how do you know

im not sure if ive got pnd....i just havnt felt myself for along time.I have 3 kids 6mnths,2 and 7 and for a long time have been refusing help from others and get quite distressed when people offer help, im now feeling like i dont want 2 go any where or see anyone and my moods are up and down. One day i feel like im in top of the world then 2 days l8er i feel like evrythng is just 2 hard and i want to run away..i dont whats wrong with me but i do kno i want to feel my same happy self again...im not 2 keen on meds and not even sure if i want to talk 2 a dr about this...what should i do

Hi Helen. I feel exactly the same as you. I have decided (as of this week) that I do have a degree of depression, maybe post-natal, but quite possibly due to the huge list of major things that have happened in my life / family over the past few years.

I am at the start of this journey as you are so can't offer any specific tips but can express my understanding.

I am starting several things:
1. herbal treatements to help balance my system / hormones etc.
2. counselling to get some help in gaining perspective.
3. osteo treatment to help with my hormone imbalances from the miscarriages.

I've battled with feeling like you do for nearly 2 years but felt I could get through it as I have always been able to cope with anything. Good on you for speaking up as it took me until now to do so.

Acknowledging your feelings in a great start. Mel's suggestion of surrounding yourself with friends is a great one but in my experience hard to do. They need to know how you are feeling (I'm speaking to myself here too as I've kept it to myself). Sometimes we have to take more initative in arranging to meet people etc and that is hard to do when you feel down. It's like feeling isolated breeds being isolated IYGWIM??

Finally, I don't know how you feel my biggest issue is feeling I should be able to just get perspective and get over it but sometimes we have to give ourselves time and resources to heal.