sleeping problems

Abby is now 4 months old and she refuses to sleep in her cot. She will only sleep in our bed. I have allowed her to do this as with a 3 and 8 year old I need sleep. However it's not doing much for our love life! any suggestions? Also we kept micheal and Jayden in our rooms until they were one but then had problems getting them into there own rooms, what age did you guys move baby?

We had paris in our room till she was about 7 months old, and was sleeping through the night, then we moved her to her own room. we stuck her in a bed at 11 months, before she had learnt to roll around and get out of bed. It worked really nicely.

This one will probably stay in our room till it's sleeping through again, simply for the fact that it will have to share a room with Paris until we move when i graduate, and i don't want it waking Paris up. Should be interesting though.. cos paris never learnt to roll over or stand up in her cot.. hence why we kept her in there so long (it's a portacot.. so i won't trust it once baby can stand up!) if this one learns to do all that stuff, then we'll be kinda screwed really.

abby will have her own room as the boys share. So maybe we will look at 6 months. The bed at 11 months sounds like a good idea Janine. we got so worried about Jayden climbing out of his cot we cut the legs off so he would'nt fall from a great height. I think I'm just going to have to put up with a few sleepless nights as far as our bed is concerned and try a little tough love. So hard when they are so cute though.

I actually think Paris slept sounder once she was in her own room - i mean, just us moving around while we were asleep - you can't tell me that wouldn't be enough to interupt baby's sleep.. i mean THEIR little movements wake us.. so i guess it would work the other way too.

If baby learns to stand in it's cot, then we will have to get a single bed and squeeze it into Paris's room, cos I wouldn't downsize Paris into a single bed, nor make her share her double one. . we only have until baby is 1 yr old until i graduate.. and either move to Hamilton, or move outta this house into a bigger better one in palmy. After that i plan to upgrade both kiddies beds into those bunks with double down the obttom and single up the top. so much easier having paris in a double bed..   she fell out a few times when she was sick once (and doped on phenergan after having allergic reaction to her immunisations) but other than that she has so much room, and she can take all those teddies that toddlers insist on taking to bed.. without being overly suffocated. lol.

She was quiet as a mouse stayed on my knee the whole time. lol.. have just PM'd you.

We want to get bunks for the boys but jayden is such a daredevil we are worried he will dive off and break something, mind you at 8 so would micheal, but he's legally blind so he won't see what he's landing on. At the moment they share a bed, because they both want to however with micky being 8 and a four and a half year age gap we figure he's going to get sick of it sooner rather than later. I think we need a bigger house but rents so dam dear. Going to try abby in her cot over the weekend so I can catch a few zzz's during the day if she doesn't do very well. I think your right Janine with troy gettting up at 4-30am and me at 6-00am It probably will start waking her.

my daughter went into her own bedroom at about 4-5months old i didnt want to do it cause i felt mean but i knew i had to. She has slept with alot since she was born but has always gone back into her cot pretty good. yeah she had a cry about it but thats all she needed.

Rachel & Brianna

I think as a first time parent - you feel so bad about letting baby cry, cos it cuts through you like a knife, right to where it hurts. but, after baby gets to the pre-terrible-twos and decides they can cry for absolutely no reason whatsoever, on and off like a light switch.. you get a little more immune to it unless it is necessary lol.   That and after spending time with my 4mth old nephew, who has a cry like a chainsaw, I can handle Paris, and i'm picking the newbie as well, crying a little. (seriously, everyone remarks how his cry seriously makes you just want to do SOMETHING to make him stop..feed him, cuddle him, anything, it is crazy!)

I must be a big softie, your all right of course. thanks lizzle, I like that I'm not makeing her cry I'm letting her. We were going to try her in her cot on Friday night however her darling 3 year old brother picked her up and dropped her on friday afternoon. She grazed her head on a toy car, so for piece of mind I kept her with us. Convientient aye. She is now at least sleeping in her cot during the day. So I guess I do just need to be harder. If she can do it during the day she can do it at night. I know it sounds dumb but I feel safer with her beside me. She's my third so you'd think you'd worry a bit less.

i found with my daughter i but a radio on underneath her cot right near her head on very low and his was enough to make her feel she is not alone. The ist week will be hard with her waking every hour or so but getting up and reasure her and go back to bed. It wont take long ang shell be sleeping thru.
Its better to but in the hard yards for aweek and be alittle sleeped deprived than have her in you bed for ever.some times tough love works good luck though.