Shared driveway issues (help needed!)
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Topic: Shared driveway issues (help needed!)
Posted By: Hopes
Subject: Shared driveway issues (help needed!)
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 10:13am
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We share a driveway with our neighbours. They're actually really nice people, and have always been polite about asking us if they want to park their car in the drive for a while to work on it.
However, they have a lazy lump of a friend who seems to spend half his time at their place sleeping on their couch. He keeps on parking his car in the drive, which means that we can't get in / out of our garage. Every time he does it, I go and grumble at him, and he's very apologetic and moves it - but he just keeps doing it! The neighbours have made it clear to him (in very strong language, I've heard them do it!  ) that he's not to park there, but they can't see the drive from their house, and so most of the time don't notice that he does.
So, how do I get him to stop? Can I threaten to get the car towed next time, or something? How would one do that anyway? Obviously, neither asking nicely, asking not-so-nicely or swearing and cursing at him (the neighbours, not me) has worked, we need something else... but what? -------------   
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Posted By: Gardengirl
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 10:18am
| Can you block him in next time he does it? So that when he wants/needs to go somewhere he can't? Maybe treating him like a child and enforcing a 'consequence' of his inconsiderate behaviour might be the way to go. |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 10:21am
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I have done that before - when I'm coming back in, and he's there, I just park behind him so he has to ask us to come and move the car.
I am tempted to go for a nice loong walk next time, so we're not there to move the car when he needs it...  -------------
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 10:32am
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That sucks Hopes!
We share a lane/long driveway with two neighbours but luckily we've never had an issue (yet!). I would ask him nicely to move it and at the same time warn him if he does it again you will have it towed. At least you are giving him a warning. Then you just need to call a tow truck company as far as I know, they will come and collect it or at least scare him into moving it
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Posted By: Gardengirl
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 10:32am
| I wouldn't bother with the walk - I'd just refuse point blank to move it. At the moment he's making it your problem, so you need to be clear about making it his. |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 11:00am
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If he's just doing it cos he's absent minded rather than malicious, would putting up a rather obvious sign work? "This is a shared driveway, please don't park where you are blocking it".
Or maybe along the lines of "Tyres will be deflated if car ABC123 is found parked in the driveway again" ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 11:26am
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Or go to the $2 Shop and get some orange cones and line them along either side of the driveway - not so subtle hint! ------------- Two little girls under 2! 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 12:04pm
| Next time I'd simply tell him to move it now and that next time you need to use the driveway and can't you'll have it towed cause your sick of it. Not in a nasty way, just in a matter of fact way |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 12:16pm
Thanks - for both the sympathy and the ideas  It's very frustrating, because other than that one friend, they're pretty good neighbours.-------------
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 2:16pm
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In that case, make sure he's the only one that's affected by his poor manners.
I'd do what you do with kids - warn them once, tell them the consequences and follow through the next time it happens. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 2:21pm
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I would get the number of the local tow company - and stick a note on his windscreen saying that if he parks here again he can contact these guys to get his car back as it WILL be towed.
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Posted By: Treen
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 2:38pm
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Argh, this is one of my pet hates. I used to soooo get my back up whenever one of my flatmates' friends would do the same thing. It's just so rude. Stop being lazy and park on the road!
Can you grab one of those signs from Mitre 10 or somewhere that says; residents vehicles only, tow away area? Tell your neighbours you're doing it and to let their friend know you will tow him if he does it again? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 2:48pm
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I wonder if you need to say something EVERY time he parks there, not just the times you need to go out? Cos if he's getting away with it half the time, then he must figure it's worth chancing that he'll have to move. If you ask him to move every time (sure, it'll be a pain for a while) he might figure its not worth the bother and get in the habit of parking on the road.
Grrr how frustrating it must be though! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 4:04pm
Do you live at my house?? We have the same problem at times
This is exactly what we did. It has never happened again 
*edited for spelling. ------------- 
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SimSam wrote:Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 4:16pm
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I think that's the problem, Becs - he does get away with it sometimes, so just chances it. I try to get him to move whenever I see him there, but a lot of the time when we're not home I assume he just parks there.
I'm glad you managed to fix the problem, MamaPickle! Hopefully we can get it sorted too. -------------
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 6:03pm
| Ooooh we had the same problem with our last 2 lots of neighbours (rental house). We live in a driveway with 21 (yes, 21) houses (mostly units), so there are a lot of cars! Our immediate entrance is shared with one other house, and they used to block us in every single day. Eventually we threatened towing (which landowners are legally entitled to do under shared access laws - we checked!), and it didn't happen again. Of course, they moved out 2 weeks later anyway! |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 9:42pm
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Hopes - another great perk of becoming a Mummy, is you will immediately develop the "Mummy look" - so you will just have to flash the offender your newly acquired "Mummy look" and car will be removed immediately and shall never appear again.
------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Liam267684
Date Posted: 16 June 2021 at 12:09pm
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Putting up a sign something like below may work for you. https://createsigns.co.nz/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Resident-Parking-Sign-DIR007-723x1024.png" rel="nofollow - https://createsigns.co.nz/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Resident-Parking-Sign-DIR007-723x1024.png |