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Topic: Help wanted for 1st time mum! Posted: 01 August 2005 at 5:52pm |
Hi All
Can anyone give me some advise? I have just been advised that I am pregnant after a long time trying. I need to know what do I do now? Do I have to find my own anti-natal care / midwife etc??? If so where do I get all the information?
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mum2paris
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Posted: 01 August 2005 at 9:55pm |
have a look in your phone book for midwives, or ring your local hospital - you can choose an independant midwife or go with the ones from the hospital. either way don't feel you have to choose the first one you see, it's good to talk to a couple and find someone who's on the same level as you are and who you feel comfortable with. there's heaps of really great info on this site, and alsoi found australian pregnancy and birth magazine reallllly wonderful as well as the mother and baby magazine too, treasures helps as well but i think the other two were better. once you have found a midwife, they will help you find out whatever you need to know, but makes sure you ask as many questions as you can.
congrats and good luck for the rest of your pregnancy, hope this helps a little
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Posted: 01 August 2005 at 10:51pm |
If u have the funds an obstetrician is another option too.I used a midwife both pregnancies and found them soooooo great.I was lucky that i didnt have to meet heaps of them before i found one i liked instantly.
Congrats on ur lil miracle and hope to see ur name pop up more often.
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 7:43am |
Just to add my 2 cents there are also some GPs (very few) who still do all care including delivery. Or if you have a really good relationship with your GP (and they dont deliver) you can get all your check ups and stuff their and just go to the hospital midwife team for delivery.
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 7:43am |
Congratulations! You could also ring 0800 MUM 2 BE and they will send you a list of possible midwives in your area and answer any questions you might have!
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 1:22pm |
0800 Mum 2 Be are good too because they give you a list of questions to ask prospective midwives/doctors. I had an independent midwife with Maya and she was awesome, she really pushed me to try for a normal birth even tho I was freaking out about bubs presentation, and I ended up having a great birth. I have an OB/GYN that I see now for other (non-pregnancy) related things so I might use him next time round, but I think with OB's there tends to be a higher rate of intervention (c-sect, epidural etc.) than midwives.
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 1:31pm |
i think midwives like to see birth as a natural normal thing and let it progress normally. doctors see things from the medical point of view, so are quicker to intervene instead of giving the woman different options about how to move baby, and all that stuff, and lettin gher do things her way.
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 1:39pm |
where do you live farmerkiwi? myabe one of us lives nerby and can give you some adice about midwives?
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 2:43pm |
Also when you find a good midwife ask her about any groups you could join during pregnancy, they are pretty good at giving you advice and you can also met other people that you can chat to and met i found it helpful and ive made some realy good friends from groups i joined when i was preg with Caleb, and we still have get togethers now, also later on when you do if you do ante natatl lasses i met some really great people that way. any way gd luck...
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 2:47pm |
p.s if you dnt mind me asking how old are you??
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 3:47pm |
I think you're right Janine. I'm sure that if I had a specialist with Maya I would have ended up with a c-sect. She was posterior presenting and big for dates and I ended up having a 41 hour labour. The midwife told me they don't let labours go longer than 12 hours, but she was convinced I could deliver naturally, and I did. If I'd had a doctor tho I think they would have called it quits a lot earlier and done a c-sect. I had a private OBGYN on call, but we put off calling him and didn't need him in the end.
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 10:42pm |
Maybe there is a higher rate of intervention because higher risk pregnancies go to OB/GYNs over midwives?
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Posted: 02 August 2005 at 11:01pm |
i think its the same arguement about the scans etc. they said that women that have heaps of scans have a higher risk of this and that... truth is, usually, the reason women go for alot of scans is because they are already high risk anyway.. so that whole theory is really flawed.
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 12:01pm |
ill agree its true, im at a high risk clinic, have no midwife, whih does kinda suck, you get a really good bond with your midwife you can ring her with your stupidist questions and not feel to stupid, i see a different dr/specialist every time I have an app, I feel stupid ringing clinic with my dumb little questions as the reeptionist cant help, im lucky though my midwife from caleb ia awesome i can still ring her and go and have a coffee and feel normal for ten mins, but im having scans every week, but i was told it wouldnt be harmful to the baby??? so who knows wat the real deal is....
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 12:38pm |
I am in high risk clinic too....Because of my high blood pressure.
However I have a midwife...I wonder why they did not assign you with one. I had 5 scans so far and having another one next Monday. I doubt that the scans hurt the baby...surely they wont ask them to be done if they were..?? Well I sure hope not.
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 12:53pm |
when I feel preg and went to my gp he told me to get a midwife and a specialist so I did, then at 8weeks my specialist said I didnt need midwife, they woulndt fund 2 LMC's so sadly I said goodbye to my midwife, but yeah I still see her any way but not as her patient if thtas what we are??? I have to go to clinic as well as app with my specialist it takes up alot of tme ive had 7sans already, they want to book me in for elective c-section at 30 weeks so in like 12weeks 26th oct... im thinking that if I manage to go past 30wks they should let me, so im a bit confused, i had caleb at 31weeks and he was so sick in neonats for 2 mnths, God so many questions that ill have to ask my spec...
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 1:42pm |
Well its good that you can still talk to your midwife...as a friend!
Gosh you might end up with a baby before I do.
Lets hope all goes well....
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 2:09pm |
wow, definately, if you go past 30 weeks they should leave you if you don't have any other health probs. how on earth could they think that artificial things out here are better than being inside you safe and warm. if there's no reason to get baby out then they should leave it alone. guess that's the nurse in me coming out lol. i hope you get the answers you need.
I think the thing about scans being harmful is a big load of bull really - if there was any sginificant risk then they couldn't be used so readily.
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 3:33pm |
I know in Germany they do heaps more scans than here and noone thinks that it is risky and didn't lizzie say they scan once a month in Japan or something??
Maybe they just don't want to fund it in NZ?? lol
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Posted: 03 August 2005 at 4:30pm |
yeah its strange how you hear so many differnt things, Caleb went in2 Fetal distress at 31weeks ause he was out of room and id been in labour for nearly 6weeks,they reckon il be luky to make 30 weeks, but i want to think positive 35weeks, they say baby may be here anytime after 25weeks, but since my waters already broke and i cant get up until til bubs arrives now. so im hoping ill go aslong as i an so bubs has time to grow a bit...but im gna stay positive until it all happens i tell myself ill make it till 35weeks
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