Loosing Confidence
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Topic: Loosing Confidence
Posted By: Daizy
Subject: Loosing Confidence
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 10:39am
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I have been noticing recently Keira has gone from being a really confident happy girl to being really shy and quiet. Little things like saying "Hi" to people we know are all too much for her and really struggles to play with other kids.
At home around family and friends she is a real chatterbox, always has been. We used to be able to go out and meet people and was still not shy (any one who has met her will know what I mean). She just doesnt seem to be her self anymore. Even at Kindy she used to be really happy, she never had heaps of friends but would quite hapily go up and talk to anyone and join in. The last few weeks I have hated dropping her off because she just stands there, wont say hi to anyone and wanders around all on her own not knowing what to do with herself. I have talked to her teachers and they seem to think she is fine and plays with other kids. I just wish I could see it. I dont even see her playing with the kids I know she is really confident with out side of Kindy. She has started crying a lot at kindy too for no reason which the teacher are keeping an eye on. It is heart breaking. I know I was a really quiet kid, and I found it so hard making friends.I used to hate my self for not being able to talk and wished I could just change it and make friends. Could it just be my own insecurities coming out? I really dont want her to end up as bad as I was, but maybe it is just in her nature. What can I do to boost her confidence?? Could it just be a stage that she will pass? Or could she be picking up on my lack of self confidence? I just get so upset thinking about my wee girl feeling so lost and want bundle her up and keep her in my arms forever  ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 11:21am
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sometimes i go to kindy and spend the session there. not hanging out with my kid specifically but just doing other stuff. Like one day i sorted thru the fruit bowl and then did some baking and some of the kids came and helped me. maybe you could do something like that at your kindy if you are worried. i know they behave differently when their mums are there so it is hard to reconcile what you see with what the teachers say.
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 12:42pm
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How old is she? Jack is kinda like that and he is a lot 'worse' when I am around. I have spied through the window a few times before picking him up and he is fine when I'm not there but if I'm there hes holding onto my leg and won't talk to anyone.
In terms of confidence you can only do so much. Praise her and say how proud of her you are and if you can try and get her to see you being confident around people. Some kids are just shyer than other kids and its not necessarily a bad thing, if she is shy don't make it a bad thing and focus on the good parts of being shy. |