TTC #1 and under 30yrs old
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Topic: TTC #1 and under 30yrs old
Posted By: MrsMJD
Subject: TTC #1 and under 30yrs old
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 12:58pm
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Hi let me start by saying I'm not trying to be seperatist, I'm just curious as to how many of us there are and what our experiences have been so far.
I'm 28yrs old and have been married for 1yr and with my DH for almost 8yrs in total. We have been TTC since June 09 after I came off the pill in March. I wanted to start trying years ago but DH wasn't there yet (personally I think he's one of those guys who won't ever be completly ready until it happens lol). I had high expectations that it would happen fast, helped in part by my Mum saying "don't go off the pill till you really mean it cause women in our family get pg SOO easliy". And so here we are. I am currently in the 2ww and struggling a bit more this month than in the past few. This is totally about me building this month up in my head because it is mth 8 and "a high percentage of couples under 30 concieve within 8mths" way to put pressure on myself huh? So whats your story? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: cruzychic
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 1:03pm
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Hi There
DH and I have been together almost three years and almost married two. We have been TTC since October 09 and thats when I came off BCP. My Mum took a while to conceive with myself and brothers because of PCOS and only found this out with her second pregnancy, I have been cleared that I don't have PCOS but we are into month 5 of trying and if not UTD by the end of 6th cycle I am going to go get the CD 2 AND CD 21 bloods done. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2af0d8" rel="nofollow">  TTC since October 2009 Diagnosed with PCOS June 2010 |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 1:26pm
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Im 25 and DH is 29, we have been togeather for ages and have just celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary.
After a bit of travelling overseas in our first year of marriage we decided to start TTC in Jan09 - with no luck so far 
Like you we thought it would happen within the first few months. We have had all the BT / SA done and all is normal, my cycles are regular and I have never been on the pill; we are fit and healthy. DH thinks it will happen when it is ment to be but It doesnt got any easier for me, each month is heartbreaking but my drive to have a baby keeps me going. I want it so much and I will be UTD soon (hopefully  )
 ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 1:57pm
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I'm 28 and DP is 31 we've been together for 9 years now.
I had my IUD removed in March 09, so started TTC then, my mum took years to get UTD and I've had alot of friends take well over a year so was completely ready for it to take at least year for me. Got my BFP after 4-5 months of trying unfortunately at my 12wk scan we found that bubs had died at the 9wk mark which was a huge shock as everything was going fine and I had terrible morning sickness. Had a D&C and my cycles have gone back to being regular-ish so pretty much went straight back into TTC. Now I have been UTD I find I am alot more "desperate" to get there again, although I think I am doing much better this month than I was last month (not quite so nutty  ).-------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Rachel1982
Date Posted: 25 February 2010 at 6:26pm
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I'm 27 and DH is 30 (but 29 when we got BFP!)
We had been married for just under 2 years when we got BFP and had been together for nearly 6 years in total. I came off the pill in August and we got our BFP on the 2nd December :) I don't think my cycle was even close to being back to normal when it happened (was on BCP for 11 years and was having 42 day cycles after coming off it) so we got lucky. We had been on holiday the 10 days before we *must* have conceived so I put it down to getting out of our normal routine and chilling a bit :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: KelzF09
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 4:19pm
Hi im 23 and DH is 27 almost 28, we only got married in Nov 09 but have been together 4 years, i have had problems from the first day i ever got AF took until last year to find out what the problem was and got put on meds for it, had IUD removed and stopped meds in Oct 09 to start TTC was having regular cycles till me last one and i never have long cycles and it went for 40ish days, now DH is really supporting me and we are trying everything to TTC are in our 5th cycle of trying and hope it may be out last  ------------- Proud Mum of Ella 3yrs and Noah 20months http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 5:14pm
Hi all! 
I'm not such a common face (username) round these parts these days but I do occasionally still lurk
DP (29) and I (25) have been trying to conceive for almost 3 yrs now, I went off the BCP in March 07 and we've been actively since the April being under gynae and specialist care from the word go as I have PCOS so they knew the would be issues as I don't have a regular cycle or ovulate on my own. I'm on a mission to lose weight cos at this stage in the game after several clomid cycles it looks like IVF will probably be it for us. The specialist wants to possibly try injections beforehand though so will see with that. Also I have to lose a bit more weight to have a Lap done too. So that's where it is for us at the mo... ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: Booski
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 9:43pm
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My DH and I are both 28, married 5 years and together for 10. I was just 27 when I fell pregnant with number 1 (estimated date of conception was my birthday ), after 7 months of trying, I came off the pill in early November.
Number two happened VERY quickly! First month off the pill, still bf #1 and only had about 2 AF cycles since #1 anyway! All the best MrsMJD ------------- 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 9:20am
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Huge HI to everyone who has posted so far, such a varied range of experiences. Thanks for sharing.
