Your alternate life...

I'd have no idea where my live would be if I didn't marry when i did. I started going out with Riki when I was 17 & knew he was the one. We had a few teething problems at the start & ALMOST broke up. If we had've, he would've gone on his O.E. & probably met someone else over there & I probably eventually would've found someone else myself. Whose knows what job I would be doing (something in the lines of office work, admin etc), but I never had any huge dreams for myself.

But we stayed together & after getting married when i was 19, we built a house (moved in on our first anniversary!), sold it a year later & went on our O.E. for 6 months, then come home & I fell pg with Rico & Riki started his own decorating business. We then went on to have Gia & now baby #3!

So all 'n' all we've had an awesome married life!! I never had any desire to travel, but Riki took me to Europe & England & "showed me the world". We had the best time ever & will never forget that. And now we have 2 totally gorgeous children with another due end of the month!!

I really couldn't ask for anything better & am VERY glad we decided to stay together even when I was so young.

Mel, you should never hold yourself responsible for what he did. He comitted suicide because he choose to! It was his final act of abuse and you should never let him have the upper hand and let that be part of your life! Live your life for yourself and for your children,not your past.

You should be so proud of yourself that you saved your child and yourself from even more misery.

Wow, it seems quite a few had involvement with drugs, I'm so glad that having a baby/babies changed your lives for the better

sorry babe. mistaken identity

Edited by busymum

I really had to think hard about this. I think if my attempted suicide was succesful well then it would have been the end. However if I didnt do it I wouldnt have moved on with my life. Still would have been petrified of my mother and wanted her approval. Most propably my relationship with hubby wouldnt have been good and we would have ended up in a divorce. Sometimes love enough is not good enough.

I might not have had the child I have or be the mother I am. I would have always questioned the mother I am and that would have been a negative relationship with my child. That is if I ever got pregnant and didnt keep on having mc's. My BP would have been sky high due to all kinds of stress. I dont think my heart would have gotten better and I would have died young.

I think it happened the way it should have. I have a lot more self confidence. I really dont give a damn what kind of mother people think I am. Have a great relationshp with my husband. (you know the I love you to the I am ready to kill you today kind of one) And I can keep my mother at arms lenght without having to feel quilty.

Okay now after that lot of personal info I think I better go clean the house.

I wouldn't change my life for anything, except maybe wished I had of gone to university as I am having to do it now to gain a qualification!

I was a sheltered, shy, very reserved person who had been in a relationship for five years that was going nowhere fast. My parents pushed me to go travelling at 21, they brought me air tickets and a Contiki around Europe for a month to see the world for my 21st birthday. I am so thankful to them for this as it changed me as a person, and has made me the person I am today.

I became confident, outgoing and learnt to love myself for who I am and to always live life to the fullest. I came home 2 years later (ditching the loser ex the day I left the country, and stayed way longer than I anticipated in the U.K) met my now DH within one month of returning home and have been with him for 6 years now. We did have a break 3 years ago with the intention of finding out what we wanted, whether we were both in it for the long haul together. Three months later we met for coffee shared our hopes and dreams with each other and re-united again, both knowing exactly where we are heading! Best thing we ever did!

If I had of stayed with the ex, he would still be smoking weed and poping pills, still wondering what to do with his life and we would be drifting all over the place. I heard from a friend recently that he has decided to travel, is still single and owns NOTHING and he's 32 for godness sake! Glad I got outta that one - PHEW! Thanks Mum and Dad, they saw the writing long before I could!!

Hmmmmm. Well If I hadn't of meet my guy friends half way through my first year of uni, I would of had my physiotherapy degree, or be in my last year of med school. I would have been on my OE. Probably would be single and playing the field. And definitely would of had no Kahtrell!.

If I hadn't of meet Kevin, I'd probably still be studying in Dunedin, still with my guy mates, getting drunk every day..apart from Tuesdays. I'd be failing in my studies, and probably studying something I didn't want to do anyway. And again wouldn't of had my Kahtrell.

If funny cos I always thought how much respect I have for mothers who are raising their little ones, and are studying at uni. I always thought I'd never be able to juggle those two roles. And yet next year I am returning to uni to start a Bachelor in Social Work.

I'm thankful how my life turned out (though I'll be honest, some aspects could be better...like being in our own place instead of with the inlaws) I have a man who loves me, and a beautiful son who I can't imagine my life without. I've been to uni, travelled (ok it might have been just to Oz but hey its a start! lolz) and now I'm a mother!!

ummmm i have had a lot off life changing moments if i had died at 14 from a overdose (suiaside)
i would not of seen my babysister grow up not wacth my little brother acheave his dreams seen my outer little bro go to uni had i not diced to get out of caregiving i would of never have meet james dad therefore never have had my bueutfull little boy i think life is gre4at now i have my son i have my family and i have my friends (real and online)and i belive life turns out the way you decied it will