My 4yo teenager

Actually, that may be the wrong subject name since all the teenagers I know are far more respectful.  Maybe "my 4yo Empress" is more appropriate.

Anyone else have one of these? 

She's a lovely, fun, polite little lady... much of the time.  Recently she's been so defiant and tries to order me about.  I'll ask her to do something like get dressed and she'll say "NO, I won't" or I'll serve up dinner and she'll announce "I not want this, you have to make me something else".  When she gets in an empress mood she has to be right.  It drives me nuts when she gets like this.