Rant time

Ok a few things have been on my mind since the mc 2 months ago and I just wanted your guys opinion and if the same thing had happened to you..

Since the mc two of my girlfriends have not talked about the mc, not even to acknowlegde it, to say how are you , nothing at all. This really upsets me , even now, its like if they ignore it and say nothing it never happened.

I find it hard to speak to them now , which is hard as they are joint freinds with DH and they often come over but I still can't believe they have never said a word about it. One of them is pregnant as well so it shocks me she could be soo cold about it.

Am I totally over sensitive?, I know its hard to know the right thing to say, and you get fed up of hearing "it happened for a reason", etc but just asking if you are ok or sorry to hear isn't to much to ask is it?

I quess them not saying anything makes me feel that they never acknowledged that I lost a baby, that I had loved from finding out I was pregnant at 4 weeks, that I had picked out names , bought nappies and mittens for....

Ok rant over, its weird aye , sometimes things just hit you and you think you are fine but I guess we all grieve differently

Thanks for listening

Maybe they just feel awkward (sp?)... you know how some people can be... not know what to say/do etc.

to you!

Edited by Bee

miscarriage makes seem people very uncomfortable and them not mentioning it may not mean they dont want to acknowledge what happened to you. Also have you ever mentioned to them, you know blah blah blah since the mc blah blah. they may be taking their lead from you. dont be too hard on them, everyone deals with it differently.

Yea I understand how hard is it to know what to say, before I have my mc I would have struggled for words, guess I'm just being an hormonal blubber face at the moment, feel better after my rant though, try to talk to DH about it and he goes blank, men aye...

Hey emma - hugs! I know what you are on about, I have had a couple of friends who haven't talked about it either, but I think that unless I speak about it first, its probably awkward for them to talk to me about it.

I also felt guilty when I was pg because my friend, who was 3 weeks behind me in pg, m/c and I felt awkward about talking about my pg when she had gone through a m/c. Fate though, turned up, and I m/c too...

Chin up to everyone ttc or pg after m/c.. its a tough journey!

my friend from playcentre had a miscarriage recently and I still don't know what to say to her. I sent her an email about how sorry we were, but I don't bring it up. i'm not good with that kinda thing and i don't want to upset her. i'm not sure how she feels about everything so am just trying to avoid the topic - bad I know but I just don't know what to say. If she brings it up, then i will say something, but unless she does, i won't bring it up myslef because she may not want to talk about it. that is how i feel as a friend, maybe yours feel the same way.