my son

in the next few days we will be giving birth to our son he has spinabifida and wont have a great outcome we have tried to work out how we could make it work with the multiple surgeries possible seziures etc that can be an issue for alot of babys in this condition but with to other young children to consider and quality of life for them as well as baby we came to this heartbreaking decision. we have been here before and it sux im worried about my mental capabilitys dealing with this again and the effect on my eldest which we explained the best we could that his baby brother will be going to heaven and not coming home with us.i just want to fix everything and i cant and feel i have failed again at being a good mother i love and adore my kids they are my world and with this being the second one im a high risk has anyone else gone on to have a normal baby after losing two with spinabifida

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this, I don't have any advice but didn't want to run without letting you know that I will be thinking of you

Also didn't want to read and run, I can't offer any advice but huge hugs and sympathy

i'm so very sorry and sad to read this you must be a strong and couragous women to have to do this twice! But I know you would skip the life lessons, and the strength you gain, to not have to go through this. It's the hardest thing in the world losing a child of any age and for you to have to go through this twice is truly un-fair.

It is nearly four weeks since I gave birth to our angel baby at 19 weeks due to Kindney problems, we are doing ok but I know how you will be feeling. There is another lady on here who has lost a child to spinabifida I hope she gets in touch as I know she has gone on to have healthy bubs. Please Pm me if you want to chat but I guess you already know the emotions and the process you will go through. I'm sure you will go on to have a wondeful heathy bub once you find the strengh to carry on. As will I......Massive hugs to you xxxxxx

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Im so sorry hun. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time

we had our son last night and named him max he is beautiful he was with us for nearly an hour and passed away peacefully in his daddys arms, i feel so hollow and empty and miss him so much but am glad he in a better place i wanted to thank everyone for there kind words and advice

So very sorry to hear about your loss. Know that we are thinking of you and your family

so sad, it's so hard it sounds like max passed away peacefully bathed in love....please come on here and chat to us if ever you need anything we are all thinking of you and your fam

baby max will be arriving home today my partner has gone back to work and the world keeps turning it just doesnt feel that way for me.am trying to keep myself motivated and doing things that need to be done but its so very hard. we went and did shopping yesterday and everywhere i looked there were brand new babies i no they would have been there anyway it just made me feel so empty

I'm so sorry for your loss k1wimum. I still find going shopping really difficult. I have started going after work to avoid couples with their babies at the weekend. I just can't cope with it. I have had to walk out sometimes as I'm near to tears.

I had the feeling and still do that the world is carrying on yet I'm stuck.

Big hugs to you and your family and I know it doesn't really help but you are not alone.

Take care and PM if you ever feel like someone to talk to.

S xxx