MC - what to expect?

(sorry, posting from stupid phone)
I know that this is intensely personal but if anyone is willing to share I would appreciate it

Sorry you are going through this.
I didnt have early scans or bloods, so didnt know anything was wrong til I started bleeding at 11 weeks, so not the same as what u are going through.
When/if the mc is confirmed you will have the option to let things happen naturally- which can take up to several weeks for anything to start happening, or to have a medically managed mc- where u have medication to pass baby- basically makes your body contract and pass baby.I have heard that this can be much more painful physically and can cause things like nausea also.
There is also the option of having accupuncture and seeing a herbalist to help to pass baby naturally.

One thing I didnt know, and would have liked to- was that its normal for your first period after a mc to be really really heavy and with heaps of clots. Sorry prob tmi as you not near that yet- but thats something that stressed me out that I wish I had known before it happened.

There are quite a few of us on here who have very recently mc, so know u arent alone and ask as many q's as u need to.

Yeah I had what was like a light AF for 2 1/2 weeks after the mc then got real A?F day 32.

I found out at 8 weeks (on a monday) that my baby hadnt grown past 6 weeks and they told me to get a scan in 2 more weeks just in case they were wrong. I knew my dates were right and there should be a heartbeat by then so was shattered.

I went to my doc on Wednesday and said I wasnt happy waiting till the following Monday so I went in for first blood test and booked in for scan on Friday. Got DH to come to scan and sure enough there was still no HB and they said they could see some blood in my uterus even though I hadnt started bleeding.

I was referred to the EPU for a 9am appointment on the Monday but woke at 5am on the Saturday in pain and went to the loo and passed our baby. There was no mistaking in the next few hours that I was miscarrying, I passed clots the size of my palm and by 1pm when I decided to have a shower I almost passed out so went to afterhours where the doc checked me out and said if it gets worse to head to the hospital.

The large clots stopped an hour or so later but I was bleeding heavily with small clots for the next two days. Went to my appointment on the Monday and they didnt do a scan but did an internal and said my cervix was still open and because I was passing clots I had retained product. I could choose to keep going naturally or have a D & C. I choose the D & C because the bleeding was a constant reminder of what I had lost. Had the op later that day and from then on I had the odd spotting and that was it. I remember waking up from the op and asking the nurse if it was over - she said yes and I burst into tears because I missed my baby already.

I was pretty sore and a bit spacy for a day or so from the blood loss and the anesthethic (sp?) but then started feeling better physically. Its over a year since my M/C now but I still think of our little baby (who I believe was a girl) every day and although the pain has eased its still hard to think of what could have been.

Take care of yourself and remember there is no timeline to the grief you feel and you dont have to "get over it", you just have to learn to live with the loss <3


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