I forgot to mention that DH is 33. Cruzychic I noticed the weightloss ticker on your signature how have you chosen to lose the weight? I'm only asking cause I'm on the journey to a healthy weight too and am nosy
Ladybee my DH is the same he keeps telling me to "chill out and relax it will happen" kinda hard to hear when you want them to be as wound up as you are right? Didi Your MC must have been heartbreaking I've had a couple of friends go through them. Huge Hugs. I've had a couple of friends take a while to concieve #2 but everyone else seems to have concieved after only a few months of trying (most 1st go) which makes it a bit tough cause they don't understand the frusteration and emotion quite the same. I had to ask my closest friend to stop asking cause it happened crazy easy for her all 3 times (sadly they lost twins at 14weeks) so she expected the same for me and would ask ALL the time. Rachel congrats on your bubba!!!! Like you I was on BCP for more that 10yrs those first couple of months off it were an unpleasent time. Kelz Fx for this month!!!!!! That random long cycle is a killer right?! I had one and got so freaking excitied. I actually had a tantrum when AF arrived 
Wishin41 Wow what a tough journey this has been for you so far. Good luck with the weight loss thing, I've lost 20ish kgs so far so I know how tough it can be. Booski congrats on your Itty bitty and your current pregnancy. Hopefully your popping in will spread a some fertility mojo 
To anyone else under 30 and ttc #1 we look forward to hearing from you. (edit was for spelling and grammer fixing )------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 9:25am
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Im 23 and DH is 24, been together for 3 years married for one and a half,
We have been TTC since July/August 09 but I have a long cycle so only like 6 cycles for me. Thought this was the one but spotting today so I think Ill be back for another round :( ah well. Have been tested for PCOS etc and don't have it so its just a waiting game for us at the moment too I so know what you mean MrsJMcD I worry all the time that it should have happened already because we are young but I guess it doesnt always follow :( Nice to talk to others around the same age as me ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 9:39am
Those are points are part of the reason I started this thread. I know that every woman hopes it will happen right away but when you're under 30 it's almost scientifically expected lol. And I think that a lot of Dr's have different expectations as well, most will tell you the stats and say to come back for testing if you've been trying unsucessfully for a year (unless like wishin41 you already know of a medical reason that night cause problems). It can be kinda frustrating. The other thing that gets my back up EVERY TIME is "oh you're so young you've got plenty of time" aaaarrrrggghhhh. I know it's usually well intentioned but I always feel it's kind of condecending, esp when most people don't know your history. Oops sorry that was a little venty wasn't it. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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lisaas101 wrote:Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 11:34am
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Vents are allowed
I'm TTc #2 but for #1, I was 27 and DH 28. His birthday in fact . Came off the pill in July to sort my cycle out (it was regularly irregular) and took precautions for the next few months. Officially started TTC in Oct and got pregnant first cycle.
Not sure what will happen for #2  ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 11:42am
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Aghh a little vent does wonders sometimes, I had one with DH this morning - I was a little upset because I found out last night that 2 more people I know have become pregnant withour trying and some of my friends has been talking about me behind by back about how long it taking us to have a child ( they all are pregnant or have children and dont know were TTC )
I guess they pesumed we were or someone I told in confindence has passed it on ....... It annoyed me because I hate the looks I get, they look at my belly to see if they can see a bump, watch if Im really taking a sip of my wine and If I decline a drink I get the oh she must be pregnant look or they ask outright are you pregnant. I know its only a little thing and they will be excited when I am UTD but its annoying IYKWIM But DH and I had a great talk and it really helped me
Wishing41 dont be a stranger come join in on the chat I think it helps me alot. Are you charting ? FX with the Lap and injections, I hope they are the boost you need to get UTD ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 12:31pm
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Congrats on losing 20kgs MrsMJD! Well done!
How much more are you planning to lose? Ladybee - No I'm not charting anymore, trying not to think about TTC too much (and I start to analyse everything when I chart/ovulate) while I'm focussing on this weightloss, there's no point charting at this stage for me as I rarely have AF's and when I do I don't ovulate (unless the rare occassion when i do take clomid) so I guess we aren't actively TTC but still hoping for a miracle. Understandable you are feeling the way you are, isn't nice to feel like you are under scrutiny (sp?) all the time for people seeing if you are UTD, fingers crossed it won't be for much longer ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 12:39pm
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Ladybee I so feel your pain. ATM My boss is 8 days over due, one of my childhood buddies is pg with #3, my neighbour is due in a couple of weeks as is my DH cousin and 1 of my sisters besties is due nowish. And I found out that at christmas the whole family was speculating cause I was "grumpy", not drinking, and didn't go to a family dinner cause I wasn't feeling well (I had a wicked headache). VERY conclusive evidence........... not. I know it's cause they want it for me knowing how badly I want it but seriously people!!!
I'm happy for all of those who are expecting I just want my share of the fertility mojo. Fx for this month!!!!!!!!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 12:46pm
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wishin41 thanks! I'm planning to lose another 10 which will put me into my healthy weight range but it's slow going the last 3 weeks I've gained small amounts which have totalled 0.5kg. Part of me hopes it's pregnancy gain Silly right.
It's funny how you hold onto the smallest, craziest reason to hope. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 1:51pm
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Hope is the only thing that's kept me going lol, it's something you just can't kick!
Have you done anything different to result in the gains? ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 4:13pm
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(waves) Hi Sara, how have you been? Im on the weightloss journey too, lost 5.3kg since Dec 28th exactly Its a hard slog a!! We have two weeks to get a miracle bfp before we start IVF so Ive got everything crossed for us
sorry OT, lurking out now ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 4:20pm
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Sara nothing that I can think of, food had been good and exercise is consistantly lacking lol.
Appy nice to meet you good luck whatever happens. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: JaneW
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 4:25pm
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Hi Mrs MJD and everyone else!
What a great thread idea. I'm 26 and DH is 28, we have been together 8 years and married for 2, I almost felt like I was reading my own story when I read yours MrsMJD as I was ready to try for kids years ago but we waited until DH was ready to take the plunge, and of course thought it would be easy because we were young. We have been ttc since Feb 09, in Oct 09 we felt worried and thankfully had a GP who listened and we got all the tests done, DH's SA came back with dismal results, only 2million per ml and very low motility, we were both devastated and our GP referred us to a FS who we saw in January.We're now on the waiting list for ICSI which will start in Oct 2011, This was another blow for us as we hadn't expected the waiting list to be so long! The thing that guts me the most is that I never wanted to be someone to put having babies on hold for my career or anything, I always wanted to be a young mum, and we thought we were doing the right thing for us by starting early as we knew there were risks to starting a family later in life. And now I'm looking at another 20 months wait until we can at least even attempt to get pregnant with ICSI, I'll be 28 by then, 29 by the time I actually have a baby if we are successful, which I know is still young but it is so much older than what I wanted to be as a first time mum! And when I have told a few people that we have to wait to do ICSI I have had the 'oh well you're lucky you're still young' spiel which is so beside the point-it doesn't matter what age you are, infertility still sux! Whew that was a bit of a vent too sorry! Anyway it feels like it's been a rough few months finding all of this out and it's been hard to accept that we may possibly never concieve a baby the 'natural way', but we are now coming to terms with it and have decided to enjoy the next 20 months together and I'm trying not to get so hung up on the waiting game and the age thing! Look forward to chatting more with you all soon and reading about everyone's experiences! xxx |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 4:42pm
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Thanks for sharing your story Jane Your welcome to chat anytime
FX it is pregnancy weight MrsMJD ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 27 February 2010 at 5:24pm
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Hi MrsMJD, what a great thread idea its nice to know there are so many people out there in the same situation
This TTC stuff can be so stressfull! Like the rest of you I thought it was just happen straightaway as it has for many of my friends. I am 25 and my DH is 31 we have been married just over 1 year and started TTC in Oct 09 in cycle 5 at the moment. We know it is still early days but I just worry that something might be amiss so in couple more months we will go and get some tests done just so we know.. I am also trying to loose weight at the moment 4kg;s down I find that is really takes my mind off trying to conceive and makes me feel good about myself.....I am much more realxed this month than last month, I look it pretty hard when I got my AF.
