Thoughts on and Experiences of Single Mother

Hey everyone,

I am considering entering into this situation, and I wanted to hear people's thoughts and especially, if anyone has been in this situation, their experiences and if it harmed the kid.

I am a 34 year old single lesbian woman and I really want a kid. This is no whim. I have done a lot of 'work' on myself over the last decade to ensure that I would be a stable and good parent; I have a house and a job that would allow me to be flexible (self-employed) and a good network of friends and family. These I think all set me up to be a good parent - but I am single...

So, I am thinking of having a child as a single person in an intentional co-parenting situation. This would mean having a child with a friend who is also committed to child-rearing. I have a gay friend who might be into this idea, and would be a great Dad, but he lives in Spain so I think this rules him out. I have also heard that there are 'meet ups' where you can build relationships with potential co-parents and I am thinking of checking these out. Obviously, in this case, I would take my time to know the person and build a foundation of trust...

When I think about it, I am stuck between excitement and joy and then disbelief. Like, I fear I am trying to make 2 + 2 = 5 and that I should give up on this dream. But that is truly devastating to me. I think I would find life extremely difficult in that case. It makes me have a lot more sympathy with gay people who get married hetereosexually to have children, although it's something I couldn't do myself, because I get the desire now. But I want the best for the kid too, naturally. So I feel stuck.

So, thoughts and experiences please :-)https://trackeasy.fun/usps/https://showbox.tools/

Edited by gehil265379 - 21 October 2020 at 10:20am