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Velasco 
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Posted: 16 July 2008 at 12:01pm |
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Hi, I would like to chat to anyone who has been through a C-Section and felt a big shock afterwards towards thier Baby. Even though I knew I was having a C I still felt very emotionally unbalanced and suffered bad PND. Baby had bad colic too and Had to stop breastfeeding and put him on Neocate @ 4.5months. Still having trouble with solids and now12 months old.
If anyone is out there who has felt or is feeling like this I could really do with some company
Cheers Sarah
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Kazzle
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Posted: 16 July 2008 at 12:08pm |
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just wanted to say that while i have no idea what you have been and are going through, just wanted to give you a big hug
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Posted: 16 July 2008 at 12:43pm |
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Not entirely, I had a c/s and bubs also went onto neocate around 4 months. I stopped b/f at 3 months and then discovered he was allergic to diary.
Overall my c/s was a positive experience and I didn't suffer with PND, but am happy to chat about the other stuff. Also we have an allergy section (i'm assuming that's the reason for the neocate) and there is also a PND section. I know there are quite a few women on here how have suffered with PND and PTSD.
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2bmumof3
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Posted: 16 July 2008 at 9:41pm |
Hi Velasco,  . After my first c-section I took a while to bond with DS1. The first few days I didn't change a nappy (couldn't move very well to anyway) and simply didn't really feel like he was mine, more like someone else who was put in my room. I found BF hard and painful to establish. For the first few months between the hours of 5pm & 9pm he would scream inconsolibly, you could set your watch by these times. I simply couldn't find myself falling head over heels for him, my stomach went into knots when he cried...no not again. I felt like a really bad and horrible mum for not feeling what I felt I should. But as time went on, the evenings settled and I got used to the sleep deprivation our bond grew.
2nd and 3rd time round I made sure to be very involved from the first moment they came out, the bonds ahve been very strong right from the start. I'm really happy with the relationships I have with all my kids.
Hope this was what you're meaning.
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mummiemax
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Posted: 19 July 2008 at 12:02pm |
Hi Velasco, i have had 2 C sections, the first i was fine after i bonded straight away as we had been trying for 11 months so to finally see her was fantastic, although after number 2 i had another C section, the firat 11 weeks were absolute hell, my daughter would always try to kill him any chance she got really, i found myself almost hating her and sometimes wanting to take the baby away and go back to just my daughter.
After 6 months it was much easier with the 2 however i was still feeling sh*t, i never wanted to leave the house always thought i was fat and discustuiing and never wanted to play with the kids, i would always cry when my oldest made a mess. I finally went to the doctor and discovered i to had PND.
Finally after a year it is so much better i am on medication and i have so much more fun of a day i get out more. It does get easier i promise
Are you on medication?
Although i think i am pregnant again, not that we were trying so i am getting a little worried what will happen.
Big hug to you 
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Shezamumof3
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Posted: 19 July 2008 at 4:15pm |
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I had an emergency c section after a 48 hour labour, my birth experience was so traumatic for me. I had trouble(and still am a little) with breast feeding, at first my nipples were so sore, cracked and bleeding, now they are just a bit tender. I have plenty of milk but cos Im so run down and low in iron after my big blood loss my milk isnt a good as it should be so Im having to supplement caden with formula morning and night after his breastfeed.
I havent had trouble bonding with caden, but I get so frustrated when I cant do somerthing cos of the c section, I get a bit down in the dumps when I think about how I wanted the birth to be.
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Velasco
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Posted: 27 August 2008 at 10:29pm |
Hi Everyone,
just want to say that I am really pleased and thankful for the feedback from my message and have had a time to read and digest it. It has taken a long while to really enjoy motherhood and I think now I am starting to take the right steps to make things better for my Son and myself. Having a Baby is the hardest things a woman can do but it is also the most rewarding too. Thanks for the ears!!
Velasco
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Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:48am |
to you.
my c/s was just nasty had to be knocked out didn't see my boy for a couple of hours, then i couldnt even hold him as i wasn't really with it. took awhile for me to bond with him, what with not being able to change him having to ring a bell anytime i wanted to feed him or cuddle him then having probs with feeding after we went home. we are all good now through i love my little boy so much, just wish i had been able to have a normal birth.
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