Hitting
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Topic: Hitting
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: Hitting
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 12:15am
| not such a new thing, but Jake is hitting big time. He slaps really really hard and giggles. I keep saying "no, we don't hit people" but he giggles at me and hits again. I don't wanna hit him back as I figure that's a bit counter-productive, any ideas? he slapped me in the face today and as we got up at 6AM with no naps today I was very very angry and had to walk away...but regardless of my mood, i really don't want him hitting. |
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 7:42am
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What seems to work for us is giving no attention. Saying that hitting hurts, mummy, daddy etc. And putting them in their cot, room etc with no toys. going back a short time later asking them if they would like a cuddle "mummy loves your cuddles".
Praising all the time for nice play. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 8:15am
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that's the same as we do - saying "no, we don't hit, that hurts!" and then putting them down and walking away - because usually for kids that age, that immediate loss of attention from mum or dad is enough to make them pretty upset and teach them that hey, if i hit then mummy goes away and i'm left to play by myself.
definately praise for nice play too like Maria said.. when he does play nice or give cuddles stress how much you like them, when he hits, just say no and put him down.. that way he's getting attention for the good behaviour not the bad. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 9:26am
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My friend's boy used to hit a lot, not so much now she did the above and also taught her boy how to be gental, which I think helped ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 2:54pm
| Yeah, I'll try the no attention thing, but it doesn't help at the moment we are at the PIL's who think the sun shines out of Jake's bum!! He gets sooooo much attention and is going through so much change. Got more sleep today so am feeling a lot better about coping. Was nearly in tears all day yesterday. And Jake hasn't been hitting as much today.....hopefuly just a phase..if not, watch out palmy BBQ! |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 4:14pm
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im sure the other kids will put him in his place lol
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Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 4:29pm
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Arna will for sure!! She's been doing the hitting thing too but as attention for me to put her down!! So if she get's tired and grumpy at the BBQ we will just put the 2 of them together for a taste of their own medicine!! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 14 November 2005 at 4:38pm
Ohhhhh that mite be quite light entertaiment lol ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 15 November 2005 at 8:46am
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Kiya will sort them out she is such a little madam! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 15 November 2005 at 12:24pm
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i have a feeling this will be an interesting day!!!!
Have got the family in on Jake's discipline in regards to hitting. Yesterday he thumped MIL and she put him down and said "i don't want to play with a boy who hits" and he stopped. I was impressed. She had been hitting him (lightly) back but he seemed to think of this as a game. Walking away seems to help On another note I watched supernanny for the first time last night. I want to divorce Lewis and marry her now...go civil unions!! |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 15 November 2005 at 2:25pm
I know! Isn't she fantastic!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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