1st baby 10 weeks prem

I have a 15 month old son who was born 10 weeks early, while the first wee while was pretty scary he is now thriving. I would love my son to have a sibling but am scared of the same thing happening, I would be keen to hear from anyone who has gone through a similar experience and how you got on

Hi Georgiemum

If you go into the pregnancy section you will see a thread "high risk" pregnancies... there are a few mums in there who had prem babies who are pg with 2nd or 3rd bubbas and have gone on to carry to term.

GL

hi Georgiem - I guess a lot would depend on why your son was born early? My DD was 14 weeks early but no reason was found for it. So we have been told we only have a slightly higher risk than anyone else for having another prem. But yes, the decision to try for #2 was a scary one, I can't even begin to imagine how hard the NICU world would be with another child to think about    Good luck to you

Hi melnel

Thanks for your advice, I will check out the high risk pregnancy threads

Hi there,

I completely relate!

DS is now 2 1/2, he was born at 30 weeks (prom) and spent 7 weeks in the NICU roller coaster.

I have been ttc for a few months now, it took a long time until I was ready (or had forgotten how bad it was). I had a mc in Nov, so now I am worried about the first 14 weeks and the last 14.... doesn't leave you much time to enjoy being pregnant! I am so jealous of those that are fortunate enough to have had a good pregnancy and birth and healthy baby. They will never know how lucky they are.

But in the end, we feel that the family isn't complete yet, and you never know, maybe just maybe it will turn out ok.

Good luck with whatever you decide and feel free to pm me.

Hi SarahJane
I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. We also had a mc back in December. We were not planning a child so I was very suprised to find out that even though I was on the pill and have PCOS I was pregnant. (ironic considering we were a week off IVF when we conceived our first after months of charting, seeing fertility accupuncturists, naturapaths, you name it I saw them!) So when we found out we were pregnant again I was scared, then elated, only to loose the baby a few weeks later. So I guess now I am trying to decide whether to conciously try for another baby, in my heart of hearts I know I want too add to our family and feel that the love I would have for another child outways my fear of being in the same situation again.

Hi georgiem

My son was born 8 weeks early and is now almost 14m. Like you, we have no idea why he came early - my waters broke completely out of the blue at 31wks and with drugs and bed rest we managed to keep him in till 32wks but then he wanted out! So out he came. Up till then my pregnancy was really uneventful.

DH and I are currently TTC #2. I am trying to concentrate on getting pregnant first and then (if) we do I will probably spend the rest of the time waiting for the baby to come early

Good luck!

Ahhh thanks georgiem! I think he is gorgeous too but I am biased I think

Posted before I really meant to before .... I think I will stress out quite a bit when I get pregnant again but like you will be trying very hard to stay positive.

We were very very lucky with Callum; because he stayed in for a week post my waters breaking I had the steroid injections and they had time to work. C breathed on his own from the beginning and didn't need oxygen or anything. He was only in the NICU for 10 days but just being in there and speaking to other parents made us very grateful. Now I worry that with a second one, it could be even earlier and scarier IYKWIM.

BUT onwards and upwards - I try to take MIL's advice and not worry about things before they happen. Sometimes it works