Sex after a c-section
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Topic: Sex after a c-section
Posted By: ginger
Subject: Sex after a c-section
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:13am
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I understood that sex can be uncomfortable/painful after a c-section when you first venture back down that road but I've gotten a bit of a shock at exactly how painful it is. 'Uncomfortable' doesn't really describe it!
For those of you who have experienced this - does it take very long to come right? I'm a bit terrified just quietly - it was really teeth-clenching/lip biting/brough tears to my eyes and not in a good way! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:32am
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yeah i had that too, it took about 3 months for it to stop hurting like that, and then another 3 months before there was no discomfort at all.
although i have since found out it shouldnt be like that, but it also hurts me majorily when i have internal exams etc....maybe its something to talk to the midwife, specialist, doctor about ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:33am
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I havent tried yet as only finally stopped bleeding last week and MIL was here. Was thinking of "treating" DH but now you have me scared. What hurts???? I figured since we still had the designer v......a it would be ok.
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:44am
| TMI i was ready in mind about 1mth afterwards. tried and hurt so bad has put me off for a long time. still not ready yet. it hurts a little now, and can only last about 5mins before it too sore. So DF has to really be begging for it before i give in lol. |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 1:13pm
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Eeek! you have all scared me
Maybe I need to express off some bottles and then have a few drinks first |
. just been googling and it seems EVERYONE has this problem following c-sections. I must admit, my smear hurt a little when OB put the speculum in. Said it was due to lack of oestrogen with breastfeeding so maybe thats it.Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 1:48pm
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It just felt like virginity again for me, basically, so after a couple of times I was back into the swing of it. I put it down to good muscles lol. We also use KY jelly until things come back to normal as well.
Incidentally, it's worse after a VB because you are swollen and sometimes stitched as well. We first did it 4 weeks after H was born (c/s) but 7-8 weeks after the other two (VB)! -------------  |
Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 2:53pm
Oh you so know that with a subject like this there'll be way TMI in here, so I'm not even going to warn you 
LOL! I just wanted to say, we were naughty and were back at it only 3 weeks after my c section, and it was really good  So not eveyone has the same problem!
Hugs to those of you that do though  
Come to think of it we were still... y'know... up to a week before JJ arrived so maybe it's not the c section itself so much as a period of abstinence combined with all the ligaments etc streching iykwim? ------------- 
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nzpiper wrote:Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:12pm
I thought after a c-sec you could get back into it straight away I had a week off BUT yep def need KY or some other lube to avoid the friction burn------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:51pm
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very sore for me too.. but maybe the case of not much use during pregnancy..lol:) and labour first not sure if that makes everything sorer? in our case didn't take long to be ok though ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 3:56pm
Gah .. I recall it hurting after Issy .. although I also recall getting pg again .. so it cant of been that bad  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 4:16pm
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My tummy muscles were what hurt me the most, after everything being cut, that took a long time for me to heal enough to want to go there. All my other bits were fine and if my belly hadn't been so sore....DH would have got lucky a lot sooner than he did!!! -------------  
 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 4:23pm
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The thought of getting pregnant again is putting me off somewhat
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 7:03pm
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It was a little sore after the c/s but did come right after not very long, just use lots of lube to start with especially if breastfeeding as that dries you out (as my mw so nicely put it).
It's hurt more this time around after a 2nd degree tear and episiotomy  So much so that we have only attempted it that one time and I had to get DH to stop. I will be talking to the doc next week when I have my IUD fitted, although really with this kind of pain there is no need for any contraception. I had an internal that hurt before we had sex but I just figured that I had got a nurse that was a bit heavy handed.
Ginger I would talk to your doc if it's that painful as I don't think it is normal, is why I shall be having the embarrassing chat myself. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 09 March 2009 at 9:03pm
We had sex 3 months after Caden and it was fine
Dont be scared, it doesnt hurt for everyone, it just takes some time for things tog et back to normal down there. ------------- |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 7:02pm
*has similar recollections*  ------------- |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 16 March 2009 at 9:54pm
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Nope wasnt sore for me at all. I bled for 6 weeks then got period so we only did it at about 8 or 9 weeks but wasnt sore at all. We were super careful of the c-section area and took things slowly but never once hurted. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 17 March 2009 at 2:47pm
| phew...didnt hurt! |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 17 March 2009 at 5:27pm
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Lol Nikki, so you had a few drinks last night ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 18 March 2009 at 1:57pm
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Okay it SHOULDN'T hurt unless you are talking about the wound where you were cut open With my first c-section I was enthusiastically doing the wild thang about 2 weeks after, no pain etc. My second c-section was only about 10 days after.... Actually after my natural birth it was about a week or 10 days too.
Thats probably why I had 3 kids 3 & under... Anywya I would get a check out, with your doctor or maybe a gynaecologist. It don't think it should be like that at all. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 March 2009 at 1:02pm
| i would think if it hurt that much then it something may not be right... i dont recall having that much pain during sex after any of my births, including the caesar. |
Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 21 March 2009 at 9:55pm
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I had no issues with this and got back on the 'horse' early days... sorry if TMI - I would check it out with your ob Ginger for sure. ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 22 March 2009 at 12:22pm
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It turns out, it just needed some dedication to the cause I'm not sure what the cause was/is, but it's gradually coming right.
Thanks so much everyone for your feedback - I really appreciate(d) it! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 22 March 2009 at 1:35pm
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LOL @ "dedication to the cause" that is SUCH a brilliant way to put it!!
On a more serious note, good that it is coming right. Something that is often a problem which I forgot to mention is that it is natural after childbirth for down there to tighten up because with normal birth it has to... When you have a c-section your body still "tightens up" even though Bubs has not actually gone through the birth canal.....IYKWIM? Also a common thing also to happen is a lack of self lubrication... ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: jacobsmummy
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:39am
| Yes i rember it hurting after after c-section we waited 5wks before doing it. |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 3:33pm
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Oh god, I am petrified now! Not that I have any desire to be getting busy right now, I certainly will be making sure I have some lube handy before we go down that road again. -------------   
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 01 May 2009 at 2:53pm
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I remember asking my MW at 2 weeks when I could BD again and she looked suprised to say the least lol! I think we did it at 4 weeks as per MW instructions and it was fine although a bit tight and definitely needed the lube.
ETA: To clarify the MW instructions related to the timeframe not the actual act lol -------------  
 
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Posted By: Mum2L
Date Posted: 29 May 2009 at 10:42pm
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I was told by the docs to wait 6 months PP until DH and I even attempt to BD, due to the horrid recovery I had during thr first 6 weeks PP.
We did try it once at 4 months PP, and it too sore. We didn't even do the whole hog, and I couldn't believe how tight everything was, even though we used a tonne of lubrication. And I think all of the oxytocin that whizzes around your body when you are breastfeeding desensitises everything down there ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 June 2009 at 11:37am
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It wasnt too bad, was armed with plenty of lube. It did hurt, but I was prepared for that.
I think after a few more rounds we should be back to normal. -------------
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