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We're not a dairy-free house here, as I have milk in my coffee and DH can't bear to live without his milk and butter.  Since I needed to go dairy-free for breastfeeding Ella, it isn't not incomprehensible for me to do it again.  Ella can't open our fridge and the only shelves she can reach in the pantry are hers anyway.  That'll change soon, I'm sure.  But there's some items I'll only ever choose 'safe' brands of already- hot choc, chocolate (though she's only had 2 pieces in her life, but wow did she think they were amazing!), sandwich spreads, breads, pasta, sausages, crackers, etc.  I cook dairy-free dinners now, because making 2 dinners every night was wearing thin, and Ella started really wanting the foods off our plates.  It limits our meals only a little, but I'm a bit of alright in the kitchen so it doesn't matter!   We don't put cheese on any meals unless I'm having lunch while she's asleep.  I bake with dairy for DH, and without for Ella, of course, but DH's choc muffin supply is out of Ella's reach.  We're at the point now where Ella wants to at least taste what she sees others eating, so I carry her wee biscuits & crackers for when a friend breaks out their supply leaving Ella sobbing "bickie, bickie" for a taste.  Oh yeah - and as you've seen, I take a muffin of hers and her chippies, etc along at any birthday parties she goes to, and if there's fruit or jelly at the party, she can eat those, other than that - it's not worth the risk. 

Ah yes, the sneaky grab'n'snack attempts.  One day she'll understand!  I meant to say too, (and I could be wrong on this, because I don't know intolerances as well as allergies for sure), I didn't want to freak you out about the 'may contain traces of...' labels - my understanding is that those are still fine to eat if your intolerance isn't extreme (like bleeding stomach or bowel, constant vomiting, fainting from pain, that sort of thing).  It's completely up to you how strict you want to be since it's your body, so you gotta weigh up the effects on your lifestyle of 100% avoidance, taking no chances, versus avoiding gluten-rich foods - if either lifestyle leaves you with similar health, then it certainly is kinder to your nerves and time to just cut out the ones you know are culprits!