Stealing what would u do?
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Topic: Stealing what would u do?
Posted By: LouD
Subject: Stealing what would u do?
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 3:08pm
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Ok my son is 5yrs old, not far off 6. He came home carrying a bakugan toy which i knew wasnt his. I asked where he got it from and after some pushing on my part got the whole truth out that he went into a boys bag while he was swimming and helped himself to this toy cos he didnt have one and wanted one.
what we did 1. we made him return the toy (the boy lives over the road) and apologise and explain when he took the toy etc 2. we explained to him about stealing and law and jail etc and then made him go away and think about what his punishment could be 3. he came up with no tv for a week which i thought was good cos hes forever watching motorbike dvds or cartoon network so would be a good one to cement home daily why hes not watching it Then 3 days later, i find him with his pockets full of another friends boys cars and he had no intention of putting them back before we left...........arrgghhhh So now he has had all his hotwheel cars taken off him for a week.............and have told him the next time he will be going to the policestation to have a talk about stealing and what police do if people steal etc.......... What else could i have done, could i have done it differenlty?? |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 3:22pm
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i would - and have done - the taking the toy back bit and explaining how it is wrong and called stealing...
the second instance may not have been a case of stealing though. remember they dont think the same as adults yet and to him it may have been a case of just not putting them back as opposed to a sneaky case of taking them for his own pleasure IYGWIM. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 February 2010 at 4:32pm
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I tell Jake stories at night - try and make them vaguely moralistic if he is having trouble gasping a concept.
What about telling him about "bob" who has some neat toys - but not many. and he loves the toys. and then someone took them, and he was sad cause he had no toys. Happy ending the thief brought them back and he was forgiven. something like that. perhaps trying to get him to think about the other kid - this will be difficult thgough as they ar typical pretty egotistical at this age |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 11:43am
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this is extreme but i use to work store security and a mother came up and told me to watch her son...i caught him on camra pocketing something ....(mother wanted to scare him) so we did wat we normally do with shop lifters....escorted him upstairs took his pic filled in trespas forms and read it to him then asked him questions .....he denied it so we kept pushing and showed him the film.........he started crying and (lucky we are friends with police) called one to take him down in cop car and show him the cell and finger printed him...........after he had left i had to get fresh air as i nearly cried myself........mother came back and said he was telling his mates not to take anything cause that is what happened and he has been good since.......i would do the same with my boy if he did it........but like i said it is extreme and i would do what you did first...my boy gives his toys to random kids so im trying to stop that lol.......good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 12:41pm
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tysmummy thats super extreme and i personally would never do that. when they are young they dont understand the concept of stealing or even mine and yours... they just think everything is there for them. and at five to most kids its not a case of stealing but more they dont get that they cant have everything they want. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 12:48pm
yo9u have a point Bizzy and i did say it was extreme but my boy at 2 knows the difference well and every kid is different so wat works for one is not good for another...........and at 6 i would diffently hope my boy would be able to comprehend...............but like i said i would try chickielous option first and other options........and wat ever works...........i would rather do extreme then my kid ending up in jail ..........my opionion  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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