Age gaps

100K plus!! I wish my DH could earn near that amount! lol..

We have been thinking the same thing recently. We would either go with a smallish age gap of 18 months or 3 years.. haven't decided

There's 3 1/2 years between Maya and the gremlins, we would have liked a smaller gap but it didn't work out that way, and IMO they way things worked out has been perfect, Maya was old enough to cope with the chaos of the gremlins arrival and she adores her baby sisters. We're planning on TTC again around this time next year and all going well will have somewhere between 2 1/2 and 3 1/2 years between the gremlins and the next one.

Maya wrote: ..... between the gremlins and the next one.

one????? teehee two maybe???

We are wanting them close together. I am hoping to start TTC in Feb. Tom will only be 6 months. But I like the idea of getting it over and done with fast. So far Tom has been a really easy baby so that may be clouding my judgement.

I like the closish gaps, between 18mos and 2yrs is my ideal. Even though it's a lot of work when each baby arrives (it is anyway, right?), so much of your work is just like, change the toddler's nappy, change the baby's nappy, etc. And if I have had a crap night, I don't still have to do a school run! I think the kids adjust quicker to having a new person around - less rivalry and less time to wait until the development ages are close enough to play together. But I actually think that people can make any gap work and it's just when you feel ready. In some ways I think I should devote the next 6 or so years to nappies and then be over and done with

Argh, I have no idea. At this stage, DD will be 4 by the time another would arrive. Leaning towards a larger gap, if any gap.. one child maybe!

We have 2yrs 4 mths between Chloe and Miya and find that great, I had a difficult pgy which was a bit hard on Chloe because I was in and out of hospital a lot which unsettled her. As soon as Miya was born it was great, she wanted to help and had her own baby to do all the things I did to Miya. Chloe was also completely TTed during the day which helped.

Now Miya is almost 2 they are best of friends and do almost everything together. They are both very protective of each other, if one cries the other comforts them etc. Chloe tries to teach Miya everything, counting, names of things, playing different games, songs and even to sit on the toilet!

The only downside I've found is in the first six weeks Chloe did get a little jealous when I was bfing all the time and now sometimes Chloe can get a bit too 'motherly' and tries to tell Miya what to do and tells her off and we have to keep reminding her that that's what DH and I are here for!

We have 4 years between Kiya and Josiah, 18 months between Josiah and Xavier, and there should be 18 months again between Xavier and Crumb.

The larger gap between Kiya and Josiah wasn't the ideal, but as I didn't meet my husband until Kiya was 6 months old that's the way things worked out! It wasn't too bad, as Kiya started morning kindy the day Josiah was born so she had her special things and I had one-on-one time with the baby. At 4yo, she was old enough to understand that the baby was dependant on me and didn't get too jealous. Its now that they both are older there's a bit of sibling rivalry when she thinks we treat her brothers better than we treat her - usually because we've asked her to do something we know she can do but we do it for the boys as they aren't big enough.

We were going to start trying for #3 (Xavier) when Josiah was 1yo, aiming for a gap of about 20/21 months... at his first birthday I was 3 months pregnant! 18 months hasn't been too bad... Josiah was walking at 9.5 months so I didn't have to carry him everywhere in the later stages, like busymum said a toddler and a newborn sort of work in together for a lot of things. Kiya had been at school for 6 months when Xavier was born, and was quite independant.

We had just agreed to start trying for #4 (Crumb) when Xavier was 18 months old... well, looks like I'm due then! I'm not worried about the gap between Crumb and Xavier, should work out like the gap between Xavier and Josiah did... I'm not worried about the gap between Crumb and Kiya as she'll be 7yo and should be fine... it's the gap between Crumb and Josiah that's worrying me. He turns 3 a couple of days before my due date and I think he's going to be the worst for sibling rivalry.

We have 18 month's and I love it. We were hoping to have the same did not work out that way tho. I think 18 months work's well now Mikey is walking they play all the time together it is so lovely.

I am actually a little worried about the 2y 4m age gap we will have - hannah is getting very demanding and determined, plus she has stopped having day sleeps now so it will be hard to rest with a newborn. Thinking about it now, I think it would have been easier to have had a newborn around when Han was about 20 months - old enough to know whats going on and able to do some things for herself, but not so time demanding. Although in saying that, everyone makes whatever age gap they have work because you have to!