Starting to panic!!!
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Topic: Starting to panic!!!
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Subject: Starting to panic!!!
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 6:01pm
About my vbac!!!! I cant seem to think positive about it, I keep thinking something will go wrong! Even though I know that each birth/baby is different, I think I just cant get what happened last time out of my head. I have comfort in knowing that I am allowed an epidural if i need it, but Im still feeling very very anxious about the whole thing. Im also stressing that I will go over due again, because if she isnt here by 41 weeks then Im going in for an elective C. So Im hoping that she will be a little early or on time-ish. She is head down and in my pelvis already and the OB said she is measuring small, so hopfully not a big bubba like her brother! A friend has suggested rescue remedy when I get worried about the labour etc which is a great idea, so Im going to do that, but is there anything else anyone can suggest to help me relax, while Im waiting to go into labour, or even some advice on how to cope during labour when its a vbac. ------------- |
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 6:48pm
| No experience with the vbac thing but you should start the rescue rememdy thing now and even if you aren't stressed on a particular day take it anyway. I find it works better if you just take it all the time anyway. |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 6:58pm
 No experience here either, but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.
For during the labour, I found acupressure amazing in keeping me calm. Also positive thinking - thinking to myself that the pain is healthy and is good pain, not to fight against it. And I kept telling myself that women have done this for thousands of thousands of years and it's what we were made to do (IYKWIM). I had bible verse I kept reading and thinking/saying to myself during early labour, it made me feel heaps less scared - you could think of a phrase or sentence that makes you feel calm and empowered? x ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 7:39pm
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For the labour I focused on a couple of things, one was not to fight the contractions and to try and go with them, kept trying to remember they would hurt less if I didn't fight them and that fighting them wouldn't make them stop...lol
The other thing I focused on was that it wouldn't last forever and I kept thinking this time tomorrow labour will be a distant memory and I will be holding my baby (one way or the other). And remember with a VBAC they won't let it last that long. I went 14 hours and they let me push for 2 and that is very rare, normally they won't even let you go that long without intervention. Other things I thought about in the lead up where that a c/s was the worse case scenario when I was pregnant with Spencer and it happened and it really wasn't that bad, we both survived, I healed and it was all ok and that if need be I could go through again. In actual fact I was more concerned about the breastfeeding than the labour, cos that's the part I found hardest and most worrying and made me feel worse physically (cos of repeated infections and blocked ducts) and emotionally (cos I weaned earlier than I had planned too). ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 19 July 2009 at 9:27pm
Thanks girls
I remember when I was in labour with caden and my contractions were pretty bad, the MW said to me to imagine that Im a piece of drift wood floating along in the sea(lol random i know) and that I could either let the water pull me down, or I could go with the flow and not fight it(i think thats how it went lol), so basicly what you said marissa, to not fight my contractions, go with them and breath through them, so i did, and it really helped, the gas also helped kept my breathing steady etc. I'll definitly start with the rescue remedy! Is ee my MW on wednesday so I'll have a chat to her about my fears as well. ------------- |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 11:50am
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Sheena, i know its a bit late as you dont have much time left but I was talking to Toni yesterday and she said she did hypnotherapy and it really helped her. Ooh hope she doesnt mind me saying....
I can understand you freaking out, your labour was long, hard and traumatic (and not that long ago) and your only point of reference! Perhaps some visualisation each day until you go into labour might help. Just sitting in a quiet place and visualising how you would like the birth to go???? I am sh*t at that kind of thing and end up drifting off and thinking about all sorts of random stuff like what to make for dinner, what bills I have to pay, do I have enough clothes or do I need to wash, having conversations with people in my head ( I am a nutter ).
Have you had a chat with DH about what you want him to do if he sees you starting to panic? At the end of the day, you know how bad it can hurt and you will manage it however you need to on the day. Caden's birth was just that and Isabella's birth will be hers whether VBAC of C -Section. LOL, throw this back in my face in a couple of years when its me freaking out about my VBAC! -------------   
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 3:35pm
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i don't know what your first was like......but generally I think second labours are better than the first. Your body knows what to do better.
I agree with the others...try and visualise a straight forward labour, and definately tell your DH what you would like him to do to help you relax. Try and remember that it wont last forever, there are drugs to make all the pain go away if you need it, and you will have a beautiful little girl in your arms at the end of it. All the best....an Im sure it will be better than you think, even if you end up with another csec (all the above still applies). ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 8:01pm
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Thanks
melnel, Im about the same as you with the visualization thingy lol, I have a short attention span haha! I guess I just need to keep telling myself that this is a different baby different birth so tis not going to be the same as Cadens... I know deep down that I will be just fine, I guess its just the not knowing how its going to go that freaks me out a lot. JD-With Caden, I was 2 weeks over due when I finally went into labour, and it ended in an emergency c section after 48 hours of labour. I had a bleed on the operating table and lost a litre of blood and had a blood transfusion the next day, I also had swollen bowels and needed xrays, that was scary, and then I had problems breastfeeding afterwards, so it was a long 6 weeks to recovery 
So I cant seem to get all of that out of my head ------------- |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 9:26pm
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I remember the same feelings.. I remember trying almost every way to naturally induce DS#2 One thing that really helped relieve my anxiety (other than rescue remedy) was to practise breathing away negitive thoughts & bringing in postivies ones. Not that that heped me get the vbac I much wanted but it calmed me ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 9:53am
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I was going to suggest positive visualisation as well - maybe when you are lying in bed go through the birth in your mind how you want it to be. And maybe put some little cards around the house with positive affirmations on them?
A good one is to stick the affirmations on the back of the toilet door so you see it everytime you go in there, as I am sure you visit there quite often! |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 11:37am
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lol red, yep Im always in the loo!!
Well ive seen my MW today, and baby is a far down as she can go before labour starts and her position is pretty good{ROL) MW can feel shoulders down there too, so she said that she wont move(hopefully!)from there. Ive been telling myself everytime I have a bad thought about labour, that there is no reason why this one cant go well, and that it wont be the same as Cadens. Im starting to feel a bit better about it, and Im a little excited lol! I will feel so proud of myself if I can manage a VBAC, but also, proud of my self for getting through another c section if it comes to that. Thanks for everyones replys ------------- |
Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 8:55am
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My labour 2nd time around was much quicker and different than with no1. @nd time I was fully dialated after 7 hours, with no1 I was only 2cm after 7 hrs. Pain with no1 was everywhere, front, back, sides, everywhere all at once so it was really hard to know where to put a wheatsack or massage etc cos it kept changing every contraction. With no2 it was fairly constant, in the same place etc so much easier to manage even if I was strapped to the bed cos of complications a week earlier. I had an epi with both and while I had to push for nearly 3 hours Joel was a VBAC with forceps......at the time felt so good to have managed to do it....then the epi wore off and I started feeling all the stitches from my tears lol I really really wanted a VBAC but towards the end Joel started to get distressed and it came down to forceps or cs and only 1 go at forceps.....they were prepping the theatre while doing the forceps, and if it had meant a safe healthy baby I so totally would have been happy to have another cs. (did that make sense??) At least you know what the worst cs is like (from memory yours was pretty crap) so if you have to have an elective, while not what you want, at least you have some idea of what to expect, there were a few things I wasn't prepared for with a vaginal birth....hadn't even thought of them compared to the cs -------------  
 
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, but it was still a great feeling.
, which was probably just me being dull and not thinking of that part I just couldn't see past the VBAC, not what it really entailled!