Preparing a Toddler for CS

Ok that may sound kinda strange, but I couldn't think of how to phrase it. I have a hospital appointment when I'm 36 weeks to discuss options for delivery after the tear I got with Blair. I'm thinking that if I opt for a CS, that 4 weeks may not be enough time to prepare Blair (who will be 20 months old at the time) for things I will and won't be able to do afterwards.

So, what can I start doing now with him that would be useful for afterwards - especially if I do have a CS.

He's already in a big bed, so I'm not lifting him in or out of bed. He showers so I don't need to lift him in or out of that, he eats some of his meals at the coffee table on his little chair - I just need to step this up - and encourage him to feed himself his breakfast cereal to eliminate the need for me to pick him up for his highchaiir.

I taught Tom to get into his highchair too...just because he was heavy while pregnant. I also had him half climbing into and out of his cot....with me helping. Apart from the first week or so, I found I could "lift" him out of bed if I stood right against the cot and he climbed up into my arms and then I let him slide down me to the ground....IYKWIM

IT wasnt too bad!

How about climbing in and out of the car? A couple of my friends had CS with both babies and it was a real strggle to get the big kids in and out of the car and their seats - it is bending and twisting/leaning.

If you have a high car/4WD you may want to have a step you keep in the car for him to climb up and down and also show him how to climb into the seat itself.

Any more tips would be appreciated guys. I'm carrying a big bub so after an emergency c section last time and me being small it looks like I'll be having an elective. (Just had the growth scan today and I see my doc on tues, then specialist).

Jake gets in and out of his highchair already. But I just figured DH would be doing his bath and putting him into bed (hes in a sleeping bag so can't get up or down by himself) for the first few weeks, and I won't be able to drive so DH or mum will be with me to get him into the car. Will I need DH/mum there for 6 weeks every day though - to get him into bed for naps????

I've had him walking up the stairs more ... and we sit on the ground next to each other alot, instead of him on me or trying to get on me on the couch.

How hard have others found it dealing with a 2/almost 2 year old after a c section?

The nappy changes are a worry .... he kicks me at times already and hates having to lie down when I need to change it! DH will be doing that too while hes home with me!!