A month on ponderings

So its been over a month now and I've been pondering some things..

I think I've surprised DH by suddenly going out and getting a couple of frames and putting 2 photos up in our house. I don't think he expected that at all. Poor boy I should have warned him a little first. Oops

DH has worse sleeping issues than I have.. to the point he actually went to our GP about it and has low dose antidepressants.

Why did I try and be a hero when I was in labour? The docs had already charted a ton of pain relief for me because that labour was meant to be much worse than a normal full term one (which it was far more painful) yet I chugged down gas and only a little fentanyl. I didn't want a bar of an epidural at the time, but then there probably wasn't time with less than 2hrs of labour

And I got cranky at a friend who says she can't handle the thought of the pain in labour and so wants an epidural and told her to harden up - probably not the best thing to say!

It does not sound like you tried to be a hero during labour to me It sounds like you did what you thought was right for you and your baby. Which is totaly normal.

Dont feel to bad about what you said to your friend, if it makes you feel any better after my baby died our freinds had theres all of a week later and started emailing pics like every other day I told her i wasnt interested in seeing any of there pics and to stop.

And yay for putting up pics!

Rich looks fine during the day. He doesn't act depressed or anything. It's just his sleep that is affected so he looks like crap at the start and end of the day because he's tired.

We have sleeping pills, but that doesn't solve the underlying cause of his sleep problems so he doesn't want to rely on them because theya re also addictive

Yeah he's tried all the natural stuff he can find. He's had sleep issues for a good year but they have just got worse. I think he's in contact with a social worker from the hospital.. I'm not sure, I didn't want a bar of it so they have been calling him directly I think.

Yeah I only had gas with him and a bit of local for the episiotomy. I don' tknow why I'm questioning it and don't know if I really am questioning it.

Not for me, I don't need it.I've taken the depression test a few times and I'm fine and I'd rather sort through it in my own way. But I have a friend who is a psychologist if I loose the plot lol

Sometimes there is just nothing that helps with getting your sleep back it just take time. But it does come back it took months for me to be able to sleep again my dh was able to sleep ok but he always went for a run or walk and found that really helped him.

Yeah he definatly has to give it more of a chance to work. My hubby also played xbox (which drives me nuts) when he wanted to unwind and not think about anything.