Your recommended time to have a baby

That sounds good. Well DD is 6months now so that would make for a 15month gap..What kind of support did you have when your second was born? As I have just moved and don't really know many people. And i'm pretty sure I will be needing an extra hand!

My first was born in July and it was definitely an effort to keep things warm and my power bill made me cry lol my second is due next Feb so I'm hoping it'll be easier allround.

I didn't want my kids too close together coz a. I wanted to really be able to enjoy each stage and b. I wanted to be sure I didn't overload my body. I had hyperemesis with my first (violent vomitting for 9 months) and since I know I don't handle lack of sleep so good I wanted to make sure I didn't go from an exhausting pregnancy to sleepless nights to an exhausting pregnancy AND sleepless nights!!

I know a couple of young mums (under 20) and one of them are lazy, selfish and I'm so sad for the life her kids will have, but I also know a young mum who has a wonderful husband and daughter and you wouldn't know shes only 19. Shes mature and cheerful and responsible and her hubby and daughter adore her. I really think its the attitude you have that defines you, not your age.

Madiandme wrote: That sounds good. Well DD is 6months now so that would make for a 15month gap..What kind of support did you have when your second was born? As I have just moved and don't really know many people. And i'm pretty sure I will be needing an extra hand!

I used to stay at my parents for one night a week and I had playgroup that we went to. I think something like playcentre would be great if you didn't have heaps of support. Your DD would be settled in before baby arrives and then you can go along when you feel like crap and all the other Mums can help out with your DD or baby.

Lots of great ideas there guys! Rachandjack- I think thats a brilliant idea! I do have my dad down here. I think you've all talked me into braving a local playgroup. Of course I will post my experience. Babe- When I was trying out the young mum course I found myself pitying some of the children there as there mothers seemingly dumped them on friends and family just to get drunk! Others just plain disrespected their children often neglecting simple needs. These are the ones that give the bad name to the rest of us!

Madiandme wrote: Lots of great ideas there guys! Rachandjack- I think thats a brilliant idea! I do have my dad down here. I think you've all talked me into braving a local playgroup. Of course I will post my experience. Babe- When I was trying out the young mum course I found myself pitying some of the children there as there mothers seemingly dumped them on friends and family just to get drunk! Others just plain disrespected their children often neglecting simple needs. These are the ones that give the bad name to the rest of us!

Oh let us know what one you try would love to know how you get on.

We had a summer baby and it was horrible - 35+ degree days in 2008, we really struggled to keep him cool. Plus the last thing you want to do is hold a sweaty newborn all day! I hated being pg over Xmas too, I soaked my feet (which were so swollen) in buckets of ice cold water all day long and just sweated like a pig

This time around will be an end of winter baby which I'm looking forward to. Will be up enough that I'll be able to keep the fire going 24 hours so thats good. And by the time I'm ready to get back into normal life, the days will be getting longer and the mornings lighter

Oh and a 19/20 month age gap, which I'm hoping will be great down the track.