Whats your view? Financial...

you go bumble foot

Aw shucks you guys! Thank you, have been feeling so cruddy the past couple of days, all hormonal, which is a bit out of the norm for me, so really will be happy to get this blardy AF out of the road (when she finally shows up...) Came into a bit of money today from a sale so might get me a pee test, and then pluck up the courage to do it. Har hum I hate doing them, I just know its going to be a bfn, and in some weird way my mind believes that as long as I don't test and still no AF, then there is always a chance! Weird huh...

Thanks for the comforting words ladies, all I ever try to do is stay motivated and try not to let things get in my way. Sometimes thats just not possible, but you can but try!

DF has just said I should treat myself and go away for a week or so to ChCh, so family, here I come!

All the best and babydust to you all!

Bumblefoot - you sound like a wonderful woman who really has your head screwed on, I wish I was even half as on to it at 21 as you so obviously are (just unfortunate that you've gone through so much already).

Sending you loads of baby dust and positive thoughts

It seems you have a good head on your shoulders. When we decided to start trying for a baby I was a SAHW. Was still studying. Hubby was sort of earning good money but no means we could buy a house or even a new car. We had credit card debt of R10 000 that we worked off in about 5 months.

His mother wanted us to buy a house and couldnt understand that we couldnt afford it and houses wasnt the price it was when they bought. She felt strongly that a child must grow up in their own house. Yip and she is still on our case about it.

I worked the figures out and was so freaked asking other mothers what it cost them in nappies, formula (if I needed to give it) Pediatrician visits. (In SA that is freaking expensive and you dont get free medical stuff like over here. If you do go to the government clinic you might as well book a week off to see someone and not really helpful at all.)

I just couldnt see how we will make ends meet. Hubby just sat down and told me like always my figures are way inflated. If I do a budget for groceries it is always like a third more than what it comes too and that is after I buy extra stuff. (mmmm I am always a worry wart.)

But you know what. After having McKayla she is not costing us nearly as much as I thought she would. I will say about 80% of the toys she has she really doesnt need or will even miss. (that is really my baddie) She is loves and nurtered and I agree it never seems to be the right time to have a child. However if we didnt have food on the table I wouldnt bring a child into this world. That would be unfair. But we never had that experience (and really hope we never would.)

And like someone said you never know what can happen in the future.

Lots of babydust your way.