On a break
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Topic: On a break
Posted By: AngieBabe
Subject: On a break
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 11:24am
Hehe, I'm starting this thread for those of us floating about OB who are like Ross & Rachel on Friends and are "On a Break" 
I'm not not TTC, just taking a step back from the more intense parts of it like charting and constant undie-watching for CM  we've decided that until I have my Lap to remove my Endo, which I'm on the waiting list for (one month down, approx 5 to go...) that we'll just wing it and see what happens - maybe even enjoy sex for the sake of it - shock, horror!  
Plus I start my new job in a couple of weeks so will probably need a bit of the concentration levels I've dedicated to TTC for that for a bit!  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 11:29am
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ill join the on a break i have a 4cm cyst waiting to burst and think i may have had one last month (guessing from the pain i got before starting to bleed) so if its a continuing thing ill be cruising untill they figure it out. im also not not TTC but figure it probably cant happen with this cyst anyway so mite as well relax ------------- 
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 2:43pm
I'll join in here too... 
Also not not trying, but am on a break to focus on losing a bit of weight again and am starting a new job in a couple of weeks too Angiebabe, so will need to focus on that for a bit... cos it will definately keep me on my toes!!! ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 3:39pm
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Well we all know I'm *SO* in here lol My reason is that I have too much on at home right now and simply CAN'T BE ARSED TTC (excuse the language -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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)....Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 3:41pm
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I'm on a break too. Had my second m/c a couple of weeks ago so am taking time out to see a specialist and get tested as well as having a break from the stress. I am definitely not ttc because I am scared of getting pregnant at the moment in case I m/c again. ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 3:48pm
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((hugs)) Vanillabean....it's all really still new for you as it hasn't been long...bless. Not that it ever gets easier...sigh....maybe all us Welly ladies can have some *irish* coffee at our meet up?! if we're not TTC then it might be a plan lol...I could sure do with a drink today! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 12 July 2008 at 6:10pm
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Sounds a plan Karen! Hehe, 'specially if it's a yucky day like today! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 13 July 2008 at 9:47am
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Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 15 July 2008 at 1:35pm
Anyone else feeling oddly without a 'friend' on this break? Now that AF is all over it's kinda weird not to be reaching for my thermometer every morning, but so far I'm enjoying it (how contrary am I sounding!  )
Will probably have to stop myself doing some mental arithmetic later on in my cycle though - it's become such a habit knowing what's happening on what day of my cycle ... should probably remove my ticker so I'm in ignorant bliss the whole time!  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 15 July 2008 at 1:44pm
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Lol I removed my ticker, I don't want to know where I am... I think I'm past day 40 now though
Ahhh, I guess I'm lucky, when I decide to have a break, I really get one... don't get AF so no reminders for me... although I was charting and found that a bit hard to break the habit, but am now totally over it with the thermometer hidden well away ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 30 July 2008 at 9:04pm
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Thought I would bump this thread up... it still applies to me, guess it continues to be true for others too!
Three days into my new job and if every day is like today was there won't be a lot of time to contemplate the time til my surgery and the whole TTC thing - which I guess is good, though I wouldn't mind an update on where my surgery is placed and maybe an actual date confirmed. Now that I work for a government department they're very strict on personal internet access so not so much chatting in here from me anymore either  apparently they monitor who logs in where and for how long then name and shame the high users so I'll behave and not sneak in here during the day as I don't want everyone knowing I'm addicted to OB ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 30 July 2008 at 10:06pm
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Ah Angie, that sucks not being able to use work time for personal internet time! lol How is the job going though? Enjoying it? Well AF is due tomorrow....I *think* and boy have I got a baaaaad dose of PMS!!! Haven't been like this for a while. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 8:36am
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Im on a break lol, just noticed this thread.