Ladybee totally with you on the comments from friends I told one in confidence know they all know, I am off to a party tonight and wont be drinking and I just know what they will be thinking, its really hard to handle. The only thing worse than not being UTD is people thinking you are - also getting pressure from parents.......but we just have to hang in there as it will happen
I have a good friends who just had her 12 week scan and she has been trying for 5 years, so happy for her! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:01am
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Wow this is amazing, there are way more of us than I thought. and such similar but varied stories. Jane I can't believe you have to be on the waiting list that long!! I know that there are a lot of people needing help but it just seems so wrong.
Candybear I hope your journey is short. My boss had her baby yesterday and my sisters friend had hers late friday night. 2 healthy baby boy's. I'm so very happy for them both. My suspicious side hopes that they've freed up some fertility mojo for the rest of us lol. Another day of waiting for me, ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:31am
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Hey Jax!!!
Long time no chat! Yip it is a hard slog alright, but YAY to IVF in a couple of weeks... how exciting! You'll have to keep me updated Or maybe I need to do more lurking? lol.
I have absolutely everything crossed for you and congrats on losing over 5kgs!!
MrsMJD, maybe a couple of brisk walks will help budge those little gains and start the loss ball rolling? I'm doing the C25K and am loving it!! Found it's been great for my weight loss but also it has totally put me in the right headspace for my weight loss journey. Yay to two healthy boys, fingers crossed your suspicion about the fertility mojo is right! Hi Jane You are so right, infertility sucks no matter what age! I get the "at least you are young" line alot too...
And I think, we are SO lucky we started trying when we did. Where abouts in NZ are you? I've never heard of a waiting list being 20 mths long? I thought the 12-13mth wait we will have when I lose this weight is long enough! Although I was initially told it was 12-18 mths. Hi Candybear! Congrats to your friend on her pregnancy, how exciting for her! and yay for losing 4kgs, that's awesome
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Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 2:27pm
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Hi all, great to know there is others in my situation. Was starting to think it was just me that didn't get UTD first cyle. Seems everyone around me has.
I am 27, DH 28, married 12 months. TTC since Oct 09. I know it isn't that long in the big scheme of things, but my god it has felt like forever. AF arrived yesterday, another big sigh!! Nice to read everyones stories and have people going through the same thing as me. Keep posting ladies, and good luck!!! |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 2:29pm
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Yeah wishin41 it's totally about the exercise. I just need to "man-up" and go do it rather than finding lame-o excuses
The walking sounds like it's doing good things for you which is awesome!!! Not feeling great this arvo, super tired with a sore back and achy lower abdo which means AF might be on her way. Hoping it's just some overlap symptoms as tummy has been squiffy and (.)(.) are still sore. Might go have a nap. Hugs guys. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 4:20pm
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*put's hand up* I will have some of that fertility Mojo
MrsMJD, Napping, sore boobies, funny tummy Hmmmm sounding like some pretty good Pregnancy symptoms.....FX for you hun
Hi Shellz Grrr to AF
CandyBear, how was the party, get any funny looks..? wow so happy for your friend ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 4:32pm
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sounds good MrsMJD but I know how you feel - you dont want to get to exceited, but I have my fx for you
Lady Bee yip got quite a few stares leaving the party at 9pm but I am starting to get over it now. Its just so odvious as I used to be quite the animal and have done a total 360 in the past 6 months. They can think what they want Thanks everyone for sharing - it is so nice to know that there are people out there going thorugh the same thing. sorry to hear you just got your AF shellz, you have been trying for the same time as me, even though it is not that long it does not make getting your AF any easier  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 4:50pm
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LOL CB you have a great attitude
Your ticker says its OV day bet your busy tonight ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 6:54pm
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Well I think I ovulated on Thursday? I got a pretty dark opk (was not 100% sure though) as it was the first day I sarted testing then got negiative results the last two days......it was three days earier than last time is that normal? or does your ov date change each month? This is only my second month using opks..
But just to be safe we will def be busy tonight ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 7:06pm
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From your first positive OPK Ovulation should occur between 24 - 36 hrs some say as early as 12 hrs
and is best to BD the 3 days after OV just in case Do you get any other signs? eg OV pains, EWCM I think Ovulation day can change cycle to cycle, you may have a shorter cycle this time but Im not the best person to ask ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 7:58pm
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Thanks Ladybee, you know more than me
I dont get any ov signs that I have noticed so far but have done plenty of BD so hopefully we have it covered! I am thinking I might try charting next month so get a better idea of my cycle but its always 28/29 days but it would be nice to a better idea about my fertile days. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:19pm
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Hi ladies,
I'm new to this site so pretty inexperienced, lol. I am 28 and my DH is 38 and we have been married a year. For me, having a family was always something I wanted and a "dream" for me. I was always so scared that something would prevent me from achieving that dream so didn't want to leave it too late. |
Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 28 February 2010 at 10:23pm
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Ok, sorry message sent before I'd finished.
