Developmental Delay

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   I have two children with developmental delay. A boy who is 8 but has Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. He is a lot slower physically than his friends and academically he is about two years behind his peers. He struggles with writing, maths and reading in particular. He is a real little trooper. What he struggles with in one area he makes up for in another. I get the whole "awkward" moment thing when other parents find out. It's almost like there's this unwritten thing where I must have done or not done something to have my son have this condition. I don't know. I find it hard to have the teachers take me seriously too. It's almost like they assume I mustn't be helping my son with his homework which is contributing to his issues at school funnily enough however the school has documentation about my son's condition stating that boys with this condition do often have learning disabilities. My daughter who is 2 has a similar delay to my son as she is most likely a carrier for the condition my son has which may have caused her muscular weakness. She has been a late walker and talker (so only months of delay). My son was like that but of course the gap widened once he got to school. I don't know if my daughter will be the same as my son. It's too hard to say I guess. She's a real trooper too. 
I find it so hard relating to parents with "normal" children. There seems to be that judgement there that I don't play with my kids enough, read to them enough etc etc. I even get this from family members. One family member tried to tell me duchenne muscular dystrophy is caused by a vitamin D deficiency which must have been caused by my kids not getting enough sunlight! 