2 or more miscarriages??
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: 2 or more miscarriages??
Posted By: karenm
Subject: 2 or more miscarriages??
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 5:25pm
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really need to hear some good luck stories.
had a scan today and found out we've m/c for the second time (in a row) and I was wondering how many others have had 2 or more miscarriages and then gone on to have healthy pregnancies? Appears we have no problems getting pregnant, just can't get them to stick past the 7 week mark 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 6:29pm
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hey Karen,
firstly i just wanted to say how sorry i am that you are going through this. i too have had trouble carrying past 7wks, in the space of 2 yrs i had 4 miscarriages, (but i am now 25wks pregnant). I have a condition called APS (Antiphospholipid Syndrome ) which requires me to take injections everyday to thin my blood. Fingers crossed you dont have another miscarriage, but in the sad event that you do, then you can go to the recureent miscarriage clinic or get your doctor to run tests. if you want to chat pls just pm me. All the best ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 7:56pm
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I'm currently almost 11 weeks pregnant with twins, following on from 3 m/c in 18 months. Everything looked good at the 9w scan, so hopefully the NT scan in 2 weeks shows the same. My problem was more to do with my progesterone levels, and I was on pessaries for the first 4 and a half weeks after finding out about these little ones (plus low dose aspirin).
M/c can be devastating, especially when they keep happening and you don't know why. Unfortunately you can't get referrals for tests until you've had 3 in a row, but fingers crossed you won't get to that stage. My thoughts are with you. |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 03 March 2009 at 10:40pm
No advice hun as Ive only ever had one MC which was bad enough! Just wanted to give you lots of support and hugs 
Im thinking of you. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: karenm
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 9:41am
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Thanks for sharing your good news stories. they were exactly what I needed to hear.
Fingers and toes crossed we don't have another m/c but good to know that if we do, there are tests they can run to help identify and solve any problems. Just out of interest did you do anything differently (other than what the doctors prescibed) with your healthy pregnancies ?? |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 9:51am
| I didn't change anything, except for what the specialist pescribed me. For us, this was actually a fluke - I wasn't due to O for another few days so we were just BDing because we felt like it, and it just happened that I ovulated early....the biggest thing I noticed is that I have felt positive about this pregnancy from day one, once I got my HCGs tested and they came back good, and I wouldn't let anyone tell me "oh but it's still early". There's still time for it to bite me in the bum, but so far so good. I have talked about these babies as though they are sticking around - all of my m/c I had a feeling of dread really. That's not to say it helped with them, but it certainly helped me!! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 10:20am
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I was the same for some reason i was just pos with the preg though i was honestly terrified till he was born(though birth was very stresssful due to not breathing!! but was totally fine in the end!)
I had one before him(missed) and one after him so far and just wanted to say i know how you feel.. msg me if you need to talk! my mw will refer after 3 mc not necessarily in a row but hopefully neither of us will need to go through another! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 12:13pm
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HUGS karenm!!
Not a personal story but a friend of mine had 3 MCs before she had her wee bub. Maybe next time ask if you can get your progesternine (sp??) levels checked out - apparently they need to be a certain level to have a sticky bean. I've only had the one and just the thought of a second is too much. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: maudie23
Date Posted: 04 March 2009 at 9:19pm
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Karenm,
Firstyl I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It doesn't matter how many times you go through this process it never gets easier. I suffered 2 m/c then went onto have a daughter she dies in utero at 20 weeks. On a great not, I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. Don't give up Hun, you always hear about the bad stories but there are so many wonderful stories out there. I hope you are feeling ok and taking sometime out for yourself. Take care & good luck ------------- 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 18 March 2009 at 11:15am
I did it backwards - I had a bonny boy (9 1/2 pounds) and have had 4 miscarriages since  its due to intolerably high stress levels in my case and we weren't really trying to conceive (DH looks at me and I get knocked up  ) but its been really difficult. They can't put their finger on anything to explain it except the stress I've been under so we're doing the whole go natural thing right down to making everything from scratch and getting rid of anything toxic or processed in our home. Creating a stress-free lifestyle has taken some effort but its falling into place now (got the vege garden, chickens, homemade breads/muesli bars and cleaners sorted) and seriously its made a huge difference to all of us!! The proof of course is in the pudding or pregnancy in this case but I want to wait til after DS's second birthday before we start trying properly. I have to say though that my body feels so much more able to cope (yes grammatically wrong but you get the gist) and I feel really positive about the future. Its worth a try no matter what the docs come up with.
Catch a hug chick its not an easy process but try to stay relaxed about the whole thing.
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Posted By: AKLRosie
Date Posted: 04 April 2009 at 3:14pm
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I too have 2 m/c in a row (blighted ovum and baby died at 8 weeks). I was absolutely devastated after the second m/c and felt that I couldn't bear the thought of going through a 3rd m/c before being referred to the recurrent m/c clinic in Auckland.
