our families at Xmas what gender and showing them the scan pics.

Just do what you need to do to deal with it in the best way you can. Hopefully you have a supportive partner - they are invaluable. You can ask to take the placenta and baby with you if you want. We did and I have spoken to quite a few people who did as well and buried it with a tree planted etc. That helped us to get some closure - but may not be right for you.

Kia kaha.

Deb.... i'm so sorry i'm going through the same thing at the moment, i think things stopped at about the same time, although i found out last Tuesday i haven't really been bleeding .... i had been hoping to join you in the July thread.... but it wasn't to be . I'm going in for a d&c on Wednesday..... look after yourself and i hope you can get the d&c done..... i'm looking forward to the whole sitution being over.

Thanks for the support ladies. It's so cruel that so many of us have had to go through this.

Hi Storm. Thanks hun. We'll probably try again in 6 or so months. Yeah i think i will have a glass or two for Christmas.

I have to go in tomorrow for a blood test, then wait for the results and then a doctor will see me to sort out a plan. I really just want it to be over so i can move on. This has been a bad year for us and a heartbreaking end to it. I really hope 2012 is a better year for us.

zoeymil i'm so sorry to hear you're going through it too.

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Glad u are having a D&C tomorrow and at least the physical side of it will be over before christmas for u. Hugs.

Thinking of you tomorrow Deb.

Debs I am so very sorry to hear about ur loss. It really sux and is so not fair
I know exactly what u r going thru and send u lots of love and hugs Time is really the only healer and being around ur kids. They will keep u distracted and busy.
I agree that D&C is the way to go. Get it ova and done with so u can carry on. They will give u misoprostol before they do the D&C then hopefully that will be it. Unfortunately with me I still had retained products so had to go back in two wks later

All the best and sending u lots of good wishes and a speedy recovery so that u can sort of enjoy Christmas with ur kids and family

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Thanks ladies.

Well i didn't get out of hospital till 10am today. Was only supposed to be in for a few hours but ended up being in for 24. What a drama. Had to sit around for nearly 6 hours in the bloody waiting room, finally got put into a bed and given the pills and then ended up waiting around for another 3 or so hours. Didn't get in to surgery till around 7:30pm then had to stay in over night. I was so glad to get out! It was a long tiring day. It all went fine though and i'm feeling ok today.