TTC 45+, looking into surrogacy option

Hello everyone! I’m 47, married, no kids. My DH and I have been TTC for 9 years already. I’ve got pregnant in 2012, but there was problem with my kidneys and doctors had to terminate pregnancy. There is a very high risk for me to get pregnant again. We decided to use services of surrogate mother. Surrogacy is forbidden by law in our country and we are looking for options abroad. Which country is better to go? Which clinics are better to address? How long it takes to find sm? I read that sometimes it takes years. Is that true? I’m not getting any younger. I’m afraid that my eggs won’t be valid in a couple of years. I don’t want to lose time. I’m afraid it may be too late for us and there will be no chance to become parents.

Hello everyone! I was hoping to see replies but anyways… To be honest I've been stressed last couple of days or even weeks... All these negative thoughts made me lost in time... I've been thinking over and over again about all that things which my "friend" told me. She made me doubt about my choice and this is not a good thing. This was a huge lesson for me. No one should stop us from reaching our goals. There are so many people who think they can tell us what to do. They judge us so easily. They don't even think they can hurt our feelings and our mind. But the thing is they don't know how we feel and what we have to face during our battle with infertility. The best thing for us is to just ignore them and do what is the best for us and our family. I understand that I was so stupid that I let her words to make me doubt in the thing which is now my only option to have children. I wasted almost 3 weeks thinking about her words, thinking about her opinion which has nothing to do with me. I'm so glad to be back on here. It made me sad to see no replies, but I still hope some of you here will join my thread. I will definitely continue my search about surrogacy. I don't have time for stress, depressions, for thinking if this option is good for me or not. Because I've already decided that surrogacy is the best for me and my husband. Anyway these days helped me to understand that no one and nothing will stop me from reaching my goal. I will never ever listen to anyone who would tell me surrogacy is wrong and not for me. I will do everything possible to make my family happy. To make myself happy. I hope some of you will share your experience. I will definitely consider everything I found on this board in my search. From now on I will find all information I need to start my surrogacy journey. This will be kind of a challenge for me. In a month I want to see huge result. I want my journey to start asap. So I will do everything to make it happen.

Alicia219545 wrote: I'm so sorry about your situation dear! You made a great thing you came here. We are all in the same boat. Who else can understand better than we do? It was also hard for me to open up to people I don't know. But here we can receive support and understanding which sometimes we can't get from our family or friends. I know how hard it is to find a clinic. Recently I was in your shoes. Though search can take some time but eventually you'll find the best place for you! We found clinic in Europe. They've already found sm for us and we are waiting for our baby to see the world) I wish you good luck with your search!

Thank you so much for support! I'll consider your advices. It's so nice to talk to someone who is at the same boat. We've been TTC for so long... To be honest I'm exhausted. I want my surrogacy journey to start as soon as possible. I'm tired of waiting and hope for nothing. I believe surrogacy will give us a chance to live happily. I decided to concentrate on European clinics. They have pretty reasonable prices. USA prices so high I doubt we can afford to have surrogacy there. I hope I'll find something during December. Don't want to waste time any more.

Hi, you no need to get worried. I am going to tell you the best clinic for surrogacy. It's BioTexCom clinic in Ukraine. I had my surrogacy from that clinic last year and now i am the mother of twins boys, my whole world. After trying to conceive for almost five years my gynaecologist diagnosed me that i can not become mother due to some complications in my reproductive system. This news was really heartbroken for me, when one of my colleague asked me to go to that clinic. As i went there my life had totally changed. Me and my husband decided to go for surrogacy. We even selected our own surrogate mother. After some tests, the implantation took place and after 1 month doctor gave us a good news that we are going to be the parents of twins. That day was the happiest day of my life. After delivery we brought our twins to our home. I will strongly recommend you that clinic. There you can get the wish of your life at a very reasonable price. Good luck to you.

Hello, my friends visited one of the clinics abroad recently. They were in the same clinic that Nany mentions in her post!
They received a primary consultation. They have a very good impression of communicating with the managers and doctors of this clinic.
They are going to choose and pay for the VIP package. He is the most expensive of all three packages. But, the selection of a surrogate mother begins quickly. It should be selected within 1.5-2 months. It's very fast, it's a very good time. And they were told that there is a Standard package there. It costs less than the VIP package. However, the selection of a surrogate mother will take a longer time. They also have an economy package, but it is not available this year. My friends have chosen clinics for a very long time. They are very critical people and they are hard to please. But, at last they have defined the choice on this place. I am very happy for them, for the fact that they began to act. The fact is that previously she had many unsuccessful attempts at IVF. This had a bad influence on her mental health. The fact is that her husband is younger than her. She would like them to have a full-fledged family. Her husband is younger than she is 4 years old. She is 39 years old, almost 40 years old, she will soon have a birthday, and her husband is 36 years old now.They want to have a child very much. They will be very happy if they get twins. They really want to find a surrogate mother quickly. It is important for them that the process begin as soon as possible. It seems to me that their soul will be filled with great love and kindness when their surrogate mother will pregnant. They have great hopes for this clinic. They hope that doctors will help them on a professional level. My friend would be happy to receive such a birthday present (if their surrogate mother will be pregnant at the time of her birthday). I hope that they will be all right. The clinic has great ratings. Therefore, we hope only for the successful completion of this case, for success.

Surrogacy de is a great option. This is what we chose. And I personally think that it is totally ok to not have your kid genetically related to you. Just do not think about it that much or even at all. I will be raising my baby if it is genetically my baby. and it is how it should be. wish you the best of luck!
Hope you have managed to find the perfect solution to your situation!
xxx