Anyway so we started trying in November last year (09) and to my absolute surprise (my periods have always been a bit weird) I got pregnant pretty much straight away. But (very) sadly wasn't mant to be :( Had 9 week scan and baby all good. Then 13 week scan we hoped to find out sex of baby and instead weyou gore told baby had died a week prior. Gutted. So...we start again. And the crazy thing is people say that I'll have no problem be because it happened fast first time. But to me it makes no difference - am still so scared it might not happen... |
Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 7:57am
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Hi Smiles,
Great to have you join in and so sorry for your mc that must be pretty tough I could not image having not gone through that myself...GL for this month I am sure it wil happen soon
There are loads of threads you can join in on - I am currenlty in the TWW thread, have my fx that this month it will happen! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: JaneW
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 9:57am
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Hey wishin41,
We are in Tauranga so are going through the hamilton clinic, initially they said to us it was a 14-16 month waiting list at our first appointment, and it was only about 2 weeks after that they sent us the letter saying it was 20 months! I would have thought they would have given us the worst case scenario first, so I was actually thinking ooh maybe it will only be a year or something. Needless to say we were not happy, but getting used to the idea now and are looking into buying our first house just so we have another focus in our lives, otherwise I'm gonna go crazy! I do wonder though....if you just get put at the end of the list or if they bump you up depending on your age, fertility level etc. The unfair thing if that was the case is that we are both healthy and ready to do ICSI, and we have a problem that isn't fixable and our chances of falling pregnant naturally are less than 5%! Smiles so sorry to hear of your miscarriage, that must have been so devastating, hope you get your BFP soon hun. Shellz_10, I so understand you saying it seems like everyone around you gets pregnant first cycle! I think that is the hard thing about ttc when you are younger, so many friends around you do seem to get utd super quick!I had about 3 friends all pregnant within weeks of one another, we had all started ttc around the same time, they have all had their babies now! But don't worry there are perfectly healthy people out there who it just takes a little longer too, a girl I worked with was ttc for a year for her first baby, and then fell pregnant in her first cycle for her second so you just never know really ay! Candybear that is so great about your friend, 5 years is a long time! Comments from friends and family do make it tricky sometimes, can't a girl have a sober night without all the pregnancy comments? It definitely makes you a lot more sensitive to other people who might be ttc, I know I'm always careful not to make comments now that people used to say to me and it would drive me nuts! Examples being....'oh well at least you get to have fun trying, I didn't even get that chance, I got pregnant first go!', and 'it'll happen, you just have to forget about it, that's what my friend did...' Anyone else have well meaning advice and comments given to you that drives you nuts? |
Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 10:19am
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How tough for you Jane... I can't believe your wait! That's good you can focus on buying a house! How exciting!
As far as I know, it's a first on first served situation with the waiting list. ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 10:54am
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Wow this thread has really taken off over the weekend. Was feeling a little exposed for a while there with only 4 posts and 100 views.
Always nice to know you aren't the only one struggling through this TTC journey. Jane what a crazy long wait for you, good thinking to shift your focus while you wait it out. Smiles big hugs to you, I know how much of a shock that is make sure you look after yourself and don't be afraid to grieve your loss, the biggest mistake I made was trying to bottle it all up. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:58pm
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I'm blown away by you all! What an amazing bunch of strong women to be sharing this journey with!! I'm still waiting....dum dee do. Other than tired there's nothing much going on which is a good thing (no AF) and a bad thing (no classical pregnancy symptoms). Have decided to test on Thursday. It's so in Gods hands now. Jane my heart goes out to you
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 8:08pm
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Hi Smiles, love your username Lol makes me smile
Jane - yay for looking into buying your first home, its so much fun buying things for your new home etc GL, I hope you find the perfect one. Dh is a builder so everyone elses homes are built apart from our own The plan is for a 2012 build so FX we stick to it
edited beause I re read your post MrsMJD and It answered my question lol ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 9:46pm
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Everyone on here is so lovely :) Thanks for your comments!
What I've realised from what I've been through is that everyone has their own story and experience with regard to pregnancy...and although there are many different issues that can arise, every issue is significant to the person going through it. Whether it be not being able to conceive, or having miscarriages..it's all hard...it all hurts. I thought I was so blessed when I got pregnant straight away. But nothing (and I mean nothing) can prepare you for that moment when you have your 13 week ultrasound, hoping to find out whether it's a boy or a girl...and the person doing the ultrasound says "we're going to have to be philosophical about this" and tells you that despite hearing/seeing a heartbeat 3 weeks prior, your baby has died. One of the hardest things I think I've ever been told - sobbed my heart out. Thought I'd never stop crying...but I did...and each day got easier. And I'm still determined to try again, be positive and optimistic that one day I'll have a "healthy" baby. For everyone out there who is going through their own sad pregnancy (or non pregnancy) story, my heart goes out to you. It's tough, it really is. But the best thing is the love and support from people around you and people on websites like this...it's just so lovely people can come together and share their stories and support each other in our journey to become mums. :) |
Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 8:51pm
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Hi all, just wanting some feedback on charting? I did it for the first 5 cycles but then figured if we were doing "it" every 2nd or 3rd day surely we wouldn't miss OD. Also how do you get the "tickers" along the bottom of the posts?
(Spot the new kid!)
