Not coping too well
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Topic: Not coping too well
Posted By: Tastic
Subject: Not coping too well
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 11:12am
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bit of history, I developed PND after bailey was born, not bad enough I felt I needed medication but was bad enough to see someone once a week
then once I had Aidan everything went downhill. with his very early arrival and his birth which was traumatic for me - I thought they had dropped him during his birth, having to have my legs pulled/ripped up into stirrups and then having the males doctors hand up in me. Yeah not the best experience :/ after Aidan was finally home - 4 months later. I was referred to the mothers and Baby's unit here in Christchurch where I was diagnosed with PTSD, I got put on medication then a few months later I took my self off them - with approval of my doctor. anyway earlier this year I went back onto the meds - only 1/2 tab a day but then found out we were having another baby and stopped them again now with Aidan's gestation date looming I'm finding myself anxious, panicky and depressed I saw a physiatrist (sp) through the hospital a few weeks ago and she said my PTSD has definitely not gone away and with this date coming up she feels it is only going to be worse. She recommended I go back on my meds but I'm not sure. Do you think I should? I can't go a day lately without having a panic attack, before every appointment wither its just a midwife appointment to the OB appointment I'm having these attacks and its awful! worst of all I can't take anything for them! so anyway, HELP I'm not coping! my boys are being so naughty and it doesn't help Ive got a short temper medication yes or no? |
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 11:39am
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I can't answer that...medication is a thing you need to chose.
But I wanted to give you hugs & I also wanted to share what my friend was like. Her first baby was born at 28 weeks & she had an incompetent cervix. So in her 2nd pregnancy she was "worried" probably freaking out about if she was going to go early again. She started relaxing after each subsequent week & her baby was born at 38 weeks by C-section (had to after having a classic c-section the first time) she was still the same with her third. It is natural to panic & be worried after an awful experience. Do what is best for you & your baby. If that means medication & that it won't harm the baby then it might be the best thing to get you through? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 5:48pm
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Based solely on your post...meds = yes. Hugs! ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: BriAndOlisMum
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 6:26pm
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Personally if i was in your situation i would go back onto the meds tastic, it is much better for you and bubs and the boys if you are not so stressed and anxious all the time. I have suffered depression on and off for the last 5 years, been on meds a few times for it. I told the MW about it and she said to make sure i contact her if i feel the depression coming back or that i cannot cope. Have been like that a few times during this pregnancy but luckily it usually only lasts the day or 2 at the most. If it was to continue tho i would definitly be opting for the medication because i know that i can cope so much better when i am on it |
Posted By: MonicaMouse
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 10:45pm
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From the posts and stories I have read about Aidan's arrival, it's no wonder that you are feeling the way that you are, especially now you approaching that same mark and 2 naughty little boys to add to the mix.
If it was me in your shoes, I would do the meds thing, IF they had worked for me last time I took them IYKWIM. ------------- 
Blair 15/10/2007 Daniel 30/07/2009 |
Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 11:08pm
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I think I would in your position go back on the meds yes. But it is a decision only you can make. But panic attacks definitely aren't something you need on top of everything else at the moment. I started meds again at 14ish weeks and am glad I did. If you felt you needed them before getting pregnant then maybe being on them is best for your bubs at the moment. My psychiatrist has said that having a mentally well mum far outweighs any slight problems for the baby, and he wrote a plan for me to reduce the risk of my bubs having withdrawl after birth. ------------- 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 13 October 2009 at 2:47pm
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Based on your post, I would say yes, have the meds. But it is a very personal choice.
I was in a similar situation, sort of started falling apart again when I was pregnant with Ollie. Deciding to go on meds during my pregnancy was one of the best decisions I made. It made a huge difference (after several weeks), I was able to enjoy being a mum to Chloe again and I wasn't dreading the birth of my next bubba. I just figured it was best for me and my baby AND my unborn child if I wasn't stressed/depressed/struggling etc. Those things do have an effect on your body (not just your mind) and I felt that it was probably not in the best interest of both of my babies to let things continue spiralling downwards. Big hugs to you Have you decided what you will do yet? And have you got a counsellor or something that you can see regularly?
Lots of love and hugs. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 13 October 2009 at 7:30pm
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Based on your posts I would say if it were me, I would take them again.
Have they offered anything like Valium for your panic attacks? I took that from about 5months onwards with Ava as I wasn't functioning at all from issues at home. I'd just discussed it with my doctor and I said I didn't want to go back on the meds yet, so he said they'd try valium (low dose obviously) to start with. |
Posted By: Elsie
Date Posted: 09 November 2009 at 8:55pm
| Hi There, I had terrible anxiety/depression with both pregnancies and was put on Lorazapam /Clonazapam with my second and it was so much better, your baby can feel the stress and it can really effect the baby as well. My second baby is in great form and so relaxed compared to my first son who was a very difficult baby which I really believe was due to my anxiety and panic attacks and not having the meds.(stress really effects the baby in the last trimester) I truely believe that taking the med's is a much better option I was so worried about this and questioned my medical team several times but I believe they were right and I am so pleased. My anxiety got so bad toward the end I couldnt sleep more then 2 hrs per night and that was on the med's so I understand what your going through. It does get easier and you need to be working closely with your maternity mental health team to get the best support. |
Posted By: Blankney94
Date Posted: 27 November 2009 at 4:25pm
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Just couldn't read and run. I can't say I understand how you feel (cos that would be wrong) but it does sound horrible what you are going through. Have you tried Rescue Remedy for the panic attacks? I've been close to having panic attacks when flying and in a few other situations, and found that the RR helps. There is also a sleep version. I used both throughout my pregnancy. Asked the chemist and he told me it was fine to take. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2monkeys
Date Posted: 14 December 2009 at 10:42pm
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Hi Tastic,
new to forum and chch... have been looking for some virtual company! i was on fluoxentine through both my pregnancies (second child's name is also Aidan!) and later discovered research into fluox in pregnancies has only proven extra muscle tone in babies. if you need it then take it, no shame in needing the extra help after all you have been through. good luck 
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