Lying :(

Charlotte went through a blatant lying phase eg- she would come home and say that the teacher turned into an aeroplane and chased her around the vegetable patch yelling at her and calling her a baby because she had fallen asleep. At that stage we just sort of went 'hmmmm' and gave her a look like she was talking bollocks. We tried not to give her any attention for the 'lying' and it stopped after a wee while.

As for what you're saying though- thats a tough one. I would personally be more inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt just in case. Maybe shower attention on Briona for being hurt then if that is what is happening all she'll see is that Briona gets lots of cuddles and she gets ignored- and if it isn't what is happening, then she isn't getting told off for something she didn't do.

we have had that for a little while with paris, in regards to the very same thing (teasing hitting, upsetting her sister), very often we will get down to her level and remind her that we tell the truth in this house and that really we cannot trust in her if she lies to us - ie the boy who cried wolf type thing (is actually a very good story to read to them).   Mostly she's fairly good now, once we remind her of that sometimes we still get the adamance that she did not do it. but if ayja is crying, which we know she doesn't just do for no reason, then usually we separate them both anyway and i will talk to paris alone and i think i have that "you know you can tell me, and you'll get in trouble, but not as much as if you keep lying" type of approach. usually just another ask of "are you sure you're being truthful, i like to hear the truth from your mouths" is enough for her to admit to things, if she is really really sure that she didn't do it, and genuine then we can usually tell. she gets this very coy, quiet look when she's lying. if she really didn't do something, she gets angry, not quiet.

There are some thing that we do let go if we are unsure, but mostly i do know that paris is going thru that silly teasing stage and ayja hasn't learnt to milk it quite yet.

it's just up to the situation. unfortunately it's a stage they go thru and it is upsetting, but reinforcing that truth is appreciated is mostly the way to go.

Edited by mum2paris

It's not just little girls lol, B has just started to do this too so I'm guessing it's and age stage thing, He taunts his sis something cronic but she can give back as much as she gets, but if she is tired it's a diff story and he denies being mean etc even when we can hear him lol!