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 8:58pm
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HI Shellz
Just click on someones ticker you like or google tickers, make one up and copy the BB code or the code with [IMG] at the start. Up the top of the page is "profile" button click and add your ticker in the box, press preview ticker to check it worked is so click save and it should appear after every post. make sure you tick the show signature box above post reply
Hope that helps ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 9:13pm
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Hi everyone,
I'm quietly starting to get excited now but an determined not to test till thursday, only day until the weekend I'm at home. Don't want to test at work. Not sure how I'm feeling or if what I'm feeling is pg symptoms. Thats one hard thing about TTC#1 you have no reference point. I know every pregnancy is different but after your first you can at least say things like "I felt similar to this last time it's looking good" or "Not getting hopes up doesn't feel like last time" Anyways I'm off to bed. Hugs to all. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 9:16pm
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FX MrsMJD ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 10:06pm
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oh exciting MrsMJD have all my fingers crossed.........sorry shelzz I have no idea about charting - i have used opk's but am going for the BD'ing every second day approach next month ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 3:42pm
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Hey ladies...
Im 26 and DH 31 and we are TTC #1 again. My journey is similar to didi’s…I can’t remember when I came off the BCP it may have been end of 07 beg 08. Got pg Sept '08 but unfortunately found out at our 12week scan bubs had died at 9weeks. We were absolutely devastated!!! Took us sometime to get back on the wagon with getting my body back to some normality and we are currently on our 7th cycle TTC. Just last month had CD21 bloods and Im ov which I was so happy about as had been temping for a couple of months and it didn’t look like I had been. Fx I keep ov from now on! Got to get DH tested and then we can get referred on the fertility associates. Im also on the weighloss journey, MrsMJD well done on the 20kg loss! How did you do it? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 3:52pm
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So after my super determined post last night I caved to peer pressure (the girls at work are FAB) and tested this morning. BFN using a quickcard. No AF either. So still waiting... waiting. If AF arrives (I still hope not) I'm going to start charting as well as using OPK's. It can't hurt right.
Thanks for all the positive thoughts. Smiles that must have been so hard for you, thank you for reminding me how lucky I have been to not experience something like that (touch wood), it hurts me that you had to though. I met my Bosses new baby today (just 4 days old) he's just beautiful. I got to have cuddles! The emotions that went with that were so weird, such joy for them and a niggly sadness/disapointment that I'm not there yet. I know it's silly and that my time will come but I guess that BFN knocked me this morning and I'm feeling quite out to sea with my emotions. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 3:56pm
 to AF MrsMJD mine did the couple of days late trick this month too, so miserable getting your hopes up like that.------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 4:07pm
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No AF didi just a BFN shes still in the running
MrsM you should try a discover test they are way more sensitive than quickcards ( around 20 for 2 tests tho so they are expensive ) Wantabub, nice to see you here ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 4:16pm
Hi Shellz, from what I gather with charting and this is my only 2 month doing it, is that charting detects ovulation AFTER you have ovulated and can predict pregnancy with sustained high temps. It gives you a good indercation on how your cycles are and your LP etc I really like charting, it has given me a good overall look at my cycle
If you want to bd every seccond day do OPK s once they are positive do it everyday for 3 days to be sure. ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 4:16pm
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If no AF by the weekend I'll test again I couldn't do the daily thing I think I'd go crazy lol.
Hi ya wantabub, sorry to hear about your loss, it's nice to see you here. FX for this month!!! I'm doing weight watchers and love it, I want to be a leader once I make it to lifetime membership. |
Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 4:34pm
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Wow good on you MrsMJD, I was thinking of giving it another go but my give myself a couple of months to do it on my own otherwise I'll give WW another go! Thats an awesome goal to work towards being a leader! When I was going to a WW meetings we had an old lady but she wasn't very good. Im hoping losing some weight will help us with TTC. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 9:11pm
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Thanks LadyBee, wow, amazed at all the "tickers" available and the fact that there is even such a thing!
Thanks ladies for the feedback on charting. Its good to hear the thoughts of others who are going through the same frustrations as me. I never would have thought that ttc was such an involved complicated and tough journey. You are all such a positive bunch of people!! For those that do chart and use FF, what does it cost for a VIP membership? FX MrsMJD ------------- Baby #1 13 months in the making! http://lilypie.com"> 
I http://daisypath.com"> 
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 03 March 2010 at 9:39pm
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Its not much but I dont use it....I think its $45us for a year.....? Once you join you get a months free trial of VIP then it will give you the chance to pay for it or use the free basic version
Free is all good ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 9:42am
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I use the VIP, I think it cost around $25NZD for 3months! I really like the VIP But hopefully thats the last time I need to buy it ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Tinkerbelle83
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 7:21pm
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Hi girls
Just found this thread and there are so many stories like mine! I'm 26 and DH is 27. Met when we were 23 & 24 and we talked about babies straight away (he also has a son, nearly 5) and he pretty much pestered me all the time to start having kids :) I wanted to do the traditional thing and wait till we were married. So, just before the wedding in Nov 08 I went off the Depo injection and AF came in March 09. Decided to wait until July 09 though as we went overseas for 6 weeks. So... we finally started trying July 09. Found out I was pg in Sept 09 but unfortunately MC at 8 weeks in Oct. Started trying again and got pg on next cycle after MC. Found out I MC again at 12 weeks (this was just a month ago and a missed MC). Was devastated after losing second bubs but keeping positive and AF just arrived yesterday 3.5 weeks after D&C. fx for this cycle but MC's really take the innocence out of being pg so I know I'll worry the whole time :( Like everyone else, we thought it would be easy because we are young, and I'm starting to hate the saying "at least you're young". It's so disheartening when there are pg people around you. My younger sis (23) had an unplanned pg with her first when she was 19 and just had her second. Then her partner said the other day that they had a bit of a scare and thought they were pg again!! I love my nieces to bits but just want one of my own. Good luck to everyone and it's nice to share experiences and know we're not alone :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 8:02pm
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Welcome Tinkerbelle (love the name).
I can't even begin to imagine the pain you have been through. Fingers crossed for this time. As for me I'm still a waiting. |
Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 5:14pm
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Welcome Tinkerbelle, so sorry to hear you’ve been though a tough time. (((Hugs))) to you!
