kids are too blimmin honest!!!! :S
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Topic: kids are too blimmin honest!!!! :S
Posted By: BaAsKa
Subject: kids are too blimmin honest!!!! :S
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 11:11am
Do you reckon a 4 year old knows hes being a ******* or is it just child honesty!?
today i dropped Bay off at school, as i was walking out from signing him in he was walking back inside with a few other boys when 1 of them says "your mums fat ay Bailey"  ....well thanks a friggen lot! it did hurt me but what got to me the most is - does comments like these make Bailey ashamed??? ...
I felt like being so imiture and saying back "well your ugly!"  
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 11:25am
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OMG I would be saying something to the head teacher there about that. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 11:29am
i thought about it but i figured i was just being silly because they ARE only kids still sux though!! especially because Bay keeps comming home and saying "A******* keeps telling me to call you fat mumma".
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:43pm
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OK at first I thought that's just kids being kids (I remember babysitting a 4-yr-old when I was a teen, who poked my thigh saying "your things are far bigger than my mummy's"... he also told me "you've got little red dots all over your face!", ah, kids) - cause they'll point out anything they like at the top of their voices and if it's a sore point then yeah, it hurts when they say it. But then I read that the same child keeps saying that to Bay?! I'd call that teasing, and a word to the staff mightn't be a bad idea - better still would be the opportunity to mention it to the child's mother (hmmm, awkward convo to open up though! Though I'll bet she'd be just as embarrassed about the whole thing). ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:44pm
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With your last comment i then would be talking to someone - if he's going on at your boy and telling him to call you names etc then i don't think that's on, that's over the top of normal kid behaviour.
We are finding now that Paris has had a few times where kids say things about mike toher and she gets a bit annoyed and upset with them simply cos well, that's how she's always known him, she doesn't really compare him to people. We had to have a talk about how yes dad is very small and some people aren't as used to that as she is and taught her to put a positive spin on it, she had a kid say to her not long ago about mike being "really skinny" and she told the kid that yeah he is small but that means he can hide well in hide and seek and she can never find him! I was really happy with how she put her answer. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:44pm
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I reckon a four year old knows what he is saying will get a reaction... Quinn knows saying some things will provoke a response from me!
And I'd also be pretty mad if I found out my child was telling someone elses to use phrases like fat mumma, I think I would want to be told. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 12:46pm
Janine, that is SO cute! You must be so proud of her! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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mum2paris wrote:Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 1:05pm
well im glad its not just me over reacting! i KNOW im fat but i dont want my son to be ashamed because some little **** is teasing him about it!
unfortunately i know his mother and she wont give a hoot about the whole situation!
I really want to talk to the teachers about it but im sooooo embarrassed about it all!
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 1:10pm
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Write it down? Send a letter?
If the mother doesn't care then I'd be inclined to say something to the school about it. I would guess that this type of behaviour is basically bullying and your son shouldn't have to put up with kids like that! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 1:14pm
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I really do need to say something because this kid is going to the same primary school as Bailey too so there will be no end!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 1:26pm
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I don't really know, but firstly I'd say to Bay next time it comes up, that *** is not being very nice and it's not nice to say [whatever message the boy told him to pass along] -------------  |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 August 2008 at 1:54pm
yip done this - a few weeks ago i was picking him up and having a natter with one of the teachers who is a friend and Bay was standing by with this boy, we saw this boy whisper to Bay then Bay anounced as loud as he could "mumma your fat" and laughed along with this boy who then ran away laughing everyone around looked shocked (we were standing in the playground full of kids and 5 teachers) and i was horfically embarrassed while i dragged a comfussed Bay to the car and explained to him why its mean and he said "well A****** always tells me to say it to you"
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 6:44pm
I have kids coming up to me and saying I have a big tummy 
I just grin and say yes (well I do lol  ) and they usually ask if there is a baby in there.
All you can really do is just keep telling Bailey that you don't say things like that in your family, and what A is saying is not nice. Kindy brings all sorts of not so nice words and phrases that we hope we can shelter our kids from - unfortunately it's just part of growing up ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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