Bullying

Big hugs, that's so hard :( Im about to put T into daycare next year and that is one of the biggest things im worried about, id hate for someone to be mean to him and to not be able to be there to comfort him. If I was in your situation I would want to take DS out too, and I think that's its really unfair that the girls parents aren't willing to co-operate and help the situation, everyone goes through tough times but that's no excuse for them to not do anything about their daughter being a bully especially when it causing your DD so much upset.

that is shocking and i am very shocked that they said they cant do anything about it. they bloody well can and should do! kindy should have rules that all the kids follow - regardless of their home life - and the kids must surely know what the consequences for those actions are. Now that the kindy is aware of it they should be watching the bully and taking steps anytime something is seen that is inappropriate! i would go there personally and tell them i want this child watched and be given clear consequences for their actions.   

see if your kindy is under this lot...
wellington region free kindergarton assoc

that sounds a bit extreme to me - and i dont know if cyf would do anything unless you could give them the childs address and a bit more info other than they are a bully. and from what i know of them it may take a while before anything would be done and school will be over.

If you rang the kindy assoc they should be able to give you more info on what their policy re bullying is.

In the meantime making sure your daughter knows to go straight to a teacher if anything happens would be good and at the end of the day perhaps talk to the teachers and get some feedback. i would get right up in the kindy teachers faces and let them know you are disappointed and want your daughter protected. After all she has rights too! If the kindy though is really that reluctant to do anything i would definitley look at another kindy for next year.

I only just came across this thread.

But wanted to say, I hope things improved with regards to the bullying at your DD's Kindy.

I see going by your ticker, she is now at school. I hope school is much better and she doesn't have to deal with bullying anymore and here's hoping that bully doesn't go to the same school.

My DD doesn't get bullied at school, but she does in the street I live in. It's a complex, kind of, with a whole lot of townhouses. Not HNZ or WCC housing, just normal and in Churton Park, all be it, the cheap end. Yes Churton Park does have a cheap end, I would know.

There's this older girl on our street who is 10 and she's quite good at manipulating my DD, who is 7 1/2. She has managed to convince my DD to give her several toys and taught her how to hide clothes she wants(the other girl wants), underneath her clothes, to give to her. And every time I ask the older girl about the clothes or toys, she just tells lies. Or if I ask my DD to ask her for stuff back, she lies to DD and DD is trusting and believes her. Also, if DD persists, older girl starts being a bully. So pretty much, you give me what I want, or I won't be your friend and DD gets really upset.

I have talked to DD about all of this, but she keeps going back and being friends. Also, other kids in the neighbour might be, being bullies or mean, she'll come tell me, I tell her to assert herself and let them know it's not ok and if they keep doing it, don't play with them. But DD likes having others to play with, so keeps going back.

If I thought I could talk to this girls mum, I would. But her mum is a very intimidating lady and the type that easily takes offense. So I suspect, even if I worded it as well as I can, she might just want to punch me in the face. She just strikes me as likely to do that. Thus being why, I have never talked to the mum about it.

All I can do, is make sure the older girl doesn't come into our house and keep an eye on anything my DD takes out of the house.

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