Yeah I hate the 'oh your young' ... so what????? It suppose to make you feel better, I don't think so! It totally sucks that the innocence has been taken out of being pg and I know I'll be super paranoid next time. I hope you get your healthy and super sticky BFP real soon. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 5:17pm
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Hi everyone, nice to see all of you under 30s on here
Im in a bit of limbo too MrsMJD, I had spotting for 4 days last week but certainly not a proper period. Test yesterday BFN. I have no idea where I am at at all Going to see the doc soon (AGAIN) after I test next week if its negative, I have been through tests for PCOS before and they said I didn't have it but my cycle is screwed. Sigh. Clearly being young doesnt make that much of a difference lol ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 8:53pm
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I continue to wait. I know my GP wont BT unless I've been 6 weeks since my LMP (I know because it happened once before and AF arrived 5 weeks and 6days ) .
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 11:29pm
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FX AF doesn't show MrsMJD!!!
and from what everyone has told me , quickcards are great for false negatives, so don't let your BFN get you down too much (tho I know thats hard when all your hoping for is to see that second line come up ) (ps ,as for pg symptoms, with C I had none what so ever, I just noticed one day that my AF was 2 weeks late, and with Ty I had all the symptoms before AF was due ) ------------- 
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Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 06 March 2010 at 10:20am
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Hi girls,
MrsMJD, discover tests are a god way to go...when I got pregnant in Nov last year (the unsuccessful one) I used Discover at 26 days and very quickly the 2nd line came up, where as I had also used a Clear Blue test which had come up negative. Anyway, I found pregnancy symptoms were just like PMT symptoms so it's hard to tell. But I found the real pregnancy symptoms didn't kick in until 6 weeks which is when I started feeling nauseous and incredibly tired. 3 1/2 weeks after D&C now. Going to Obstetrician in a week and a half too hopefully get some answers and also when I can start TTC again....for now I wait for AF. |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 06 March 2010 at 8:32pm
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Smiles I hope your appointment goes well and you can start TTC soon
MrsMJD Have you tested yet? ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 07 March 2010 at 5:16pm
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No I haven't. I tried the distraction thing and went to the cricket yesterday, had some crampyness in the morning made me think AF was coming but then it went away and no AF. Will test again tomorrow morning which will be CD 36.
I'm actually scared to test cause what if it's negative again, just the thought has me tearing up. Smiles hope all goes well with the specialist. Thanks for the positive encouragement everyone it means heaps!! |
Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 07 March 2010 at 6:21pm
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Hope everyone has had a good weekend and TTC hasn't taken over completely!!!
Thanks for the feedback on FF price. I joined FF when I first started charting in OCT 09 and got the VIP trial. Found it really good, but also found I spent more time trying to read my chart for UTD signs than anything else!! This will be my 2nd cycle not charting but may re-consider if no luck this time. Now that AF has gone (and hopefully not to be seen again for um lets say.....9 months), back to the BDing for me and DH. DH had BT and ST done on Wed so now waiting to get results back. I had BT done a couple of cycles ago to confirm OV was actaully happening. All good there. I have read so much on TTC over the last few months as have many of you I can imagine. You read one thing, then something else tells you the opposite to what you have just read. Like TTC needs to be anymore confusing.  One thing I would like to know is: Is the quality of sperm actually affected by the frequency of BDing?
We have been doing it every 2nd day, but some info says to do it everyday around OV. Dr said to only do it 2 or 3 times a week? Who/What do you believe? FX for all those waiting for BFP esp Mrs MJD. ------------- Baby #1 13 months in the making! http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:08am
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MrsMJD, I have to say the crampyness sounds like a good sign...because that's what I got. Was sure I was getting AF but never arrived. Also had lower back pain which was unusual - anyway GOOD LUCK!
shellz_10, in my opinion doing it every 2nd day is great - you're giving yourself the best chance to conceive. sperm should be released at least once every 5 days to ensure the quality is good. So if you're doing it every 2-3 days there will still be enough time for the sperm to "replenish". Definitely not every day though - sperm would be affected then. Hope that helps :) |
Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:11am
| By the way, hope this isn't too much info but I am happy because I am 99% sure I ovulated on the weekend! Whilst we are not currently TTC because of doctor's recommendations to wait one cycle after miscarriage, at least it means that my body is regulating itself again and so this time next month DH and I can start TTC - woohoo! :) |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 10:17am
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Smiles that is great news!!! Shellz I'm sure every 2nd day is fine, really thats only about 3-4 times a week. As for me I tested again this morning (using a quickcard cause thats what we've got at work) and BFN. So I'm stuck in limbo land awaiting AF or another excuse to test. How is everyone else? |
Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 3:50pm
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Hi all!
Been MIA for a bit
Shellz - I was told by my gynae and spec that every second day is best and sperm gets to it's maximum count at 4-5 days of witholding (thats why sperm analysis samples are done after this time), anything after the 4-5 days the sperm isn't as good quality ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 4:52pm
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Hi Wishin41 Feel free to come and go as you want. I can understand why it would be hard to be around some times. Today is a desginated no test day. I refuse to test today because if the damn thing was seriously negative yesterday how would 24hrs make any difference?!!??! No AF today so I'm just going to pretend like nothing at all is going on (hahaha yeah right, I'm going to get bruises on my boobs from poking them to see if they are tender! How is everyone else? |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 6:29pm
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Hi Wishing41
MrsMJD Whenever you post Im running to check to see if you have tested LOL Im hanging out here ....you need to test with a discover ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 6:30pm
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Hi all
i am thrilled someone has started this thread...I too want to scream when someone says oh but you still have heaps of time!...Im 28 and DH 30, been married for almost 1 year and also off BCP almost one year (was planning jul 09 but messed it up on honeymoon with time difference!!!) I am a shift worker so havent been able to try every cycle but have had 7 2WW's so far...currently using all my self control not to test as am CD25 of 29 I dont chart but AF and ovulation have been exactly at the same intervals for 10 months so feel confident when to BD... I guess my main issue is that I am overweight and have struggled with it for 15 years...I am loosing (well in the last 5 weeks) but have a long way to go...does anyone know how being overweight affects conceiving?? |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 7:26pm
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Hey sandie!!
