Before you went home...
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Category: Support
Forum Name: C-Section Support
Forum Description: Had a caesarian section? Planning an elective caesar? Or a VBAC? Or want to know about recovering from a c-section? Talk to other mums who have had c-section deliveries here.
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Topic: Before you went home...
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: Before you went home...
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:16pm
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Were you seen by the social worker or anyone who checked what help you had at home??? were you offered any help, home help perhaps?.
My mother was very surprised that i wasnt as a caesar is major surgery and evern after her hip replacement she was eligible for home help for 6 weeks... She said after any other surgery they quiz you about your circumstances at home before discharging and was very surprised they sent me home without making sure i had help... Is this normal? Or was i just a forgotten person? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:26pm
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I was never asked or offered any help. I thought that if you had other children though that you were entitled to help. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 3:39pm
no wasnt asked either would of been nice though ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:09pm
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Nope I was never offered any help. I asked my midwife and she said
"mothers that dont push their babies out arent entitled to any more help than the next mother" I was like Oh OK then lol. She said that c/s recovery should be fast and if its not its generally due to a) your weight b) your diet c) laziness and an unwillingness to try. She had more of a stern approach to some topics I guess ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:17pm
how rude... its bloody majoy surgery having someone cut thru all those layers of flesh and muscle and what not! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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NeoshasMummy wrote:Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 5:26pm
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I know, I kept trying to tell her that I was in ALOT of pain and couldnt get in and out of bed or stand straight and she said that some women just have a higher pain tolerence. Turned out my staples were to tight and had been tugging at the wound causing a very nasty infection.
I was young and nieve but I definately wont tolerate that sort of thing now! She was against C/S I found out later by talking to other nurses and docs and stuff. EDIT: personally I believe its harder than having a natural birth especially if it was an emergency, u got through hours of painful labour only to be ripped open and stuck in bed for days then only half mobile for weeks after that. I used to feel jelous when I saw people out shopping with their babies the day after having them because I remember just being in agony! Im hoping for a less stressful time during round 2 lol ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:05pm
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No checks as such but my MW was stoked when she found out DH and my mum would be helping as she said I'd need it (and she was right). She maintained that an elective C was better than a bad vaginal birth anyway.
But if you're labouring and then have a C sect surely you've had a rougher time than someone who has had a straight forward vaginal birth. Mind you they don't actually cut the muscle during a c-sect unless it's a crash. Otherwise it's just pulled aside so I had better strength than my friend who had his appendix out and did have his muscles cut. -------------  
 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:15pm
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I think you are Deb as you have other children. Quiz the hospital over the phone about it. I personally don't know as I haven't had a C/S but when I had my lap (and I don't know if it was coz I went private) but I could of had a few hours of home help each day for a few weeks but I didn't take it up as we had already arranged help for me and Andrew. However after my hystorectomy i'll be taking up any offer. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 6:35pm
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my dad wasnt eligable for home help after hip replacement...:( dunno why..
i had the labour and the emergency c section..i took 4 weeks to feel ok..i dont think my weight mattered..i wasnt lazy unwilling..how rude!:) my mw gave me more visits than usual but i sure wasnt offered extra help..got an extra hospital appointment..lucky me:) but thats it.. if i had other kids i would have thought it would be necessary but i would think unlikely to get help then either:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 9:57pm
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Nope I never got offered anything not even pain relief, mind you I went home a day after my c sect cos it was so traumatic I needed to get out of there and the nurses were so MEAN!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 31 March 2008 at 11:28pm
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i THINK and don't quote me on it.....you can get help if you have other children at home and there's no one there to help you. i asked about it but as DH was off work, i wasn't eligible ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 8:13am
They were mean???/ Thats not very nice, I found the nurses AWESOME BUT I hated being there without my partner I would cry as soon as he left and never slept until he came back so it was a hard time ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:11pm
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They were terrible and being a nurse myself now i would never put up with that sort of treatment. I was very young at the time and with having just laboured for too many hours, had my baby's shoulder stuck on my pelvis bone and then nearly losing her and having an emergency c-sect was too much for a 1st time mum to deal with esp being a teen mum at that. There werent LMC back then so I had my GP Npractice nurse come and take the staples out at home. SHe did it too early and my wound opened a few layers. As they couldnt staple it back together I had to leave it to heal from the inside. It was a really badtime of my life. I guess in some ways I am still not over it. That became clear to me when I had my son and he was stuck due to the cord around his neck twice and I point blank refused to have a c-sect. they even had the OB there trying to talk me into but I was adament I was having a VB as te horror of my 1st childs birth still haunts me..