Im over it.. have lost my cluck and plain and simple can't be bothered and I have been alot happier for it and so has DP and I don't think we have "done it" since I decided I wanted a break either and that doesn't bother me at all lol Im over m/c's, BFN's and chemical pregs and pretty much wouldn't mind if I never had another one at the moment... I know that will change at some stage but not right now. DP has been talking heaps about having another bub, he wanted a break as well in the beginning but I think he is getting nervous because I am so off babies at the mo and I know he wanted another one. In a way it will be good, Neosha will be a bit older and I won't need a double buggy so it's all good AND im going to have a raging 4 days in Auckland in 3 weeks BABYLESS lol so im going to make the most of it while I can. I have even told DP that if he wants to start DJ' ing again at night he is more than welcome lol im being pretty blazee about it all but heres hoping my cluck doesn't come back with avengence!!
Sorry about the novel ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 8:47am
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Me!! Not that we were hard out TTC anyway, but I just a bit scared about it all - birth scares the hell out of me!
Also Im just concerntrating on my weight at the moment - have lost 13kgs YAH! 
Like the others we are not not trying to but certainly not trying! |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 10:07am
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Me kind of ....
Firstly both DH and I are too tired for sex ... but mostly I need to get my weight back down to normal before I get fat again! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 10:37am
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im in here too, but not by my choice... hubby doesnt want to try again for he says a year, i say 6 months cos i am so clucky and if it wasn't for him saying that he wants to wait then i would be trying as soon as possible!
I know he just doesn't want the stress of last time and i understand that cos god knows i never want to go through that again but man, i can't stop thinking about babies! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
 Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 11:28am
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Hey Hannahbil, after my miscarriage my DH said he didn't want to try again for a whole year as well! Then he kept noticing all the cute babies all over the place and decided he did want to try again, so we did! (and touch wood I stay pregnant this time!)
Hope your DH realises how much he really does want a baby soon so you can get back to trying again ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 12:01pm
Thanks Rach - don't think he will change his mind so soon as i am already back on the pill (started this week  ) i do hope tho that he comes around sooner rather than later.
And Rach, i got real good feelings for you! this baby is gonna stay round forever! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 31 July 2008 at 1:03pm
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Aww, thanks Hannahbil, I hope so too! Having my first scan at 6:20pm tonight, pretty nervous/excited!
I told DH I didn't want to go back on the pill because of how screwed up my cycles were after finishing it, so he had to use condoms if he wanted to get any he soon got bored of that! ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 8:05am
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Me too. Got my surgery next week and the surgeon said no TTC for 1 month after lap.
I have to say I'm actually dreading going back to TTC. I still want a baby, but the last few months (well this whole year really) I've been pretty casual about TTC - keep forgetting to temp and stuff because I "knew" I wasn't gonna get pg and was just killing time until we could see a specialist. And the last 2 months we haven't even been trying because we found out about the endo and well "doing it" has been getting more painful for me recently so just am not interested. Anyway, the reason I'm dreading going back to TTC is because its like starting over again. When we first start TTc, no matter how much we tell ourselves its not going to happen the first month and it could take awhile, deep down we all expect to get pg pretty quickly. Then after about 6 months you start having doubts and you get really really upset when AF arrives (as opposed to just upset for the first 6 months). After 12 months you just don't expect to get pg any more so it doesn't bother you when AF arrives. Well that is how it went for me anyway. Now I have a reason for why I haven't got pg yet and once that's gone there won't be any reason why it shouldn't happen. And all the doctors and nurses and educators (I'm a patient at the endometriosis clinic here in Chch and had an appointment with the head of the NZEF who is also an educator) keep telling you the lap will greatly improve your fertility. And even though I *know* that it's not going to happen straight away and that I could still need to do IVF I just know that when I go back to TTC all the angst is going to be there again. I'll be back to temping which is fine - but the worst thing is that I'm going to have hope again . I've really enjoyed the last few months without all the stress and TTC angst and now I'm going to have to go through it all again. It really is like starting from day 1.
Anyway sorry for the novel but the rant kinda got away from me! ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |