The evil green monster

Just thinking back, to what I mentioned on the earlier page, about the big silence around infertility . . . I’m thinking people are kinda damned if they mention it, damned if they don’t.
If you know what I mean.
Ok the silence exists, maybe because people DON’T know what to say or how to broach the subject, so they leave it alone, and perpetuate the cycle.
While equally, how many threads or insensitive remarks have we either heard in person or on this board, however well-meant? I know I will NEVER ever ask anyone if they are planning kids now.

Yeah the trick, if there is one, is to accept the feelings and that it doesn’t make you a ‘bad’ person. And see if you can hold on to that when in one of those 'long dark night' times

On a more positive note, I heard another pregnancy announcement today, and found I was GENUINELY happy for that person, and could ask interested questions about her pregnancy and how she was.
Of course now the green monster thing has reared its head and I’m getting the “why not me STILL, why does everyone else seem to get it right first time?” but its ok. I realise that the true ‘now’ moment, ie with that person, that the feelings I had were genuine, and its just my whiney egoey stuff that’s kicking out currently. Its good to know, because I have really REALLY dreaded the face to face announcements, but it was ok in reality. The monster comes up later, but that’s better than in public.
Of course, I had to tune out and leave afterwards, when randoms start approaching her and gushing out the pregnancy talk. I can’t sit and listen to that.