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:11pm
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EKk sorry Deb, I didnt mean my last post to become a rant ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 1:25pm
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Kels that sounds TERRIBLE!!!!! ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 2:15pm
oh thats alright - you are allowed to rant! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 4:37pm
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Have you PMed AnnC? I think she had home help after a c/s. I didn't get offered any but I only had a c/s for #1 - not that that's not hard work with abdo surgery!! -------------  |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:09pm
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i wasnt offered any help...i had five days in hosp, felt pretty good when i came home and even braved the stairs (admittedly mostly only morn and night!!!) but by four weeks i was emailing Anil (spec) to beg him to say OK you can drive...I walked around botany a day or so after i came home, and by four weeks was driving there and back and walking around pushing stroller quite happily...slowly but out and about nonetheless....
I would have LOVED someone to step in and do washing etc etc....maybe next time (altho I know for a fact the amazing Ginger did offer to come do it to BSDH! and I am grateful for the offer) |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:09pm
ok sounds awful - I meant "do it" as in housework! LOL!!!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 9:40pm
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It's cause you said do it "to" BSDH instead of "for" ------------- |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 01 April 2008 at 10:40pm
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Oh BS - that's too funny! *filthy laugh*
I was never offered ANY help at all after my CS or my private lap! Only had a visit from the physio lady just as I was about to walk out the door (on day 4 after CS). NeoshasMummy - Your MW needs to be struck off! Fast recovery from a CS?!?! Like heck! I think her attitude was disgusting and she should not be allowed to look after anyone else! 
Unfortunately there are far too many people that still think that haveing a CS is the easy way out. If only!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: mumoftwins
Date Posted: 10 April 2008 at 8:50pm
| I had a c-section with my twins and I don't recall anyone asking if I had help at home, but I know we talked about how DH was having a month off work so maybe they decided that was all the help I needed. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 10 April 2008 at 10:41pm
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wow just discovered this thread and probably way too late to offer any help. But I had heard you got offered home help after a c section from a friend And so when I was booked into an elective i asked my midwife. Which she said was true, so after I had Rhyley I transferred down to our local maternity home and stayed there 4 days (my midwife was a huge beleiver in people staying longer when theey have had a ceasar or first time mum - she was great) She also brought the forms for home help and got them filled out with me and sorted. I had a person come round twice a week for 1 and half hours per day to do the vacumming, bathroom, washing out and beds. It was great and well worth it, you get it for 6 weeks - although I only got for 4 weeks as it came to christmas and no home help people to work, but dh was off then so no worries.
All i say is make sure you ask and ask and ask for it as you are entitled to it - as long as you have no one who can be home for you and espec if you have other kids as that was a big thing that got me it - even if the kids were older they still make a mess. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: grrrgrrrr
Date Posted: 07 May 2008 at 12:34pm
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Mmm I think the word elective needs to be explained to some people, I have placenta previa and everyone keeps telling me how lucky I am that I am having a c-section.
I don't consider myself lucky at all, woudl much rather have no complications and do things "naturally". I'm looking around to try to find some home help at the moment as I am scheduled for the 30th May, any ideas of where to look for the Brooklyn area in Welly? ------------- Mattias 2yo Henrik almost 1 |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 07 May 2008 at 3:55pm
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pity you dont get it (i assume) if you have a DH who has to go back to work after 4 days like me:(
leas ti had Mum every wednesday...sadly two_blondinis I'm ashamed to admit i used to think it was the easy way out ... but rest assured i know different now... and sofiaj people say some stupid stupid things dont they:( no c-section is every 'lucky' no matter elective or not. ! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 May 2008 at 4:01pm
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Yes I had an elective because of him being breach and my sister in law said to me "at least you won't have to go through the pain of labour" no cos recovering from a major surgery whilst looking after newborn will be a breeze!!!!!! Idiots.
Sofia speak to your mw she should be able to give you the right info about any home help that you are entitled. I also hate the word elective too as it makes it sound like you are choosing it rather than it being for a medical reason. -------------
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Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 07 May 2008 at 7:10pm
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Hey all,
my Mw got me home help, i was told if you have two kids under two you should get help. i will be getting two hours a week for 4 weeks. ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: 2bmumof3
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 7:15pm
| Wow, I never even considered that I might have been entitled to extra help after c-sections. I've had 2 c-sections and my kids were 17 months apart. I do remember my midwife asking if there would be anybody home and yes my husband was for 2 weeks so I guess that was her disqualifying me from additional help??? Would have been nice though, even with the relatively easy recoverys I had |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:41pm
Omg that is rude! I got that one as well "oh well at least u didnt have to give birth and experience all that pain" um excuse me I went through 25 hours of labour before being cut open and left stuck in bed for 2 days! Giving me pushing pain anyday thank u very much ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 8:27pm
I too went through the labour before getting the big slice.. and it's definitely not nice especially when you've finished and in recovery (before I had even met my little girl properly) and you get taken down to have yet another ultrasound because they think they've stuffed your kidneys  -------------  
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