I went to see my GP and she ran a series of routine tests and referred me to a specialist Dr Claire Mclintlock who ran a further series of tests to see if there were any underlying reasons why we were miscarrying. All the tests came back fine and the only thing Claire recommended I do was to cut out drinking coffee as there has been some preliminary research into coffee potentially bringing on m/c. I did this and I also decided that once I got pregnant again I would take a low dose aspirin every day for the first four months as I had read about some research (which Claire was leading here in NZ) that suggested low dose aspirin maybe useful in avoiding miscarriage. Three months later I fell pregnant again so I cut out coffee and took the aspirin and so far evrrything has gone perfectly this time and our baby is due in seven weeks. Whether the avoidance of coffee in the first trimester (I went back to having two cups of weak plunger coffee a week now I am having one a day) had an effect along with the aspirin I don't know. All I do know that like the minike8 said this pregnancy was different from the start and I was so positive about it. I also had a very supportive GP who I stayed under for the first ten weeks who referred me for regular blood tests to ensure my HCG levels were rising and for early scans to reassure me everything was still ok. M/C is the worst thing in the world I have ever had to deal with but some good came of it in the end as my relationship with my DF (now my DH) became even stronger and this little man that we are expecting in seven weeks is so loved and wanted it is beyond belief. So don't give up, stay strong and it will happen for you one day you just have to believe in yourself . Take care x 
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Posted By: karenm
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:28pm
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thanks for sharing your story AklRosie - very timely as we're currently trying to decide whether or not to go private (not keen on waiting to see if m/c 3 comes along either) for testing.
Did you have to stop TTC whilst you were going for all the tests? |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 05 April 2009 at 8:50pm
| We went private for the initial tests, just because it was faster than waiting for the public health system to kick in. We were supposed to use condoms for the month we were having testing (mainly because if we did get pg, we wouldn't know if there was a reason behind the m/c and therefore couldn't prevent it again), but I was temping so we just didn't really BD around Ov. The cost for our private appts was around $180 each time, which included all the blood tests, and a scan at $180 as well. We got pg on the cycle after the tests were completed, which was the 3rd cycle since our last m/c. |
Posted By: KatieAnn
Date Posted: 10 April 2009 at 5:40pm
| Hi there...I just had my first m/c and was wondering were your 2 m/c conceived just after you m/c the first time? I am just trying to decide if we should wait a few months before we start to try again. |
Posted By: AKLRosie
Date Posted: 12 April 2009 at 5:38pm
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Sorry for the delay in responding Karen M haven't been on here for a little while.
I only had 2 periods in between my last m/c and getting pregnant with this baby, we pretty much avoided BD during the first ovulation time as I really wanted to give my body a rest as we are really lucky in that respect and don't seem to have a problem getting pregnant. After my second period we were actually on our honeymoon and we managed to get pregnant on that cycle which means we are literally having a "honeymoon baby". As hard and bloody awful as my prev two m/c were I now have the attitude what is meant to be is meant to be and maybe my body was just getting into "practice" for this pregnancy as it has been a dream pregnancy and I have felt so different to how I did in the preivous two. Hope this helps |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 12 April 2009 at 10:32pm
| KatieAnn....my first m/c was in June 07, my second was in October 07, my third was in September 08 and these two were conceived in Jan 09....so not directly after. These two were conceived on my third cycle after the latest m/c. |
Posted By: KatieAnn
Date Posted: 16 April 2009 at 8:55am
| It seems there is no math to it and that everyone is different. I guess I can't really understand the reasons to wait to TTC cause it seems it not actually more likely its just that some people will have more than one mc in a row, but it can happen at anytime. I guess I see it as always being a risk, but there is always a chance for a beautiful baby to enter into the world as well. Just holding onto the hope that I'll get the second of the two...and soon! :) |
Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 18 April 2009 at 12:31pm
| katieAnn - Im preg next cycle after my MC last month..........its still very early days for me yet, but this one is alot stronger than last months one........tests why and symptoms wise. i did only MC early which meant i didnt get a good implantation.........it wasnt far enough along to be anything else that caused me to MC so i dont see any reason why this one wont stick..........watch this space i suppose....... |
Posted By: X
Date Posted: 27 August 2009 at 4:52pm
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I have a son who is 2. I have had 2 natural MC this year (both at 6 weeks). After the first MC we fell preg again the very next cycle. After the second MC we decided to take a month off, & we fell preg again the next month when we started TTC again. I am 6 weeks preg tomorrow.....
I am really hoping this is the sticky one. I am much sicker than I was the first two times, which is hopefully a good sign. I haven't had any blood tests to check my Hcg is rising, but I have scan booked for next week. Fingers crossed there's a heartbeat this time... My midwife says once you see a heart beat there's a 90% chance everything will be sweet. Oh I hope so because I could do without ANOTHER MC. |
Posted By: Travelbug
Date Posted: 03 September 2009 at 7:59am
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Karen,
I'm presently getting over m/c number 3. Thankfully they weren't all in a row and I do have 2 amazing little boys. My first m/c was my first bub at 8 weeks - we were devasated, but as we got pregnant pretty quickly we figured oh well just try again. Months went by and my period was irregular or not at all and I was diagnosed eventually with PCOS. We tryed meds and eventually went to start IVF. One of the first things they did was a blood test - which revealed I was pregnant naturally. They then did HCG tests and told me I was likely to lose the baby. Again tears everywhere but somehow baby held on and we had a baby boy. A year after my son was born we got pregnant again but at 9 weeks I noticed the faintest pink tinge when wiping and scans revealed bub had died at 6 weeks. They had to do a D&C and somehow the surgeon must have recognised me 'cause she asked me to get bloods done etc and that revealed the APS (like Kazzle). I went onto low dose asprin and again had a successful pregnancy. This time (knowing my history) I was already taking the aspirin and thought I did everything right but again the m/c - this time at 6 weeks. My midwife is refering me back to the specialist to see what else can be done. Anyway, I am starting to think that some people just have something that makes it difficult - but Karen do keep trying. I look at my darling boys and as horrible as the m/c are and how dispairing it feels not to know why and to have hope snatched away again - I would endure any number of m/c's to have them. You will get there and it is absolutely worth it in the end. 
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