Young Single Mums

Ok so please forgive me I am totally new to this site, have been surfing the odd threads and reading ...but decided it was time to make my own topic!

Im interested in talking to/meeting other young solo Mums on OHbaby!! From reading other threads I got the feeling that we are few and far between on here.

Anyone can feel free to comment and join in, even if your not a solo Mummy.

So ill start by introducing myself, im 20years old with an 8 month old beautiful son named Lucas Joshua. Currently living with my parents and younger brother out in South Auckland. His father is now living over in Aussie, has been since I was 4 months pregnant, we have no contact and he wants no involvement with his son. But there is no point dwelling over such things, I often forget it took the two of us to bring our little man into the world. Very happy with how things have turned out, Lucas has been a total blessing & I couldn't imagine my life without him now!

Lucas is a very happy and content little boy, has just started pulling himself up to stand in his cot Still fully breastfed, goes on and off his solids (Having a bit of trouble there) But by all means is very healthy....a BIG boy! Still not crawling properly, but moves backwards, and rocks on all fours. Loves to stand, roll, clap his hands and say his first word 'Dada'. *Sigh* ... so cute when he says it tho. Becoming cheekier and more adventurous by the day, managing to get into everything and can't sit still. Hate to think what the terrible twos are going to be like.

Would LOVE to hear from anyone else, please introduce yourself and your wee one. Give a blabber about them too.

PS. Does anyone live out this way (Papakura/manurewa/takanini/botany/manukau area) ...and if so do you know of any coffee groups???

Edited by Mum2Lucas

Hi ya Stephanie - your Lucas is just sooooo cute!!

I'm not a young single mum anymore but I was with my older son Christopher. I was 17 when I had him and it didn't take long for things to fizz out with his bio dad. I so understand what you mean about forgetting that it took both of you to bring Lucas in to the world. I got like that with Christopher's dad and now just think of him as a donor cos thats pretty much all he was/is. Doesn't have anything to do with Christopher at all. He wouldn't know him if Christopher if he walked past him in the street. I lived with my parents and siblings too when Christopher was really young and he developed a really special bond with both my dad and brother. We moved out of there when he was about 18 months old and moved in with my now husband.

He's 10 now and just the coolest kid. I think we both overcame the whole young and single mum stereotype and have come out the other side really well. I never could have done it without the support of my parents and its awesome that you have yours.

I'm in Wellington. I think there are a few young single mums in OB land.

We didn't need to go through the whole paternity thing. We were still *barely* together when Christopher was born and I named him on the birth cert but gave Christopher my surname. The donor moved to Auck and tried to take me to court blah blah blah thats another story for another day I got a job as soon as I could so I could cut his child support. I didn't want him to help bring up my son and he never pushed it. As long as you are happy with your decision then thats the most important thing. One day Lucas will have his questions and if you have done things for him and with his best intentions at heart then you can't have taken a wrong step. I decided early on that I would rather my son had no dad than a bad one and have never for a second regretted my decision.

I met my husband completely when I wasn't expecting anything at all and was totally terrified of what would happen but thought that if I didn't take a risk then I would let life pass me by. I kept Christopher out of it though cos I didn't want him to have uncles all over the countryside LOL!! Expect your parents to be super protective of you if there is a guy snooping. Mine were awful!!!

You guys will be awesome and Lucas will have the benefit of having all these people in his life that totally adore him and will do anything for him. Its so special for him to have that bond with his grandparents.

Not so young mum here either but alas I was a single mum at 17 and of course stereo typed as being on etc etc. You sound like you are doing an awesome job with your wee man and he is just gorgeous.

There are a few of us single mums on here, but there are also alot that were single mums at some stage and are now married but still know what it was like. My children all have an extra special bond with my mum and its awesome to see, my daughter who is now older thinks its cool how I can be mum and dad lol

Oh and just off the subject, why is it that I create an avatar online and it only stays visible in these forums for a couple posts and then disappears?

I have no idea what I'm doing

Hi, I'm not young or single but just wanted to say hello and welcome. Lucas is a little cutie.

hi we often have coffee groups at botany...you missed one yesterday...check mums meet up thread for more meetings.

there are quite a few people on here from papakura to papatoetoe...and a few from botany and surrounds...

Hi there!!

Im a single mum also. Im 21 and my daughter Briahna is 3 months. Her father has wanted nothing to do with her or me since i was 8 weeks.

Welcome to Ohbaby!!

hey, i had my daughter (caitlyn) when i was 20, shes now 5,her dad lives in aussie too with his wife and two boys (hes involved in c's life tho, so im lucky there)
Ive been with my partner for just over a year and live with my parents as well....but im very ready to move out ! (no offence mum ...)
I work as a dental assistant full time (easier now that c's at school)
I am also in the botany area (well howick) and no a few other young single mums, so if youre ever interested in meeting up for a coffee or something, id be keen.

Your little boy sounds lovely and welcome to ohbaby :-)

I am a single mama to Hanny pants who is now 3 and I'm almost 23.

I'm in a hurry so will be back to man-bash with ya later... but I have to say that there are plenty of guys out there that aren't nearly so horrible as the ones who happen to father children and disappear.

I finally found one and he's looooovely. Been living with us for about 8 months now

My story should be up on the community section on the OhBaby page if you want to know the gory details... I'm sure everyone here is bored hearing about it (they know everything and have been the first place I go when drama ensues!)

Anyway, welcome!