Thanks for posting here with us, it is tough, no-one likes to feel patronised even if it wasn't intended that way. I used to do shift work then Hubby said on our honeymoon he didn't want to have kids while I was doing 12hr shifts he thought it would make me really sick. So 2 months later I had a new job lol. Ladybee you can go back to what you were doing I have nothing new for you lol. Will stop on the way home TOMORROW for a NON-quickcard test... unless AF decides to arrive, it's like this niggly dread I have that she's just tormenting me . Positivity and remembered disappointment are taking turns on me today lol
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 10:56am
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Sadly I was right and AF turned up this morning. So bummed I was really beginning to think this was the month. |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 11:40am
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Dam MrsMJD sorry hun, grrr AF get the drift We dont want you here!
You can have a December baby with me ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 1:02pm
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Sorry to hear AF has shown up MrsMJD. I'm sure everyone here knows how you are feeling.
As LadyBee said "You can have a December baby with me". Thanks to all the responses to my "sperm" question. You really do read/hear so many different things, it's so hard to know what to believe. I have bought some OPK off the net and am waiting for them to arrive. Haven't tried them before, so FX the are the answer for us!!! Hope everyone is well and baby dust to all. ------------- Baby #1 13 months in the making! http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 2:19pm
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I hate that Dam AF mrs MJD, hang in there I am sure your turn is just around the corner!!
As for me 4 days until testing but not feeling the slightest bit UTD (not that I know what the feels like) but we will see ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 3:14pm
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Sorry AF has been playing games with you MrsMJD she can be such a b**ch like that sometimes, lets hope December will be the magic month for all.
FX for a BFP in 4 days for you CandyBear. shellz I am about to try OPK for the first time too, kind of exciting I think I should be doing my first one today will have to wait till I get home though as I completely forgot this morning. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 4:09pm
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Ah that sucks MrsMJD spoil yourself with something nice... doesn't the witch no shes not wanted!!!! Yay lets all hope for lots of Dec bub...
Fx for a BFP for you CandyBear!!!! We need someone in this group to get a BFP this month
I luv OPKs, I just did one this afternoon but I think I didn't stop drinking early enough... Fx ov isn't to far away. Im hoping I ov early like last month, earlier than that would be even better  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 9:44pm
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damn AF...now we know why it was called the curse!!! im hoping NOT to see mine in the next few days...
FX for a xmas baby Mrs MJD. FX for BFP CandyBear!! I dont know anything about OPK's...is that when you have to take your temp at the same time each day?? or am I thinking about something else?? Im really clueless huh?
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Posted By: CandyBear
Date Posted: 10 March 2010 at 9:56pm
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Thanks Sandie,
OPK's are just things you pee on that tell you when you are about to ovulate - once you get a postive it means you will over in the next 20 hours or so - so you can time your bed'in
I have used them for a couple of months but having a break next month ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 11 March 2010 at 8:18am
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Thanks guys you are all so awesome.
I find that when AF arrives I have one really gutted day and then I'm ok. I think cause I get my hopes so high that the crash back down is nasty. Candbear and Smiles good luck for this month, fx'd for you both. I have to order some more OPK's I didn't want to get any before in case I was UTD. Plus I'm trying charting this month cause I've never gotten a strong positive on the OPK's (proably cause I drink a lot of water) so kind of want a back-up confirmation the I have actually ovulated! The December baby thing is a hard one for me. See I have always vowed I would do whatever possible NOT to have a Decemer baby. I'm a December baby, so is my DH and my Mum....... and 1 of my uncles.....and an aunt.... plus a cousin and not forgetting My sisters wedding anniversay! But now I'm thinking I don't care about all of that and just want to be UTD, well I think we'll try and see what happens. Totally in God's hands anyway. |
Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 11 March 2010 at 10:04am
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I know how you feel MrsMJD it seems everyone in my family is born around Dec (except for me). I also didn't really want to be heavily preg in the peak of summer but figured that would mean I would have to stop trying for 4 months and that is just unthinkable for me at this point, I guess what will be will be.
Mrs MJD what time of the day do you do your OPK's? I drink a tonne of water too and have been trying to figure out if I would be better doing them with FMU although I see alot of info tells you to do them in the afternoon. So confusing ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: KelzF09
Date Posted: 11 March 2010 at 10:40am
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with opk's it is best to refrain from drinking and eating at least 2 hours prior to testing with the OPK ------------- Proud Mum of Ella 3yrs and Noah 20months http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 11 March 2010 at 11:27am
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Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 12 March 2010 at 9:11pm
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So, another week over. Gee this year is going so fast.
Have used OPK the last 2 days, but nothing has shown up yet. Kinda what I expected as not due to OV til Monday. DH got SA results back, not as good as we were hoping. A bit lower than the average count, which is a little dissapointing. The Dr isn't worried at this stage and said to keep "at it" for another few months before he will look into it further. Does anyone have any issues with low sperm counts etc? As for the whole Decemeber/January baby thing, I'm the same and have always thought I wouldn't like to be heavily pregnant etc at that time of year. But now that we are still trying, there is no way we are going to stop just cos of bad timing. I'm going to drop the old cliche in hear and say......."What will be, will be". Hope everyone has an enjoyable weekend ------------- Baby #1 13 months in the making! http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 12 March 2010 at 9:34pm
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well damn AF turned up yesterday...not that much of a surprise though cos I dont think we BDed on the right day last month...
so I have bought some OPK's to get it right this time...going to be interesting as I need to start using them next week when my shift starts at 1330... best news is should be OVing on our 1st wedding anniversary!!! hope everyone has a good weekend...the only plus of AF showing up is that I can drink 2moro at my cousins hens nite, and next week at the wedding!!! |
Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 12 March 2010 at 10:36pm
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didi its not a good idea to use FMUas LH is synthesized in your body early in the morning and will not appear in your urine until the afternoon. I think the best time to test is 2pm.
