Pre Natal Depression

Chick. Haven't been there but there is a thread in this forum from firsttimedad. Sounds like his wife is going through something similar. Maybe you could chat to him?

I was already on the meds when we conceived DS2, so my circumstances may be a little different. I did speak to my dr about coming off them in the months leading up to delivery, but he said that in the big picture a happy mum was probably the most important thing. Bubs was a little sleepy for the first couple of days, but that being said he was born with his bag of waters pretty much intact, and was pretty mucusy - I put this down to still being in the bag.

My MW gave me the MMH details during my first pregnancy because things were really getting me down and I wasn't coping - and having a history of depression. I was lucky that by 20 weeks when I finally stopped throwing up things took a bit of a turn for me.

Yup! Me too... I'm back on meds, not enjoying anything at the moment, everything is stressing me out and I've noticed I'm sleeping alot more, which was exactly the same as when I had clinical depression.

I can't find any reference to MMH where I live, I'm under the Otago/Southland DHB, I've spoken to my GP, he just gave me meds, my MW was supportive but said it was my choice whether to go on meds or not and didn't really give any advice. I told her I'm sick of being ill and having bouts of depression, I just want to get better, I've found the only time I've got help is when I've been on the brink and worked through EPS, once you're "ok" they discharge you and you're left to it... the MW said that I could get treatment but I'd have to pay for it myself, there is no funded long term treatment, which I knew anyway.

I feel so lost, I want help, but no one can seem to give it unless I'm on the edge, which I don't want to go back there... I can get 3 free sessions with a counsellor or psychiatrist through work, but after that I have to fund it myself.... I almost feel like faking it and heading into EPS just to get some help!

I feel like such a fraud, other people have started to notice that I'm not excited about being pregnant, I'm nervous about being a mum, worried about being a good mum, worried about my relationship with DH, worried about money, feeling fat instead of "glowing" and I can't seem to stop it!
If I go out for a walk in the cold, which would normally make me feel better to blow out the cobwebs, it only lasts a couple of hours and I'm back to the beginning. I'm not at the giving up on life point, but I don't want to get to that.

I did a bit of research on SSRI's and PG, for the brand that I'm on (Fluoxitine) there didn't appear to be any research on the 3rd Tri, I was going to stop them at the end of the 2nd Tri, I don't want baby to be adversely effected by the meds, no where I can seem to find any info as to whether it upsets baby's brain chemical balance, GP couldn't tell me either

LA - the articles that your MW gave you, do they have a website that I could check out?

Most info I've found is on PND, it doesn't appear that pre-natalD is recognised much?

I'm struggling to hold it together and I just want to let it all go, but I can't let myself, I feel like I'm faking it all day long, my friends and workmates wouldn't have a clue, DH knows, he's just trying to help me see the positives

i think that I am suffering from this, or a continuation of my previous depression. i came of my ssri when I found out I was pregnant after being on it for over a year. i think it is the constantly being sick and exhausted that is getting me down the most but it is hard to say. i am really not coping at the moment and dont know what to do. i will go back on the meds if i have to, but i might try antinausea meds first to see if that solves it.

Hi Ladies,
just to let you know that I went on antidepressants at about 24 weeks after my relationship broke down. Looking back I had had depression for years. I have a lovely healthy baby with no side effects from the drugs and it is all going OK.
MMH has been great for me and i still see them every 6 weeks or so.I am stiill on the drugs as my doctor has recommended that i dont stop till baby is at least 6 months old.

Newlywed as far as I know they are pretty much the same.

I am not doing so well at the moment. I have resigned from my job and am trying to work through my notice, but I am completely not coping so I am having just about as many days off as I am working. If any thing my nausea seems to be getting worse. I am sleeping for over 13hrs a night at the moment just getting up for toilet trips and am really struggling to get out of bed in the morning. I am still in bed today as I havnt had the energy to get up. I have pretty much no motivation to do anything and everything is a struggle at the moment. I am feeling really guilty as there are so many other pregnant people who are having it worse than me, and I also feel guilty as everyone seems so much happier than me about being pregnant even though this is something that I have been wanting for years. I have basically given up everything that I was doing in an effort to make everything work and it still isnt and I am at a lost of exactly what to do to fix things. I am being referred to maternal mental health and am going to see a doctor tomorrow as I am really not doing well and both dh and I can see it. I also feel really bad for the pressure that this is putting on dh as he is more like my parent, making sure I had a bath, have eaten, have gotten out of bed and checking on me as much as he can.

am having a bad day today. I missed my doctors appointment. I thought it was at 11.15 not 10.45 I even wrote it down while talking on the phone at 11.15. so am feeling pretty crap. Going back to bed is feeling like the best option right now.

quite a bit better. I talked to the doctor and he said that I dont have to go back to work so I am feeling a lot better about it all. Also I found out that missing the doctor yesterday was not my fault it was theirs so am feeling a lot better about that.

I am feeling really good today, leaving work has had a huge effect.