Pro-C/Section Support / Chat / Tips

Hoestly I know what you mean but I came across so many on this site with good positive experiences that it put my mind at ease about choosing an elective for my 2nd. I asked a lot of questions snd and we all shared tips which was great. My recovery with both CS was helped by a couple of things I think, really good support from partner. He just took over the cooking, cleaning, washing etc for the first few weeks and I didnt try to do more than I should, just chilled with bubs. I also was told the quicker you get moving around after surgery the better. ..so on 2nd day in hosp made myself get up for a shower with help and from then on woukd    slowly shuffle round to kitchen and back for exercise. By the end ofmy stay in hosp day 5. Was feeling ready for home.

All hosps have diff policies and have heard of some that let partner stay. They will normally try to give you a single room for a CS..usually with yr own ensuite. A huge thing that I checked out hosp for when we looked around is a bed that goes up and down etc with a pulley handle above to hold onto..helps with mobility and independence in the first few days. We were going to go to Waikato but rejected it after seeing state of the ward etc and opted for Tauranga which my MW was also affiliated with. Good idea to have yr mum up to help out if you all get on..but have heard stories of some visitors that were more work than help IYKWIM. Another good tip for any new mum is get lots of meals made and frozen beforehand. Makes a huge diff to your days with a newborn..

Hi there - I am so pleased to finally find a forum like this. I had a wonderful midwife for my first pregnancy and did everything right, I thought, but ended up with an emergency c section. There was nothing anyone could have done. I was advised to have a specialist for future pregnancies and sought two independent opinions and reluctantly agreed to an elective c section as I was strongly advised this was my only safe option. I have now had 3 cesareans. I still don't understand what the stigma is. I have had some really negative and hurtful and nasty comments made to me about it. But what was I supposed to do? We didn't want this to stop us having more children but it has to be safe for mum and baby. The second was somewhat complicated but funnily enough the third has been a breeze! I don't tell people I have c sections anymore because I hate not knowing what the response is going to be. It is not my choice to have my births this way, I would do anything to change it, but I adore my 3 children and know they are worth it :-) Those of us who have had c sections should support each other and slowly help to educated people that it is not necessarily a 'choice' but just a fact of life. Without these interventions, not so long ago, 1 in 8-9 woman died in childbirth. I was told I would have been one of them, I was as close as half an hour away the specialists reckon. Pretty scary thought really.

Hi Hayley

Have you had your c section ? How did it all go?

Reassurance needed,

I am having a c section birth mid jan, dr keeps saying around 39 weeks, preferably closer to 40 and that is all fine with me. What I'm starting to stress about is I have not been given an actual date yet. Just wondered when those tht have had scheduled c sections were given the confirmed date. I need to organise my support like my mum to come up and help me and she needs to book time off work , and of course my husbands time off work, but I am assuming they are flexible with that due to the nature of birth. I'm just aware I will need extra help so the more precise the timing of help the better.
Anyway at what stage did you get your surgery booked in?
Thank you all

Ok, gee that is close, can I ask what hospital this was at?