Starting Kindy

Leaving today (day 3) there was screaming and crying and it was awful, I was teary and it was really hard, last week I just gave up and didn't leave him, but I thought today that I would try to be firm with him and apparentely he didn't cry for long.
Everyone I've talked to says that they've had to leave their children crying and it does get better. So I was just wondering if you've had to leave your child screaming at the gate and did it get better, and is it really worth it?

No he's too clever for that, he is very aware of where I am, I tried to go to the toilet while someone read him a book and he ran after me screaming, thankfully today went ok and he doesn't seem too traumatised, though I think Wednesday will be another battle.

I work in ece - I promise it happens all of the time. Often, we can send a teacher out to the carpark and let them know a child has settled

See if you can meet with their key teacher, to come up with a routine that suits you and him/her, to provide stability for her/him. It's much easier when a parent can follow the routine and then leave - because the child does pick up on a parents anxiety. I've been on both ends, I know it's not easy!!

Ask if a teacher or someone in the office can please call you when he settles, so you can be reassured he's having a good time and don't spend the session worrying :)

Hang in there!

Theres been similar posts from me in the last few months about DD starting school!
We had crying at night about school, crying for over an hr each more, and then she had to be dragged from my leg by the teacher in the morning, and spent morning tea and lunchtime crying for me and holding the duty teachers hand. I felt sick with guilt that she was so miserable, and thought I had made the completely wrong decision by starting her at school and that I should have waited til the start of next year. She was exactly the same when she started at childcare at 15months old, and she had never been anywhere else new without me since then, and is a bright, confident fun girl so I wasnt expecting this at all. The only thing that helped her back when she was a toddler was me switching my attitude to being up-beat/ enthusuaistic and happy about her being there- after 6 months of crying she swicthed suddenly into being happy to go, as soon as I was!
The same thing has worked with school- she is loving it now and even the teachers are commenting on how different she is now, 6 weeks down the track from when she started. It was really hard being positive when she was so sad,...but when she said things like " I dont want to go to school cos I miss you", I would say, " I know u miss mummy, and I miss you too, but you will have fun at school doing xyz, and I will be there to pick u up at 3 o'clock".

I have no idea what I could have done differently to prepare her so she didnt go through this, but Im deffinatly glad I didnt pull her out as she is now so happy, loves school, is learning heaps, has lots of new friends. Shes grown so much in so many ways, its awesome to see!

I know its not the same with u since hes 3 and its kindy not school,...just kinda wanted to warn u what may be ahead too, and u not the only one who has been though this, and there is a happy end to our rough start!

A friend went through this recently. It helped that her husband did some drop off's - she was fine for him no screaming.

In the end they just persisted. Teachers said that she was fine again within a few minutes.

I used to nanny a girl and she would cry when her mum left as we would wave goodbye. Then by the time mum was at the end of the driveway she would be absolutely fine. Not a bother for the rest of the day about mummy.

Each child is different and you know your child best. I see your point that is it worth it with kindy breaking up for the year, but now he knows that next year of he makes a fuss it will end in him not having to go, so may be tricky again.