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 Posted: 04 April 2010 at 12:21am |
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Having been on anti-depressants before, can I just mention that you often feel very very sleepy after starting medication, but it gradually wears off - I think in the first 48hrs. Drs don't acknowledge this often but it's a common experience. And it often doesn't really start to feel like it makes a difference for 2wks depending on what medication you are on.
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Posted: 16 April 2010 at 11:53am |
I haven't read the posts yet. But I am also going through the not coping. Especially worse due to current school holidays and DD who is 7 in October being very naughty, due to boredom and not feeling like I have any genuine friends anymore and having financial issues and car issues. I have maternal mental health visiting once a week which helps and also PND support are going to ring me once a week to see how I am and also there is a support group and 8 wk course starting soon, so hope that helps, though at the moment due to car being non-operational, don't know if I can get to it  I am planning to go to a PIN group too when plunket let me know when there is one to go to. I find ohbaby forums are a good support too though. So glad I found ohbaby! I had the PND real bad the first 3 wks after Annabelle was born and thought it had gone, but no, it's come back again. Got to the point a few weeks ago where I wanted to self-harm, so called DP and got him to come home, so I didn't do anything dumb. Right better go, I was supposed to be hanging washing out, but got distracted by ohbaby again LOL! Will come back and read posts later.
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Posted: 16 April 2010 at 12:12pm |
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I too have been guilty of yelling at baby, especially those first 3 wks and then bawled my eyes out when DP told me off for it. I've felt exactly you you described Bex and I too have a history of depression.
ETA. PND support did say that birth and labour, though it may not have been too traumatising can contribuate to Mum's feeling like this and it can last for upto 1 year for some Mum's.
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Posted: 16 April 2010 at 12:20pm |
 Lexiesmumma wrote:
Also with my depression as a teenager I was always feeling like I was wearing a mask around other people, I don't like people to see me not coping, and seeing me upset so I put on my happy mask and so people may not realise being around me that I have all these issues going on inside of me. |
I so relate to that feeling.
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Posted: 20 April 2010 at 1:47pm |
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I've been having more not coping moments since last week. I think the end of school holidays didn't help, as older DD was getting more bored and acting up and being very naughty. And this week I am sick, so that isn't helping my mood. Yesterday was a real crap day.
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Posted: 21 April 2010 at 6:43am |
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I had a crap day yesterday too! Must have been something in the water :-)
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Posted: 22 April 2010 at 8:14pm |
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Let's hope the water improves then and we get some better days.
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Posted: 24 April 2010 at 6:24pm |
 Hope since you first posted this that things have made a good turn. I know we dont speak anymore but it saddened me to see how hard things have been for you.
This forum is the best thing in the world and i would be at times lost without it. It was the lovely ladies on here that helped me through my depression while pregnant and I hope that having the same support on here will help you through your hard time.
One day you will look back and see how far you have come and how much you have achieved and also learned.
Also Hugs Kelly and everyone else on here that are able to acknowledge openly that they arent coping cos that helps everyone else on here to know they are not alone and not abnormal for their feelings
I have a phone number for someone that runs a PND support group in the Hutt, someone who used to be a client and she gave me her number just in case i needed it so would be happy to pass it on and she would be more than happy for anyone to contact her about joining in etc.......or just to talk, PM me if you would like it
Just remember to take each day as it comes and OB is always here with some awesome advise and support.
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Posted: 24 April 2010 at 9:22pm |
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Yeah I am going to a Wellington PND support group for 8 wks starting next week. It will be good I think. Especially meeting people going through the same thing. I am also going to a PIN group now too for 2nd and 3rd time Mum's. I have PND support person call once a week also to check how I am. Plus I have a lady visit from Maternal Mental Health once a week. I have also started a coffee group on here for new mum's and mum's to be. I am hoping this all will help. I find when I don't get to socialize much I get more overwhelmed and more depressed.
I did have a crap day when the Maternal Mental Health lady visited on Wednesday. I didn't like what she had to say and felt offended and pissed off at some of the things she said. I think I was just feeling depressed so I took offense to some things she said. I was feeling so crap I felt like telling her not to come back. PND sux at times like that.
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Posted: 24 April 2010 at 9:27pm |
Thankx for everything you had to say Chickielou. 
And yeah it is great having people on here so open and honest. It helps. And I agree with something some said to me about feeling like you are a failure for feeling this way, though we are not.
I find when I am stressed my resistance gets low and I get sick easier and when I am sick I get down. Stupid weather making me sick grr!
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Posted: 21 May 2010 at 10:35pm |
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Man I'm feeling a bit peeved at the moment. It's hard to know whether I'm just overly sensitive due to the PND or not. But I start things like a meet up and coffee group and there is always someone who seems to bulldoze in so to speak and take things over or put things to an end to these groups I create. I'm trying to find friends, so I have some support and have some more opportunites to socialize, as I get more down if I don't see people socially very much. Makes me feel rejected, like I'm not good enough and people would rather not be around me. Doesn't help my mood.
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