MrsMJD thats the hardest part about OPKs as I drink lots of water... 2 hrs is ages! Shellz we haven't had DH tested yet but I have heard from a couple of people that Menvit is very good... DHs birthday is in Dec but he said he wouldn't mind sharing his birthday, we couldn't not try for a month. Well take any month we just want out BFP NOW!
Hope everyone has a great weekend... fx this horrible cold weather clears! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 13 March 2010 at 8:37am
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Hi ladies,
Can I join you in here? I am 29 (DH 31) and we are about to start TTC #1. I so totally relate to everything you've been saying about TTC frustrations and the age thing
I just started taking folic acid and Vitex this week (I have a short luteal phase) having had my IUS taken out. Am also trying to lose some weight but struggling at the moment. I am very excited to start TTC but also scared we will have problems. Practically everyone we know has had fertility problems recently. I think we have some potential issues but am staying positive right now. My DH had testicular surgery as a teen and may be firing on one cylinder. We did a home SA kit and he came out top notch (I know it might not be the most reliable thing but there were two tests in the kit and both came out great so we're being positive). I have had some gynae. problems and they thought I had endometriosis but when they did a lap. they found none - weird, they still think I'm textbook endo so it was all a bit confusing! I do have some congential abnormalities - mostly weird vascularisation on my pelvic wall. They couldn't find anything which would suggest I'd have obvious problems conceiving but did note that anything 'odd' could be problematic. I was charting my cycle to track my gynae symptoms so I know that I was ovulating so we just hope everything will be ok. Look forward to chatting with you all in here. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 13 March 2010 at 3:22pm
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Hi everyone, if ok I might join in here too? I'm 29, my DF is 37 and we get married 4 weeks today! So that's our main focus right now, but I am coming off BCP after honeymoon and then will hopefully have my cycles return to normal. Haven't been on it for years and years, so hoping its not going to be a long process!
It seriously seems like wherever I turn right now, another woman I know gets pregnant or has a baby! Its awesome of course, however I find myself secretly hoping we'll be soon! In saying that, I do understand that it doesn't always happen quickly, so we are quite realistic about that. I really love reading about other people's TTC journeys, and really hope we all get our BFP's very very soon!
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 13 March 2010 at 6:28pm
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Hi Ladies of course you are welcome!!!!
Brizzle it must be worrying not knowing if you are going to have problems or not esp with your history, Fx you get UTD easily. Smill13 Good Luck for your wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How exciting. We had our 1st wedding anniversary in Feb so I remember what it's like to be 4 weeks away. Sandie stink about AF. Hope she takes the hint next month lol. Well we know what Shellz will be up to this week. Fx it's worth the effort lol ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 9:42am
Bugger!! wish I'd looked on here a couple of days ago, as that may explain why all of my OPK's were -ve. Stupid instructions said anytime of the day was fine and I figured it was easier to test at home than at work. CD13&14 where darker than the other days (although still not as dark as the control) so maybe I can assume I must of ov around then?? Aaaahhhhh so grumpy really was just doing OPK's to confirm when I think I ov and now I've just confused myself ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:55am
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Sorry didi, I have also read you can test anywhere between 10am-8pm but some people test again at 10pm just to try catch that surge. Also try to test at the same time every day. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 11:10am
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Oh well I guess I can just try again next month or hopefully I wont need to try again as we did do heaps of BDing this weekend and I am sure I ov yesterday. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 4:59pm
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Thanks MrsJMcD - I feel really weird about our 'situation'. On the one hand, everything could be fine but it could also really not be. I hate not knowing about stuff so this is really hard for me. Am trying to be positive about things as I'm sure that will help!
Good tips on the OPKs - they are tricky things. It is hard not to drink for 2 hours beforehand but I guess it's only for a few days each month! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: shellz_10
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 8:33pm
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Hi ladies, hope everyone has had a good weekend.
Good to get some feedback on the OPK's. I have been using them since Thurs and had no sign of OV until yesterday when the second line came up, wasn't as dark as the control line but was very clear, today-Nothing? Any ideas ladies? Does this mean, I would of OV yesterday, or is that not possible as it wasn't a defenite as positive? Gee the TTC is confusing. Who is waiting to test? ------------- Baby #1 13 months in the making! http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LJsmum
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 8:58pm
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Hi guys, just lurking ,,,,,,
wanted to say we were TTC for over 4 years and then fell pregnant with DS1 when i didn't expect it had actually stopped trying and statred the whole adoption process going. I was 27 DH 30. During the process of TTC we had all the same stuff of being young and healthy and it should be happening it got so hard and frustrating. We didn't tell people we were TTC, i just said we are saving to buy a house or travel first. close family knew though. With DS2 it took 6 months of TTC, with the help of my naturolpath. Was annoyed at people older who can get pregnant after one cycle. WHAT! this happened to my sisiter and she's 37!!! I wanted to post in here, becasue i know how damn frustrating and annoying it is when people say "chill, relax it will happen, take a break from it" BUT you know what we did. My stress levels reduced and i din't even think about babies at all. It worked! to everyone, thinking of you all.-------------  
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Posted By: Smiles
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 9:11pm
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Hi shellz_10,
I feel your pain re OPK tests. I'm not sure I completely understand either - I thought that if the line was lighter or non existent then you're not ovulating. However, if it's the same colour or darker then you are. But then I read that if you test and there's a lighter line in the test line then you should test again that day to see if the line darkens. If you don't test again and test the next day there's nothing then potentially you could have missed the ovulation signal...apparently the time frame can be quite small and can be missed. Hope this helps! :) |
Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 16 March 2010 at 7:12am
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Hey Smiles, that's what I thought too! I think the amount of water you've drunk can affect it though so if you want to be sure, maybe reduce water intake before doing the test?
As for me, I'm going to moan - had my Mirena IUS out two weeks ago now and am still spotting, gggrrrrrrrrr! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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